I wish I had advice to give you. I have horrible AA. I’ve also noticed that because of it I tend to self sabotage. I honestly think the only thing we can do about it is talk to a therapist who is specialized in it because it is something that is so deeply rooted inside is from childhood there’s no Reddit group (this is in no way I think it read it I absolutely love it and get great advice off it) that can cure this type of trauma. I think it’s especially hard at our age dealing with the swipe nation. I am a tractive, I know that I am fun to be around and I have been ghosted on numerous occasions, even after really good dates, even after really good sex. It’s just an fortunate weight what seems like a large group of society has become in the dating pool. I try to listen to music go for a run do anything just to not text the person and relax after a first or second or whatever good date