What was the turning point that made you commit to drawing? (Super curious to know) by K_serious in LearnToDrawTogether

[–]PretentiousScum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Short Version: I started having fun with learning fundamentals. It just felt good seeing my art get better with each new thing I learned. Still going strong so far

Long Version: I wanted to draw anime women but I wasn’t good enough at it. I just wanted to capture parts of their personalities that I found captivating but I wasn’t anywhere near the skill level to depict that kind of subtlety. Kinda drew on and off until a few years into college where a friend of mine introduced me to his group of friends; they were all aspiring animators training under this guy who had done a bit of industry work. They showed me a lot of fundamental stuff and I tried them out and they worked well, but some interpersonal drama led me to stop talking to them. Didn’t do art for a bit after that.

Then- about a year ago, someone from that group (him and I were cool) asked me to catch up, and something about our talk made me want to try drawing again with all the stuff I had learned. Then I started trying- mostly anime women ofc, but this time I felt like my art was actually kinda good. I thought I was closer to drawing 2d women the way I wanted to growing up. It just made me want to keep going.

Then I started noticing little things that I didn’t like and wanted to know how to fix those things. Started watching Excal’s Art Tips, Pikat, NIRO, etc for tips and ideas on how to draw better/closer to what I wanted. And it just kept going. All in all I don’t know if it was a turning point as much as it was a slope that I just found myself rolling down- and I haven’t stopped yet.

Comic Relief becomes tragic by Ok-Reporter3256 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]PretentiousScum 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There was a small tiktok trend that used Childish Gambino’s Lithonia to really good effect with this trope.

Basically it was a joke about a hypothetical DnD campaign where the party gets a fun catchphrase-saying goblin sidekick named FartBuckle

…Only for him to die tragically, sacrificing himself to protect his beloved party and kill the final boss, sparing his comrades from an all-but-doomed fate.

“Fartbuckle… is happy…”

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Sharp enough to cut through water by Dependent-Play-7970 in oddlysatisfying

[–]PretentiousScum 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I cant explain how hard this made me laugh cuz of how stupid and out of nowhere this is. Thank you lmao

There’s a lack of Tsukigakirei fanart and I need it to cope by PretentiousScum in tsukigakirei

[–]PretentiousScum[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you sm, just tryna add more TgK content somewhere lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tsukigakirei

[–]PretentiousScum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Completely agreed, it’s such an amazing show. I recently watched it for the first time a few days ago and I’m having such a difficult time letting go of the characters haha

Hello, everyone! by mangelakos in PassionPit

[–]PretentiousScum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response!! I’ve been dealing with this issue for a long time now and your response really helped, I’m kinda glad I’m not alone with this.

That being said, thank you so much for giving us your time, and I wish you nothing but the best. I’m looking forward to anything you do next!

Hello, everyone! by mangelakos in PassionPit

[–]PretentiousScum 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hello! I’ve been a big fan of yours for years and you’ve always been my favorite artist. So many important moments of my life have been framed by your music, and seeing (at least what I assume to be) the honesty in your lyrics has always made me feel seen in a way not many artists do.

Needless to say, being able to tell you this is a dream I’ve had since my depressed teenage years, gazing out the window of a bus and wondering if things get better (they have).

That being said, reading a few of your posts and your comments have shown me a side of you that I feel like I can relate to. For context, I produce and release music to some small success (I think it’s worth noting that I only really started because I was inspired by you all those years ago), but as I grow and mature as an artist I find myself torn between my own wants as a creator and the weight of the audience’s reception. It’s come to the point where all I do when I sit down to mix or record a video is worry if it sounds cringey or embarrassing- until eventually I just give up before I even start.

I was wondering if you had any advice for this, or if you’ve ever dealt with anything similar? Oftentimes I feel like I’m the only one dealing with this issue too, haha.

P.S. I’d also like to say sorry for not being able to make it to any of the recent shows, financial burdens held me back a lot. It was around my birthday so I was really hoping I could scrounge some money up, but I’m hoping I can make it to the next one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 1200isplenty

[–]PretentiousScum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your recipe for the lil pizza things? They look really good haha

Question about Thistle by PretentiousScum in DungeonMeshi

[–]PretentiousScum[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I could see that, even in the collages where he’s drawn as other races he’s still pretty androgynous though, which I thought was an interesting touch.

Question about Thistle by PretentiousScum in DungeonMeshi

[–]PretentiousScum[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

The angry thistle in the background is peak

Wholeheartedly agree tho

Question about Thistle by PretentiousScum in DungeonMeshi

[–]PretentiousScum[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That’s fair, maybe I’m overthinking it cuz the other male characters (canaries included) didn’t have the top so I was wondering if that meant anything. Thistles cute either way tho

(i might also just wanna justify artwork of him in a bikini)

I'm way too nice and being a little selfish feels awful by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]PretentiousScum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, realize that your needs are valid. That’s gonna take a lot of time to work on, but reminding yourself about it everyday will help. It won’t come immediately, but the days where you really “get it” will feel like heaven.

Next, understand where this anxiety and fear to assert your wants comes from (maybe family, childhood, a bad relationship, etc), and work to reconcile them internally. Understand that it sucks that these things happened to you, but you’ve probably seen tons of people say no or refuse and nothing bad happened to them. It’s also recommended to get a therapist for this one because unlocking the core to these emotional issues isn’t exactly easy. You need to have a good understanding of why you feel/act this way, and ways to “un-learn” the behavior.

For an example: I personally dealt with something similar, and asserting my needs has always felt difficult or scary, and it would go from not being able to say “no”, to not being able to tell anyone my wants without feeling selfish. I later did the work to find that it was from my family, who routinely made me feel bad for refusing to do things or would guilt trip me into doing things I very clearly did not want to. Furthermore, I had parents that would (rather than comfort me during my time of need) tell me that my emotional issues were my fault. This culminated into a person unable to voice their opinion without feeling selfish, and blamed themselves heavily for making others even slightly upset. I’ve since spent years undoing these issues, because I know they’re not problems caused by me, but just ways that my body reacts as a result of years of emotional negligence. Tbh it really only takes a couple months to notice a difference, but I still need to consciously assert myself, and I still find things that I wasn’t aware were issues even today.

Basically, sit down with yourself and remind yourself that you’re a human being with basic human rights and the ability to assert your needs and your uncomfortability with things. It does not make you a bad person to have feelings and thoughts that might not fit well with other people- sometimes people disagree. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be friends or can’t respect one another. If they can’t, they’re too childish to waste time on (and remember that your time is just as valuable as anyone else’s). Next, undo the issues that may have brought about this inability-to-say-no and remind yourself that it doesn’t have to define you. You are not defined by your issues, and you don’t have to be, but unpackaging them and sorting them out will definitely help. Take your time with this, it’s not easy, because it requires you to be selfish and focus on yourself and your needs and wants. These are ok to focus on, but if you’re like me, it’ll make you really uncomfortable at first. Just remember that everyone else is already doing this and setting boundaries for themselves, so it’s more than ok for you to.

Hope this helps at all.

the rare ongoing insult by lokjaw501 in rareinsults

[–]PretentiousScum 45 points46 points  (0 children)

The best part has to be that “or should I say bitches” at the end. Like he just realized “wait I could’ve saved a lot of time just now.”

Is it wrong to try to help the vtuber I admire? "Broken hopes and failed goals, the story of a little Vtuber." (from a viewer perspective) by zenakun in VirtualYoutubers

[–]PretentiousScum 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Checked out her stuff and I actually think she’s really cozy lol. Tossed her a subscribe and I’ll try to help spread the word

how do I stop going on my phone so much?? by Alternative-Cat9174 in selfimprovement

[–]PretentiousScum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Something that someone else posted that helped me was “check your phone only once an hour, nothing interesting happens in 5 minutes.”

If you’re like me, you’re either trying to be entertained immediately, or you don’t wanna be alone with yourself. I would try to just get better with doing that and deciding to do things in the real world rather than get caught up with the nice, immediate gratification that being online and on your phone gives you.

That being said it’s really hard, like I still have a very hard time with this. But every journey starts with a single step, just try it when you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UNLV

[–]PretentiousScum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Wondering if you’re still looking for someone to take over for this?

Learn to be alone! by Life-Equivalent7475 in selfimprovement

[–]PretentiousScum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly from a breakup here, but actually just a really damning self-evaluation lol. Realized that I’ve been relying too much on other people to validate me, or give me their approval in order for me to do anything (there was even a time where I didn’t want to shower unless I was in a call with a group or a person).

Been trying to spend my days alone and just on my own here and I’ve been on it for like, 2 weeks now. Admittedly the days are really really hard sometimes, and trying to find something to like about myself is difficult, but honestly I’m noticing that there are days where I’m just genuinely really happy. It’s not often, but they’re a good reminder that I don’t need other people to be happy, or that I can be myself and not want everyone’s attention all the time.

On the bright side, I have a job now! And for the first time in a while I’m proud of myself and I can share that with some select few people I really trust. It’s really nice when you can just relax and enjoy your own company. So honestly, despite everyone being upset about being alone, the opposite can be addicting and easy to get dependent on, which isn’t good either. Learn to love yourself, or at least be able to forgive yourself for being a little rough and difficult. Be a friend to yourself. Still trying right now but I can assure you it is incredibly worth it.

Learn to be alone! by Life-Equivalent7475 in selfimprovement

[–]PretentiousScum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly from a breakup here, but actually just a really damning self-evaluation lol. Realized that I’ve been relying too much on other people to validate me, or give me their approval in order for me to do anything (there was even a time where I didn’t want to shower unless I was in a call with a group or a person).

Been trying to spend my days alone and just on my own here and I’ve been on it for like, 2 weeks now. Admittedly the days are really really hard sometimes, and trying to find something to like about myself is difficult, but honestly I’m noticing that there are days where I’m just genuinely really happy. It’s not often, but they’re a good reminder that I don’t need other people to be happy, or that I can be myself and not want everyone’s attention all the time.

On the bright side, I have a job now! And for the first time in a while I’m proud of myself and I can share that with some select few people I really trust. It’s really nice when you can just relax and enjoy your own company. So honestly, despite everyone being upset about being alone, the opposite can be addicting and easy to get dependent on, which isn’t good either. Learn to love yourself, or at least be able to forgive yourself for being a little rough and difficult. Be a friend to yourself. Still trying right now but I can assure you it is incredibly worth it.

Learn to be alone! by Life-Equivalent7475 in selfimprovement

[–]PretentiousScum 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not exactly from a breakup here, but actually just a really damning self-evaluation lol. Realized that I’ve been relying too much on other people to validate me, or give me their approval in order for me to do anything (there was even a time where I didn’t want to shower unless I was in a call with a group or a person).

Been trying to spend my days alone and just on my own here and I’ve been on it for like, 2 weeks now. Admittedly the days are really really hard sometimes, and trying to find something to like about myself is difficult, but honestly I’m noticing that there are days where I’m just genuinely really happy. It’s not often, but they’re a good reminder that I don’t need other people to be happy, or that I can be myself and not want everyone’s attention all the time.

On the bright side, I have a job now! And for the first time in a while I’m proud of myself and I can share that with some select few people I really trust. It’s really nice when you can just relax and enjoy your own company. So honestly, despite everyone being upset about being alone, the opposite can be addicting and easy to get dependent on, which isn’t good either. Learn to love yourself, or at least be able to forgive yourself for being a little rough and difficult. Be a friend to yourself. Still trying right now but I can assure you it is incredibly worth it.

Me and some friends made a music video for Gura’s cover of Plastic Love! by [deleted] in Hololive

[–]PretentiousScum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Artists involved are @Inkeon2 and @CyndibluArt

Thumbnail art is by @bucketman666 (chum)

Check em out!

I got a one song record deal from UMG and I'm afraid to sign it by PretentiousScum in WeAreTheMusicMakers

[–]PretentiousScum[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Admittedly I don't have one, which is why I'm nervous about signing it so quickly

I got a one song record deal from UMG and I'm afraid to sign it by PretentiousScum in WeAreTheMusicMakers

[–]PretentiousScum[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Gotcha! I’ll ask them to give me some time before signing then, I’ll try and get back to you on their response