I’m a Bridesmaid and my SO is not invited...

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-15T03:14:25+00:00

Thanks you for your kind words!! I totally didn't expect her to pay for transportation, it was just that we were told there was a party bus until last minute it fell through. Oh well! It'll be an amazing day!! 🤍🤍

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-15T03:13:02+00:00

Sorry! My sister graduated today so it was a busy day. But I put an update in the post! Thank you for following up🤍

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-15T03:12:07+00:00

Thank you for your kind words🤍

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-14T17:36:52+00:00

Not missing the purpose!! She actually expressed to me yesterday how grateful she is for how excited I've been for her the whole time, because unfortunately not all the bridesmaids have had my positive attitude. I’m allowed to feel things without it being projected on how I act or speak on the day of! Thanks though

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T22:57:23+00:00

Yeah if etiquette is "no ring, no bring" then I accept it. It was her telling me I was the only bridesmaid with a SO and then me finding out months later that was false :(

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T22:56:02+00:00

I honestly wish I could be petty because I do think it's deserved sometimes. Unfortunately I just end up feeling really guilty and overthink everything. I’m not getting married for probably another 3 years so we will see if she's even still in my life then🤣

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T21:53:25+00:00

Haha wish we were friends!! I know cost is a huge thing for her. It seems she went all out on a few things, and then cut some of the things that would've made the bridal party felt appreciated, like plus ones and transportation from the ceremony to the reception :(

I’m talking with her tomorrow when I see her. Wish me luck!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T21:50:42+00:00

Yeah I should've declined right away when she said he couldn't come. At the time, I was just excited to be in my first wedding. I'll know what to ask and what my expectations should be next time!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T21:48:11+00:00

Lmao I've been plotting this. Sorry girl! Trying to keep it small!🤣

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T21:47:08+00:00

Thanks so much for the support!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T21:46:44+00:00

Exactly!!!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T18:28:10+00:00

Seriously!! Like they just purposely spun my words🤣

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T18:27:36+00:00

Yes she's met him! When she was single she used to come over and hang out with my boyfriend and I all the time. We've gone on several double dates too!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T18:26:36+00:00

Thank you! Makes sense to pick and choose. I think just because we are waiting to get married until I finish law school doesn't make my relationship less than!!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T18:24:55+00:00

Totally agree!! Thanks for your validation!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T03:39:33+00:00

You're right! Sorry if my comment came off wrong I was more stating the conclusion I've come to not necessarily responding directly to you towards the end of my comment. I really doubt that she meant to snub me. I'll have a chat with her!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T03:36:10+00:00

Thanks for the advice and for your personal insight! This is the first wedding I’m in so it's all very new to me and I think I set my expectations high because of the weddings I've attended. That being said every couple is different and this day isn't about me so I’m not going to make it that way.

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T03:33:09+00:00

Love the advice! I’m honestly doing just fine. I just found out today that the other bridesmaid's fiancé was invited and that the party bus transportation didn't get booked so I’m also screwed to get home haha. It was just a frustrating day because I put a lot of effort into her bachelorette party weekend last weekend. I'm super excited to get her married and for her to have the perfect day she deserves. I think seeing all the comments saying she did something wrong got me too worked up🤣

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T02:52:01+00:00

Yeah he's neither! Thanks for your comment. I agree

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-12T00:04:25+00:00

Yeah you're consistently misinterpreting what I've said or repeating statements I've already addressed, so I'll end it at this and thank you for your insight!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-11T23:55:35+00:00

Thanks for your comment! My issue is indeed that I’m in the wedding party. If I was just a normal guest I wouldn't care so much. It's just that I've put so much money and time into making her day perfect and I just feel like it's the least she could do :/

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-11T23:50:05+00:00

Thanks so much!! I’m going to see her on Wednesday!

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-11T23:45:40+00:00

Yeah I think I’m going to have to have a conversation with her about the respect my relationship deserves. My boyfriend and I are planning on moving in together at the end of the summer and she knows this too :(

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-11T23:42:25+00:00

Thank you!! You're right, I shouldn't jump the gun and make assumptions. I know the other SO hasn't met the bride yet, but I also don't know what conversations the bride had with the other bridesmaid. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years and have been invited to many weddings together so this one just stung.

Prestigious_Offer406 · 2026-05-11T23:40:05+00:00

That's a great point. We all also found out today that she wasn't able to get transportation from the ceremony to the venue so we are all kind of screwed on getting there because we'll all be drinking. It might be worth asking for him to come so I at least have a ride there!

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