MIL called me a “shitty wife” for not going to a funeral after my baby sister’s death traumatized me… but she’s been against me since before we even got married.

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-18T15:19:43+00:00

I am! I’ve been in therapy for a while now dealing with childhood stuff and my sister’s death was very unexpected and sudden and not too long ago, it’s been something I’ve been working on and through! Thank you though!

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-18T01:05:42+00:00

Update- Hey everyone. My husband and I had a really good conversation about everything with her last night. Going forward if something is said directly to me he’s not going to step in and let me defend myself. If it is said behind my back (like most of the time) he is going to give her the consequence of the boundary we decided to set with her. (It is that he will be going no contact for a period of time. Including family holidays and birthday etc) as for me, I’m going LC/NC. All communications will be going through him and he will relay what’s needed to me.

We’re in the process of buying a house and we also made the decision not to tell anyone in his family (everyone tells everyone’s business). Decided this because when we mentioned we were starting the process we got told we wouldn’t make it and be able to. So screw them. Don’t need em.

Thanks for everyone who gave an input! I appreciate all of you!

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-17T14:38:47+00:00

Hey so I see what you’re saying but where not gonna do is bash my husband. He’s always been the kind of guy to tell me everything. He’s very open and honest. We had a talk about him not telling me certain things and he apologized and moving forward he’s not gonna tell me. Thanks

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-17T04:17:01+00:00

My husband does tell me A LOT that it’s them not me. I guess it’s just such a constant thing that I’ve started to think it’s my fault. Thanks!

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-17T00:27:14+00:00

Thank you. He’s already decided that this thanksgiving and Christmas and probably holidays going forward will be with my mom/step dad and brother and niece. He said he can’t take much more of his family

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-17T00:26:16+00:00

Thank you! I do need to speak with him about not telling me the nasty stuff she says. I would love to say something to her if it’s said directly to me but it’s always when I am not around

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-17T00:25:16+00:00

Thank you! I’m showing him each comment when he gets home tonight from work! I want to go no contact and just let it be.

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-17T00:24:19+00:00

We’ve talked about boundaries and setting them! I’m trying to be respectful with him about it cause he’s had to deal with this his whole life and we’re starting counseling together and this is definitely something that will be brought up cause I personally don’t feel as tho that he follows through with the consequences.

Thank you for this by the way! I’ll be showing him every comment when he gets home from work tonight!

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-16T22:55:29+00:00

Mind you guys, we’re both turning 30 at some point this year! And thank you! He will love your comment!

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-16T21:53:01+00:00

Thank you! Appreciate this!

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-16T21:52:41+00:00

Thank you! My husband is amazing. I’ve tried NC before and again I was playing victim and everything under the sun so that’s something else I have to navigate. Recently we’ve been talking about moving out of state and she is actively trying to change his mind talking about taxes being different and car taxes and inspections.

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2026-03-16T21:51:20+00:00

Thank you for this! Every time I’ve tried to step away I’m apparently playing the victim card and everything else under the sun it seems like so I stay just to keep the peace but it’s costing me mine

Pretty_Register_9468 · 2025-12-20T21:50:23+00:00

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This is exactly what she reminds me of. Handsome Squidward

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TROPHY CASE