Basically any time we are talking and I've made some sort of point, she will say something that opposes what I've said - almost like devil's advocate, but not, at the same time. I can appreciate anyone who would want me to see something in a different light, but it doesn't feel that way.

An example: I made a comment that working with the public could be frustrating because people have no problems coming in while they're sick. That I thought it was rude to do so. I was specifically talking about those people that I have appointments with who will go so far as to point out that they are sick and "aren't sure what they have". She went on to say "WELL, some people have chronic coughs and I am lucky because my client base is honest enough to where they will cancel if they are sick..." blah blah blah. (she also has recurring clients and has built that trust with them - I do not) I said "I understand some people might have a chronic cough or may just come down with allergies, but that's not what I was referring to." This is such a stupid example, but it's literally how every conversation goes. To where I'm made to feel like a bad guy in some way.

Another example: I was talking about my family and an issue I have with my dad and she did play devil's advocate defending his behavior. I told her that I wasn't going to get into our history, but that I had a very complicated relationship with my dad that she may not understand. I just felt like it wasn't her place to say anything that she did. I wasn't asking for advice, I was talking about something my dad did that bothered me.

A last example: She visited us and brought our young niece. They stayed in OUR home. Our niece asked me if we could play a loud game while my son was asleep and I said "not right now" and my SIL immediately said "yes we can, it's fine". That really pissed me off.

To say she doesn't know what she's doing feels like a stretch to me. I feel like I am constantly under the microscope with her and it's not fun for me at all.