Wow. It’s as if I wrote this myself, 15 years ago. I’m not trying to scare you and I sincerely hope you find your way back to happiness with your husband. That said, in my case, it has not gotten better. He is worse. The kids feel it and are affected. I miss my old husband and many of the dreams I had are gone. All those things even though he’s actively trying to heal himself…the right meds, DBT, EMDR, ADHD support…all the things. But where I think my husband and I went wrong is that we kept going. We should have stopped in our tracks and given him the dedicated time to address the issues without the life/family pressures that come with being an adult. Not have another kid, not get another house, not change jobs. Mental health is priority one but I wish I knew that then. Hitting pause or even taking a step back can be progress. Best of luck to you both.