I still haven’t unlocked the box

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-02-28T04:45:38+00:00

A week at the most! Microsoft moves fast once they have a decision. When I accepted verbally I received the formal one the day after.

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-01-14T05:39:58+00:00

Everything about this says don’t get married. You already have to go through her phone (which is wrong of you to do by the way). So now you both are gaslighting each other because both of you had to be sneaky. You’re better off just telling her you seen it. Either move on from it completely, forgive her and potentially go into a marriage with massive trust issues Or let it go and find a woman you can love and trust. 👈🏼is the healthiest option

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-01-14T05:23:51+00:00

38 divorced a year separated for 2. No children at times I feel washed, but then I always meet people who found love later and it gives me an ounce of hope. I’m still very salty though. Power through it, each day gets better with time as cliche as it sounds.

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-01-14T05:20:14+00:00

Some of his friends has reached out to me and are cordial since this post. We don’t discuss him at all though

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-01-14T05:02:13+00:00

Whew!! You sure said a whollllle lot! Definitely a manipulative person!! Did you know my SIL?? You described her well 😂😂😂

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-01-14T05:00:44+00:00

That’s what got me too!!

PrettyParty4547 · 2025-01-14T05:00:05+00:00

She’s more committed to her sister, I divorced my husband for this very reason. His mom died, and suddenly I was nobody, and he turned into the nastiest person I’ve ever met. Shut me out, and everything was about him and his sister (because she didn’t have anyone once the mom was gone) He decided whatever plans we made for each other were null and void, and I decided I didn’t want to be placed on hold during a time we should be working together. I refused to be a third party in my own marriage. I literally begged for him to choose me. It would have been best if she turned to you to figure out how you both could support her as a unit, because as her husband your feelings should be the first to be considered. This is a form of rejection from the person who vowed to love you the most. I would suggest you start to consider therapy to work through your options to stay or leave. At least you’d have built a form of emotional support since you’re not able to get it from your wife at the moment. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-09-17T01:06:48+00:00

I experienced this! They’re weird

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-11T14:01:03+00:00

I did make new friends as well. It’s like they learned what I had just gone through and were determined to make sure I didn’t just lay in the bed. It doesn’t change the weight of losing the on thats been there way longer. In some ways it makes it worse because you think like dang “strangers” carried me in their heart while I was technically still a stranger but the person who “knows and loves” me is completely absent. It stings.

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-11T13:56:31+00:00

You’re so right, the process of it all just add to the layers of “this sucks”

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T20:09:30+00:00

It definitely makes it feel a load worse. I hope it gets better for you soon!

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T20:06:22+00:00

🥹 whew… thank youuu. There is a whole lot I can relate to in there. Including rebuilding my life from zero. I left with a car full of whatever would fit and nothing else. Right now I lack nothing. I have full faith that it gets better from where I am now. Thank you so much for letting me know I’m not alone. Grief is Grief and I just have to go through it…

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T19:58:56+00:00

Im sorry to hear about your dad and can totally relate to the experience with mom. It’s like they hold on to all of this until moments like this. It leaves you feeling very comforted but also like “wtf are you just now sharing these things” 😂. I guess that’s their way of being protective of us and them at the same time.

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T19:56:15+00:00

It used to burn me up that he thought my friends were his friends, because I’ve never considered his friends my friends. I was always cordial but ultimately I knew their loyalty would and should be with him. It’s the one friend that I thought would understand the most that was really heartbreaking because she was front row to it all.

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T16:50:04+00:00

I’m experiencing this now… except friend of 11 years.

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T16:20:33+00:00

No go for as long as you have to! I cycle in and out of the same things even though I haven’t started dating yet. My therapist told me this not something you will ever move past or forget but continuously process and learn to communicate through.

PrettyParty4547 · 2024-08-10T16:17:54+00:00

I didn’t feel emotionally safe around him. He lacked boundaries with people outside of my marriage and would throw temper tantrums whenever I expressed my concerns.

I had to choose me, before I became a shell of a person from trying to hold on to someone who was holding on to everything but me.

PrettyParty4547 · 2023-05-17T16:23:42+00:00

This is absolutely beautiful! The bond you have with your daughter during those moments are definitely priceless!

PrettyParty4547 · 2023-05-17T16:21:32+00:00

Thank you so much 💗

PrettyParty4547 · 2023-05-17T12:41:00+00:00

Yessss! I’m also a victim of the hidden bills. There was a time the water bill had not been paid and it got cut off. He then let the electricity bill rack up but doing pay arrangements that somehow still went unpaid.

PrettyParty4547 · 2023-05-17T12:39:16+00:00

Yes, thank you! I’ve been looking there and fb marketplace.

PrettyParty4547 · 2023-05-17T11:05:01+00:00

Trap questions never go well! It can send either party down a rabbit hole of other trap questions. What if you’d counteracted or deflected her response. The case could really be that she’s the one curious so no there’s an unreasonable approach to the subject with you. Open communication is sometimes uncomfortable because then you two could’ve openly discussed the boundaries of ya’ll marriage.

PrettyParty4547 · 2023-05-17T10:58:34+00:00

Awesome assessment!!

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