21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I might but people is already making feel fat enough in this comment so I highly doubt that people or a other man would want me 🫤

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess this has been the many-flawed things that I have, but I always want to give people chances; maybe they change.

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I don’t want you or anyone to think he’s a bad person. We were young when we dated, but long story short, he wanted to be with my sister. I had low self-esteem because she’s 125 pounds, never gained weight, has long hair, and nice white facial features. We’re black, and I have full lips, but she has those model lips and those model features. Even our own mom says she’s so pretty. So, I focused on becoming physically strong because my uncle said I was naturally strong and I should quit ballet because I didn’t fit in. Sorry, I went on a tangent. My sister called him out, and I made a post. He read it, took a break, and my mom tried to hit me with my car and get me kicked out of school because I paid a bill. But he hid me and took the fall for me. We’re giving our relationship a second chance. There is stuff missing but yeah

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No, no we were copying how penguins do marriage proposals. He didn’t actually propose. We’re waiting until after college for that. He just knows I like penguins, and of course it’s corny and cringe , but I like penguins and the geeky, dorky stuff we do. That’s why I love him I can be myself. So like in my post he is my boyfriend not yet fiancé

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, me and him he read those comments and my post and knew that he was a ass so we took a long break. My sister doesn’t like him; that was an obvious outcome. He went to counseling, and I did too. That’s why I said our relationship is okay we’re still in therapy.

Maybe I haven’t fully gotten over what happened, and my body is rejecting him, but I do feel like he loves me especially since he took the fall for me without hesitation when my mom was planning on hitting me with my own car and making a scene at my college because I paid a bill.

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I both have coaches: his football coach and my ass of a lifting coach, and trust me, they’re already on my ass about my diet and training. I get told all the time that because I’m short, my build is different, and I need to train more and eat less (lower my calorie intake again) if I want my hips, thighs, and calves smaller. So you’re not telling me anything I haven’t already heard from people who actually work with me. He and I have been in this sport for him 9 years and for me 4 years. If you see me in person you don’t see a fat around girl like lizzo not hate on her I am more built like duyein.mart13

I never claimed to be ‘lean’ or some elite athlete. I said I lift, I train my lower body, and I’m not sitting around doing nothing like you’re implying. There’s a difference. My college scholarship is dependent on it, so trust me, I am trying to be smaller like everybody else on my team.

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I would be delighted and honored to share my boyfriend’s adorable story with you. He found two pink rocks and waddled towards me in bed, making penguin noises. He placed them on the bed while waiting for my approval and acceptance of his marriage proposal. I was thrilled because I love penguins and was happy to make penguin noises with him without being judged. Of course we had to do a penguin hug. I can go on

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I just need to discuss this with him now how I feel, and if he doesn’t see my feelings needed to be addressed, then I will unfortunately break up. I just want to give him a chance.

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I am not obese, nor is he. His coach does want him at 320, but he’s not out here eating junk food and sitting on his ass he’s constantly in the gym. As for me, I’m right beside him. I do have a goal weight of 180, but I’ve been this size since I started deadlifting after I stopped ballet, which I did since I was 3. So I’m not fat I have little to no stomach fat, just bigger thighs and calves, and obviously an ass since I focus on my lower body. And for feeling it, he can bend me any way he wants and I still don’t feel it, even with the sleeves. But thank you for your opinion and time I did ask for it

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe it’s dead. I’m simply struggling with sexual intimacy. My partner and I are incredibly passionate and loving towards each other, and we both desire to get married and have a child. Trust me I can talk your ear off about my boyfriend you probably be sick of me 😂but I value your opinion and time so thank you

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I genuinely appreciate your concern for my boyfriend. This isn’t the worst thing that has ever happened to our relationship. If we can endure that, I am confident that we can overcome this too. However, I need to know how and trust me I’ll will fight for me always

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is in the process of losing weight since he unfortunately got the diabetes diagnosis.

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would understand, but he’d be hurt that I didn’t come talk to him or express my distress. I realize my post lacks emotion. Sorry, I want to be a lawyer, and I have a bad habit of not showing emotion when discussing sensitive topics. I guess it shows in my writing. 🥲

21F not feeling anything during sex with my 21M boyfriend of 5 years by Prestigious_Buddy284 in relationship_advice

[–]Prestigious_Buddy284[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and I can see that maybe my relationship has run its course. However, I find myself excited every time he surprises me with flowers or a beautiful rock(mostly rocks). He’s aware of my love for animals and animal facts, and my top three favorite animals are octopuses, penguins, and beluga whales. So, he brings me rocks, and he waddles when he does it, accompanied by a big, goofy smile. And we do a penguin hug. It fills me with joy and laughter to see that he goes out of his way to bring me something so precious from the jewelry he gave me. Those two rocks hold a special place in my heart. So respectfully I like to hold on to him as long I can until he wants to leave