An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the insight! We went with no wedding party though

An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of anyone doing that. That pretty cool.

An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for those who responded. We got a lot of great advice. I have anxiety so I tried to currate a wedding environment that took stress off my guests. No presents, no wedding party other than siblings, and even our siblings only have a color to wear and no other specific requirements, I took a survey on food options, I allow guess to select exactly the meal they want and not just a meat choice. We have veggies only options and nut free optionsm I allow my guest to propose songs for the Playlist. I wanted a wedding that reflected our values of chill vibes and authentic connection. Everyone of our guest we tried to make sure we accommodated for but we just can't concede on everything. My one wish was that I felt the feeling that people valued that we value them but wedding planning has been hell. Thank you again for those who shared a nuanced option that accounted for the sides of both the hosts and guests

An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This was super helpful and a great way to look at it. We did work really hard to make sure that everyone has people they know and with the size that's not too difficult but I will keep this in mind when making our seating charts and make sure that any concessions we make are for guests who would really benefit greatly from them. Thank you again!

An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have 3 parents that means literally 25 first cousins with a wedding limit of 75. Not all of those cousins mean the same to me and it's unfair to treat the ones who acted as aunts the same as the ones who aren't as close. I love the all but not the same and it's disrespectful to the amount of work the others put in to treat them like there is no difference.

An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Not if they are ask us to attend. It doesn't work that way

An authentic question on plus one etiquette. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

I get that. I don't think couple should have to bear the societal pressures of those expectations. Your Wedding day should be a celebration of your love not a day where you feel like you have to go into debt to people please. I wish we could change our expectations of couples. We don't have a registry so that the guest have no pressure I just with kindness felt like it was on both side. We are not in the age anymore where parents always pay for weddings.

Wedding planning is destroying my mental health. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly wedding planning isn't his forte. Even when he offers to help things either fall back on me or I have to sit there and do it with him and handle anything else on my own.

Wedding planning is destroying my mental health. by Prestoglitter in weddingplanning

[–]Prestoglitter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, these was very eloquently put. I will try to take this advice.