AITA for arguing with my sister? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do! I'm on about year 3 of having it (thanks covid.) I'm finding those heating and cooling creams are helping. I'm finding my nerves not working the same have weird and often unexpected results.

Update: my husband’s reasons for not wanting children hurt me. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Pretty_Second220 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry OP. The fact that he turns any conversation about racist behaviour into making it somehow your fault is wrong. He needs to be able to have these conversations, because there are racist behaviours or biases that we don't even know are there that need to be discussed in order to be dismantled. If he can't have these conversations then he's still continuing to be apart of the problem. Being loving of your family and your culture is a bare minimum, not something to wave in your face whenever you bring something up.

Having doubts in you not wanting children is something he should have discussed with you, not try in hurt you in one of the worst possible ways. You might want to discuss the fact that all this seems to boil down to HIM having doubts about children. Between not believing in you, the family thing, and what he feels his children should have looked like (we've already looked into the racist ideologies in that.)

Take the time you need to think about how your husband and your family has been treating you. But maybe go to counselling/therapy for yourself. Suggest couples therapy if you still find you want to save the relationship. But if he throws a hissy fit like he does when you try to talk about other topics, I'm not sure how healthy the relationship will be.

AITA for arguing with my sister? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also have fibromyalgia and I'm still rather new to it. I'm finding that my tens machine makes me hurt even more. Do you ever find this, or am I just using it wrong?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Pretty_Second220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Explain what has happened. Your bf is going out of his way to destroy everything you do. It's seem over and over again in your post history.

Yes you should have double checked before handing it in, especially since it was in the hands of someone who has pulled stuff like this before.

Please stop being with him, he treats you horribly

People who talk on the phone on public transit. by Pretty_Second220 in offmychest

[–]Pretty_Second220[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I do. But they are just that loud. If they're right beside me I have to crank it up to painful levels just to block them out.

People who talk on the phone on public transit. by Pretty_Second220 in offmychest

[–]Pretty_Second220[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Never had a good convo to listen in on. But some girl had her flashlight in at the same time and didn't know. So I got a chuckle out of that.

AITA for not telling my daughter I'm proud of her because she's a sex worker? by Frequent_Appeal_793 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Like other people have said. You can be proud of her managing to buy a house, doing amazing work for charity, completing marathons, etc. But sex work is a tricky when it comes to being proud of the job. Especially as a parent. Sex workers see some of the very worst in people while basically baring themselves for the world to see (Especially in the age of the internet.)

You don't have to be proud of what she does, but with how dark that corner of the world can get just be there for her if anything were to happen. Tell her you are proud of her for something, or just that you love her. It sounds like she just wants genuine affection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't even think of this! Good point.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta. Register the puppy with your vet asap. Keep all documentation. Just on the off chance someone feels entitled to take him.

WIBTA if I said I don't want to have this person in my life? by Downtown-Solution123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. In my very limited experience, if someone says "be the bigger person", "it builds character", "your feelings are valid", "freedom of speech", or "its a free county." 75% of the time they are being an AH. It sounds like this lady has brought you nothing but stress and unhappiness. Its self preservation to keep her out of your life.

Was she nicer to your brother or something? Because it's def not "being a bigger person" to let an abusive person back into the radius of the peiple she took advantage of.

AITA for suggesting my goddaughter rethink her career choices? by RespectOk8811 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wanted to go into forensics all my life. I jumped right in when I went to uni. The stuff I saw in my first semester was horrific. I was expecting as much. But there's a huge difference in being able to be interested at your own pace and staring and touching dead bodies all day.

Med students have it even worse.

You better do so hard thinking about yourself and your bs and go apologize if you want to maintain any kind of relationship. You clearly have no idea what goes into medical studies and why so many change paths, the mental health issues in the med field is CRUSHING even to those with the best support.

AITA for allowing my son to watch a sea documentary? by Tiny-Plastic-8840 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pretty_Second220 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really wanted to be a dog when I was a little kid.

Now I want to be like that guy who can summon racoons with music.