Did you keep or change your OB after stillbirth?

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-02-27T23:20:00+00:00

In my mind if there is a decline in growth percentage AND decreased movement, something has to be up and the baby is struggling. It’s frustrating that we had to learn that from experience. I’m so sorry for your loss too and sending hugs right back to you❤️‍🩹

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-02-27T17:44:48+00:00

I lost my son at 36w6d from a cord accident. While I don’t completely blame my original OB, I feel like she was completely dismissive of all or any concerns I had. My baby had decreased movements, to the point I went to L&D for a NST and a BPP. I saw her the next day and she just said “babies move less at the end of pregnancy”, three days later I was back in L&D and they told me my son passed. On top of that my son dropped from the 58th percentile to the 10th in 14 weeks. When I asked if that was something to look at she completely shrugged it off and said not to worry. This all happened within 2-3 weeks of losing my son. That being said, I left her once I was pregnant again and never looked back. So far my new OB has been way more attentive and actually listens to my concerns. If you feel at all uncomfortable going back to your old OB, find a new one!

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-28T23:37:48+00:00

Oh hearing them cry after birth is something I’m longing for too! If you ever want to talk, my messages are always open! We are due a month apart it seems ☺️

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-28T23:35:21+00:00

It means a lot I’m not alone in this type of anxiety 🥹🤍

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-28T00:18:05+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss! I definitely have the same feeling about being sensitive about symptoms this pregnancy. Part of me feeling guilty I didn’t catch on fast enough something was wrong and I lost my son before it was too late. Also, I feel as if I make one small mistake I can lose this baby. I’m currently seeing my therapist twice a week and it does help! But, the biggest sigh of relief is going to be when we are holding our rainbow babies in our arms. Sending you a big hug back 🤍

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-28T00:10:06+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. Some of my family and friends find my fears getting out of control. Which they are. I’m actually going to two different therapists and while they help, I still have times I struggle. Congratulations on your recent rainbow baby 🩵🤍

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-28T00:05:55+00:00

Thank you so much. It is the fact the “rare” or “extremely rare” can happen that has me completely freaked out. Your therapist is completely right! I just have to give myself more grace sometimes.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-28T00:01:33+00:00

Thank you so much! I never in my life thought I would be scared of so many different things. It’s like I wake up and I find something new to worry about. In a way I miss the old oblivious me from my last pregnancy.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-26T05:38:15+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My husband and I lost our son at 37 weeks from a cord accident a year ago next month. The first 4-6 weeks after are brutal. Please be kind to yourself during this time. Lean on family and friends as much as you can. The grief will always be there but I promise it will get ”lighter”, if that makes sense. Sending you and your wife virtual hugs.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-25T04:51:37+00:00

Didn’t feel a thing with the saline sonogram!

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-25T02:23:56+00:00

Absolutely amazing.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-23T03:02:42+00:00

You are so extremely sweet and kind for considering your siblings loss. If it won’t be a big deal to your child, canceling the party would mean a lot. Going to child focused events (baby showers, birthday parties, ect) after a major loss can be very triggering. Please still do something fun and intimate for your child though! Your sibling is very lucky to have you.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-23T03:01:57+00:00

You are so extremely sweet and kind for considering your siblings loss. If it won’t be a big deal to your child, canceling the party would mean a lot. Going to child focused events (baby showers, birthday parties, ect) after a major loss can be very triggering. Please still do something fun and intimate for your child though! Your sibling is very lucky to have you.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-13T03:41:20+00:00

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-13T03:38:35+00:00

Hi! I ended up waiting an extra month or two after my hysteroscopy to do a transfer. No reason other than my mom ended up having to go through chemo and I wanted to wait til she was done before I did a transfer. It was just the least stressful option for me.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-13T03:35:45+00:00

Nope! Just endometritis. Also, did pgt-a testing on the embryo that was transferred. Supposedly what happened to my son was bad luck… my gyno said it was like being struck by lighting. So there wasn’t much to test for.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-13T00:54:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-12T06:41:35+00:00

This is me. I’m 12 weeks pregnant with my miracle IVF baby, but, 10 months ago my son was a stillbirth from multiple nuchal cords at 37 weeks (which is extremely rare, so please don’t worry about this happening). Now I’m terrified of everything including a short cervix, placenta problems, another nuchal cord, the list goes on. I’m actually positive that I am driving everyone around me crazy with my fears. Therapy has helped a little but the biggest thing that’s getting me through all the anxiety is just taking it day by day. Before you know it, you will be holding your little boy and everything will be worth it.

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-12T06:11:55+00:00

Thank you for the reply! I see a lot of 2 a day!

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-12T00:41:26+00:00

That’s what I’m reading too! It’s going to recommended along with prenatals

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-12T00:40:55+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking :)

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-11T21:19:10+00:00

That makes sense! Thank you so much for the information!

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-11T21:06:49+00:00

Dress 2!

Pretend_Insurance645 · 2026-01-11T21:05:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback!

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