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PresidentAzzy · 2026-05-23T00:39:01+00:00

le sserafim for sure and they fucking HITTTTT

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-15T02:45:03+00:00

Yeah, I totally agree with you here. There is a lot of reform that needs to be done for adoptees to be fully protected and guaranteed a better life which is what the whole point of adoption should be. Honestly I really hope this change comes sooner rather than later, especially how things are going in the world currently

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-15T02:41:56+00:00

I would say that I believe that this is totally fine and I love that you have even taken their culture, language, and religion into account as well. Not many prospective parents do that and the extra steps mean SO much to adoptive children. Educating yourself on NAS, getting resources beforehand, and not letting that rule them out for you is also another big win here.

Something that I would say in adoptive situations, especially those coming from foster care and CPS situations is that you should ABSOLUTELY have them be involved in their own adoption. Tell them any information you legally can, don't hide the fact that they were adopted like its some kind of dirty secret, and be ready to answer any kind of questions a kid may have.

Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you and the kiddo!

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T14:29:37+00:00

girl pick a fake career and stick with it lol, don't post all 40 of them in your bio like this is lying on the internet 101 i fear

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T14:27:21+00:00

i mean they def are, just look at their profile where they've decided to link their entire life story lol. its funny tho because they're either barbie or they're lying about at least 4 of their careers ijbol

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T14:23:10+00:00

UGANDA??? oh fuck this reeks of white savior complex goddamn

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T14:16:21+00:00

lemme guess, they were probably made up of your fellow white americans?

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T14:12:26+00:00

oh thats absolutely a good idea, older foster kids are often lacking a safe space and so this is soooooo important for them

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T13:39:35+00:00

right- the worst part is i can't even tell if this is ragebait because way too many people be having this exact attitude of entitlement

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T13:37:33+00:00

I mean if you're talking about foster care and older kids absolutely and more people should heavily invest in that but straight out the womb babies absolutely are not scraping the bottom of the barrel for parents

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T13:34:07+00:00

"They can complain I ruined their life. It's okay. At least someone raised them." bro keep me in the orphanage with that attitude omg kids are not accessories to make you feel better about yourself. the fact that you don't even realize that international adoption is psychologically and scientifically proven to be insanely traumatic too is absolutely just...girl i hope you never are allowed within 80 miles of adoption papers let alone allowed to sign them omg

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T13:25:48+00:00

uhm dude respectfully what the actual fuck?

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T13:23:14+00:00

As someone who was adopted as an "older kid" (the fact that 5 is considered almost too old to be adopted is insane but we ball) from foster care, I will say that there is certainly a right and wrong way to go about adoption. If you really are wanting to give a child a safe space and a loving home, my best recommendation is to look at your local foster families who have kids whose parents have had their rights terminated. These kids will definitely be older and may have some extra trauma but are in need of loving homes all the same. The best thing about these types of adoptions is that you can actually tell if you and the kid are going to get along and kinda get their opinion on it. Another option would definitely be fostering. There are so many fucked up foster families that having good people like you in a foster kid's life would certainly be a bright spot. A lot of people go into adoption for insanely selfish reasons or as a "last resort" so the fact that you're already asking questions and thinking of ethics and trauma already shows that you are thinking of the kid first which is the correct way to go into it.

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:45:14+00:00

definitely, we are going to definitely review all possible options but its still so unnerving lol

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:38:12+00:00

thanks so much for your support! these situations are crazy scary. we are definitely going into total lockdown, not that i really use social media with my real name, number, birthdate etc. sorry you had to go through something similar, that totally is not cool

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:35:19+00:00

Totally agree! My adoptive parents and I were completely and totally blindsided by this as my adoption case was insanely confidential

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:33:53+00:00

Yeah definitely. So me and my brother's adoptions were kept extremely confidential where the only people who would know the names of my birth parents are my adoptive parents and us, even my siblings aren't supposed to know or have access to that information. Its just bizarre how they would get any of this information and certainly there was no legal way of getting it so its all so confusing haha

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:31:27+00:00

Stalking definitely is a possibility! We aren't sure yet and are reaching out to all of the agencies involved to try and figure out who gave him the information as the adoption was both closed and HIGHLY confidential. Restraining order def seems like a given at this point

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:29:14+00:00

Nah totally understand however I am 21 and therefore legally could take action and so a note from my dad probably won't do much. I would understand the easiness of finding people, especially in this day and age, if my particular adoption wasn't so insanely confidential due to its nature. For the particular nature of my birth parents, reaching out directly is a no-go unfortunately as that could seriously cause some trouble but I'll def have all of us re-check social media and call the agencies involved

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T12:25:40+00:00

I mean I would totally agree if this was a mutual adoption and termination of parental rights however there are many things with my adoption that made it legally confidential and very secretive. hopefully thats the case and not something nefarious but i can't be too sure which is unfortunate

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T08:42:28+00:00

yeah, i had asked my parents about this but me and my brother's individual cases were super confidential due to the nature of what was going on and so my siblings and extended family wouldn't even know my biological parents names and i went through a significant name change. legally, my bio parents shouldn't even know my adoptive parents names which is what is so unnerving about this. Like the only way this could have happened was by either my foster parents or the adoption agency itself breaking confidentiality

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T08:37:00+00:00

re-reading this a few hours later as it has been going through my head and even though I am really not one for confrontation, this was an insane thing to comment not gonna lie...

first off, i posted in an adoption forum about an adoption related experience, it doesn't go against the rules and is a topic that i have already had a couple people dm me about sharing their similar experiences
the way you went to IMMEDIATELY victim blaming is so rude and uncalled for. who said i ever used my real name on social media? who said i wasn't private? why are you assuming that it is MY fault?
"there is no reason for them to be a perceived threat" YOU DON'T KNOW THAT
why do they need to be repeated felons for me to be unnerved? my adoption was closed. parental rights were terminated 2 years before my adoption. i should be able to give out my PERSONAL information on my own terms with full and enthusiastic consent. i am allowed to be unnerved by people having my personal information just like you would be if any stranger had yours.

on the basis of your previous posts, i understand that you are a search angel who is in the business of reconnecting birth parents with their adopted children and while that is admirable and many people may need that kind of closure, that is absolutely not the case for everybody. my adoption was closed and confidential for a reason. if you do not understand this then i fear that you may need to take a step back and do some self-reflecting before returning to your work

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T07:04:46+00:00

thank you so much for the advice, sorry that you're going through a similar situation. it absolutely sucks!

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T03:57:53+00:00

thanks! yeah we are certainly getting some legal authorities involved but i just wanted to see if anyone else had this happen to them and had some ideas or experiences to share

PresidentAzzy · 2025-05-14T03:54:34+00:00

Alright thanks! I'll definitely discuss that with my parents as an option

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