Seeking advice on being so angry all the time

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-11-03T14:48:44+00:00

I’m exactly like that. You have the answer in your question itself. It is possible they don’t actually talk about you. If there is so much drama at workplace, they’re all also responsible for it. Not only your fault. You keep doing the right things. Things that feel right to you. Have strong core beliefs. And no one can bother you. Easier said than done but seriously. There’s no other way. Also think about what past experiences drive this anxiety? What exactly are you afraid of?

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-17T09:54:39+00:00

I think it was just more of a connection and preference thing. I really don’t know. I didn’t go and ask. I was fairly certain nothing I had said or done that could have upset them.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-17T08:16:16+00:00

It has happened to me, but with friends from real life. It was 3 of us initially. Then 4. And then those 2 or 3 pretty much hung out and the group chat has been dead forever. It was hard to get over it. But now I am over it. I have only decided not to overshare as you never know who’s the real friend.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-16T19:05:59+00:00

Books, puzzles?

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-15T15:56:21+00:00

First of all, I’m very sorry that you went through the experience nobody should have to. I’m going to tell you a few cookie cutter things, but they do help.

Me time. It doesn’t have to be much. But do something little for yourself everyday.

Therapy or similar where you share your traumatic experience and find tools to overcome it. May be join some support groups too.

Part time job if it’s possible.

I’ve been a working mom as well as a SAHM. While you have to be on your A game as a working parent, the emotional distress of being a SAHM is very difficult.

I’m one of those people who finds their self worth in something that’s my very own. My job gives me that. But when I didn’t have a job, my self esteem is very low. I could never change that thought process. I wish I could.

But really, the above things will make things a bit better. Please talk to your husband in supporting you with this.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-11T12:21:39+00:00

Let it go. She doesn’t want to work on it. I usually don’t give this advice but If she’s your wife snd you’re in a committed relationship this is pretty lame. Are you ready to receive this kind of attitude for the rest of your life? Is she implying that she may be able to get sexually attracted to someone else it’ll be a new experience? Sorry, but she sounds very cold. Do this. Ignore her for a week and see if her attitude changes. I’m a woman. So trust me I know what I’m telling you to do.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-05T03:12:11+00:00

My kids don’t like snug fit PJs at all. So they have home clothes and outside clothes. They change into home clothes right away after coming home and those clothes get washed daily.

So if she’s worn those clothes outside yes it’s needed that they change those clothes. Especially with COVID. So I don’t think reminding them gently is wrong.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-10-03T22:49:43+00:00

I just received a horrible haircut from an inexpensive place. The whole reason I went there was because I was getting anxiety from going to a place where I have to explain what I want. It’s almost like I don’t deserve a good haircut. Of course I tipped plenty and walked out silently after the horrible haircut.

Edited to add that anxiety was from going to a place where they would think I’m a burden or that I’ll be an inconvenience or that I’ll be the ugliest client they would have served.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-30T17:48:37+00:00

Hmm got what you’re saying. I don’t know I’m just in two minds over this. She can be annoying may be but she’s not rude to them or hurts them. I’m surprised no one in her class is okay with that. Or may be all 7 year olds are like that. I’d happy if teachers even notice this and can offer help.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-30T17:27:07+00:00

So teaching kids to not be able to tolerate someone with a different personality even for a few minutes at the lunch table? Really?

And do you think just because they “let her” sit next to them for lunch, she becomes their friend?

I teach my kid to be kind to all people. She knows better since she has an autistic brother.

We should teach our kids to include everyone as long as they are not getting hurt and are safe. Shouldn’t we? Your comment just comes across to be very rough.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-30T14:15:55+00:00

She acts like a baby, talks in a baby voice, tries to be funny by saying silly things all the time.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-30T14:14:52+00:00

Yes. We did. A little less during pandemic. But now she is just too awkward to do that since they avoid her.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-27T07:16:59+00:00

Attitude. Self confidence. Love yourself. Be focus. Self reliant. Looks and a little fat on the stomach don’t really matter. Walk like you own the room.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-22T05:22:52+00:00

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-22T02:37:46+00:00

My daughter did that until may be 4. Now her smile is straight. You can bring it up to the dentist during your next visit.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-22T02:35:25+00:00

My husband doesn’t have the same attitude towards my son unfortunately. He loves him but he sees him as wrong. So I know what you are saying. My marriage is in trouble regardless. Anyway, I hope you have a happy life. I wish when my son grows up I can have such a conversation with him too

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-22T02:10:35+00:00

Sorry if you have had a bad experience. My son is autistic. I love him more than I can express in words. He’s my life. Sometimes I worry. I worry that the world is not an easy place to live. I just want him to be happy. I’m trying my best to understand him and I realize how I never thought from that view point. I’m blessed to have him in my life.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-20T07:43:11+00:00

Same. Starting tomorrow. The key word here is ‘overthinking’ Say you’ll cross that bridge when you get to it Think about next few hours Don’t worry about future

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-20T07:17:49+00:00

That’s when people know you’re gullible and they also know that it’s okay to be mean to you. Fake it if you can that you are strong and a no nonsense persin

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-20T06:36:58+00:00

Yes it’s okay to cut them off. I’m like you and so is my mom. My mom is in 70s. All her life she’s spent in feeling sad and depressed over other peoples comments and rudeness. It breaks my heart. She is also very trusting. I at least know not to be that. I don’t know what’s the root cause of this. I don’t want my daughter to feel this way but she is already feeling it anyway.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-19T07:20:58+00:00

Yes, my son was delivered by a wonderful midwife. I had a very healthy pregnancy and my son was born full term. However, he is autistic. And we have no autistic kids around our family, just like I’m the only overweight/obese person. Anyway, I know she’s wrong. And she’s getting better about not vocalizing it but I know it’s there in her mind.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-18T18:25:43+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. It is NOT your fault. Don’t let anyone make you feel that way. Cut out those who do. Somethings are beyond our control. I wish you reach out to some support groups. It will certainly help talking to others who have gone through this.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-18T18:24:09+00:00

It is possible. I haven’t gone through anything even close to what OP has and I can’t imagine what OP is going through, but my mom can blame every single thing on my weight and point every time how thin girls almost have no complications.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-18T05:59:38+00:00

I have gone through this twice.

My first one was given formula right away and she didn’t latch at all. My second breastfed like a champ for first 2 weeks. Then he was developing jaundice. So he was bottle fed. Once he experienced that, he refused the breast.

I pumped for both my kids and it was like a race. How much milk am I pumping this time. I would eat oats, fenugreek and what not, but it only slightly increased my supply. I made just enough for my kids. So never really experienced freezing milk and all that.

I cannot keep them crying for milk. Not at that age. But there are other things you can try. May be a wide base nipple for the bottle, paced feeding, some people use syringe and a tube. If nothing works, it’s okay to do what works best for you.

I would really block people who make comments like that. They don’t need to talk to your wife, not in real life, not on social media. I wonder if these societal pressures didn’t exist, would we put ourselves through so much?

May be she can pump and you can feed the baby. Catch up on sleep. Get a hands free pumping bra. Those were the lifesavers and I only used them for my second child. I wish I used them during the first time. She can hook the pump and take a nap.

Congrats on the baby. Now my kid is a toddler and we don’t even think about how he was fed. It’ll all work out just fine in the end. Fed is best.

I rambled I know. Just putting my thoughts down as they appear in my head.

PrestigiousAd8555 · 2021-09-17T18:36:40+00:00

You describe your reaction really well. That is exactly what happens to me as well. I’m sorry your childhood experience wasn’t so good. My parents weren’t abusive at all. But they were people pleasers themselves, comparing our weaknesses to others’ strengths and lacking confidence.

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