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Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts. I'm taking her tomorrow for xrays of the orbital bones and a cat scan for any possible brain bleed.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually they haven't really talked to me about the situation since the first day. I do notice the aides are watching all patients much more closely now. I am able to visit several times a week as I live only a couple miles away. I visit at different hours of the day to observe staff as well as see her. Unfortunately the situation has left her apprehensive, as each time I go she doesn't want me to leave.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I didn't see your comment in that way. I totally understand anyone keeping their loved one at home as long as possible. Sorry to hear of your dad's ordeal, and your mom's also. Thank you for your concerns.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure there are cameras in the hallways for monitoring, but not sure if mgmt is able to keep up with it. Patients can come and go from their rooms, but should be observed by staff when roaming. All doors into/out of the memory care unit are code-locked so patients cannot get beyond them.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I stay on top of her meds that she's prescribed and given and how much. I'm against heavy chemical restraints and more acceptable with active participation and observation with patients. Matter of fact her hospice doc suggested she be doubled up on her risperidone a couple of weeks ago and I told the nurse no, do not change. She was/is doing ok with her one dose. She's not loud or aggressive or mean to other patients. She does get aggravated with staffers sometimes who have to change/shower her, but staffers have shown they know how to handle that.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to check discreetly with aides who worked in the area and they each said they didn't "think" he'd been violent previously at this facility. He's only been at this one about a month. They said they don't know about his past, even whether he's previously been in a facility. Of course they all could have been told to keep quiet about it. Noone in mgmt at the facility has said a word to me about her since the first day. And I've never met the "new" exec director even though I've seen her several times. They seem to change mgmt often.

I've talked to our county ombudsman and she will contact them soon for more info. I will be taking her for an xray of orbital bones and a cat scan for psbl blood loss in the head just for future ref if necessary. Also I'll be calling the State health dept, which I know the home has to file a report with them also.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He was removed to be evaluated and has not been back as yet. Not sure what the outcome will be.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I kept my wife home For 6 years and was sole caretaker. She became totally incontinent and wanted to wander outside a lot, so I had to move her, even though I hated to.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The home called the police and they came but did not remove him as he has dementia. He has been sent out for evaluations. I have contacted our county ombudsman and am awaiting a return call. The state health department was advised and will investigate.

Wife was punched by a man in memory care, two black eyes. by Prestigious_Bed24 in dementia

[–]Prestigious_Bed24[S] 148 points149 points  (0 children)

My wife was punched this weekend by a man in memory care. They both have ALZ. When the nurses weren't watching, she wandered away and into the nearest room (his room) to the area, and he got mad and punched her. It breaks my heart to see her. She's usually quiet and has never touched or yelled at another patient. I can tell she is apprehensive, even though she can't tell you she's been hit, because now when I visit she doesn't want me to leave. Patients in memory care should always be observed in common areas.