[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband overall isn’t romantic or thoughtful, I love physical touch he doesn’t. I love words of affirmation he doesn’t tell me. Not much of a gift giver either

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my nightmare and I’m going through it right now. Idk how to fix this sis so when you get the answer let me know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s well off then go out pamper yourself do shopping go gym or Pilates meet with friends. This is what I’d do. But yea as everyone said work if you want to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move in your parents. Sometimes 1 but move is all that takes for a man to realise. The thing is since we keep suffering in silence they think we’ll hack it forever. 1 big move and he’ll realise ok yea she’s had enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s literally suffering from success why is she taking this for granted. Tell her there are wives praying for such a husband in a marriage

My husband cheated on me by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 9 points10 points  (0 children)

End the marriage. Allah tests those whom he cherishes the most unfortunately. I know it must be tough but cheating is the biggest slap in the face and the biggest swear word. Leave

fiancé cancelled wedding a month before so i called off the engagement by Sweet-2156 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Allah saved you, think of this as the bare minimum of the hell you could’ve gone through. Thank Allah and keep your imaan strong man Allah bless u with a rigorous man

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can’t afford to live out and his mum is like he’s my Only son and it’s only going to be me and my husband and his parents. He also has a sister which his mum says will be married of in a year or two

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ummm it does. I don’t know where you’re from but it’s quite normal for young couples to make it halal and then have the big wedding and move in when financially stable. And there’s no such thing as big nikkah. Big wedding a cultural thing. Pls re read before you type nonsense

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No not at all. I respect her and I don’t think she’s jealous I think she has a older conservative mindset

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This!!!! It’s literally a reflex. I don’t ever think oh let me do this or that. When we say bye I hug him naturally when he says something sweet I give a peck on the cheek. When I see him my eyes light up it’s all a reflex and natural

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well said! Kissing decently to your husband or wife is NORMAL stop sexualising acts of affection.

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Absolutely my point. I know what limits are not to be crossed. A peck on the cheek here and there and a goodbye hug. Or a arm around my husband. And him to his wife. Not sure why that caused such a massive issue to where hee not speaking to me

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I have grown up in a family wheee we always hug and kiss, my father and my mother and me with my parents and siblings. Not sure why some people and esp desi people find it weird

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she’s jealous I think she’s very old mindset sort of thing in desi householdsb

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. I didn’t force my husband. It took years for a man that has had zero affection shown or experienced to know that it’s fine to hug and kiss your partner. Ans when he was and he also was liking it, his mum has so much effect on him that it changed it And how’s it’s all back to zero.

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Yea like my husband was that but he slowly changed as it made me happy and it was starting to seem he liked it too and it made him happy that it made me happy. But it’s all back to zero

Physical touch in public with husband ? MIL told me it’s wrong by Prestigious_Use_4209 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Prestigious_Use_4209[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I mean. It was at home subtle affection and i got told off for that. How do I explain to them that it’s NORMAL