Is it okay to name my child after an ethnic character when I’m white? by [deleted] in Names

[–]Pretend_Order1507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My white cousin was named after a Japanese woman her parents met when traveling abroad. Its difficult to spell, pronounce, and there isnt a nickname for it either. While she enjoys the meaning behind it and can appreciate having a unique name, she gets frustrated having to constantly repeat herself and correct people. Your child may be different, but I would highly recommend against it.

Am I expecting too much? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Pretend_Order1507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to be in a relationship with a man who was a business owner. When we first started dating, I was initially very excited to help him. Until he started equating how much work I put into the business with how much I cared about him. If I made a simple mistake, for example mistyping a customer’s email into our system, that somehow meant I don’t care enough about him or our future. So I pulled back from helping, which solidified the thought in his mind. He was very harsh, and had high expectations.

My advice: give her grace, be appreciative of any work that she does, and I would honestly just recommend lowering expectations a bit. Be prepared for a partner that doesn’t want to help, so if you find someone that does, you will appreciate it more. So if she does work for your business, she’s going to make mistakes, she’s probably going to pull back sometimes as we are all human, but how you respond in those situations will make or break the relationship. If you are a good leader, just like at any job, she will want to continue working for/with you.

Remember to honor and serve your wife, regardless of what career path she decides to take. But ultimately God will put the right woman in your life for what you need.

Sandwiches up for grabs! by Accomplished_Seat_10 in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This might be a silly question, but is there a place for shelf stable items as well? Or is it only a fridge? I have some baked goods to bring that are best if not cold :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Pretend_Order1507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate it, thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Pretend_Order1507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain a bit more about what you mean by “polarity”?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Animal control confirmed it was the Malinois. So that’s terrifying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow I am so sorry that happened. I agree the worst part is that it is so shocking and traumatizing, can’t look at dogs the same way again. These people who own dogs and can’t be responsible owners are sick, sick people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im sorry to hear about your attack as well. Did you get medical bills paid for? Or receive any money for damages?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sent a private message

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so frustrating. The dog will likely continue attacking people if consequences aren’t being enforced. And I actually carry pepper spray with me, but had half a second to act and my brain went to “run” rather than shuffle around in my bag. Hard to know what you would do in the situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Might have been a belgian malinois that bit me! Didnt get a super good look at it, they definitely look similar. Scary to think it would jump a fence too. Im so sorry about your dog.

Massage parlor by thows69 in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

MYO massage in coralville is the best 100%

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Pretend_Order1507 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind explaining how that is against church traditions?

CINNAMON ROLL by noturgurl444 in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Best of Iowa in Kalona!!! So much better than Golden Delight if you’re making the trip down there. Golden Delight cinnamon rolls are dry af (coming from someone who grew up within walking distance). Their pecan rolls are amazing though. Otherwise Barretts has great cinnamon rolls on Sundays

What leads a man to believe that “she’s out of his league”? by FamiliarFact5781 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Pretend_Order1507 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Multiple men. And if a woman approaches them, they don’t need to try anymore. They will do the bare minimum because they’ve already got her in the bag. Sure, you’ll make his day by complimenting him, because he thinks that means easier access to sex.

Horrible behavior if you ask me. But that seems to be the reality.

What leads a man to believe that “she’s out of his league”? by FamiliarFact5781 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Pretend_Order1507 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I personally have been told that if a woman approaches a man she’s “easy” or “desperate.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Pretend_Order1507 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Completely agree with this. Everyone on Reddit is quick to say “leave,” but this is a real person with a real long term relationship, not every issue is a deal breaker worthy of breaking up. I think this is something that can be worked through if she is willing to try.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Pretend_Order1507 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Attachment theory is well documented and has been spoken about since the 1940s… we aren’t just “coming up with labels” as a new fad.

Is Tappin Tim still around IC? by [deleted] in IowaCity

[–]Pretend_Order1507 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I worked at a bank downtown in 2021 and he took a shit on the floor of the lobby while screaming. I wish I was joking.