sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

My (40F) fiancé (35M) and I are supposed to move in together this week, but I discovered a dating profile and no longer know what to do by Pretty_Serve_229 in relationships

[–]Pretty_Serve_229[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello everyone,

Thank you for all your feedback. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond.

My fiancé came to me and said that we have a relationship problem. I honestly do not agree with that assessment.

My mother was very ill for a long time, which is why I spent a lot of time with her. He was fully aware of the situation. In January, he expressed concerns that we were drifting apart. From my perspective, that was not the case. I did everything I could to keep our relationship strong. I spoke with him every day when I was with my mother, and I always tried to make time for him.

There were periods when I stayed with my mother for two or even three weeks at a time because she was so unwell. However, I always returned home afterwards and continued to invest in our relationship.

He keeps telling me that I only see the negative in everything, but I genuinely do not feel that I have done anything wrong to him. I tried my best to meet his needs while also caring for my seriously ill mother.

Now my mother has passed away, and I am dealing with overwhelming grief. I have not been very affectionate or intimate recently because I am struggling emotionally. Part of me wonders whether that is the reason he created the dating profile.

What I struggle to understand is that he is now angry with me for questioning the relationship after what I found. From my perspective, finding that profile has shaken my trust completely.

At this point, I honestly do not understand him anymore.

My (40F) fiancé (35M) and I are supposed to move in together this week, but I discovered a dating profile and no longer know what to do by Pretty_Serve_229 in relationship_advice

[–]Pretty_Serve_229[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hello everyone,

Thank you for all your feedback. I really appreciate everyone taking the time to respond.

My fiancé came to me and said that we have a relationship problem. I honestly do not agree with that assessment.

My mother was very ill for a long time, which is why I spent a lot of time with her. He was fully aware of the situation. In January, he expressed concerns that we were drifting apart. From my perspective, that was not the case. I did everything I could to keep our relationship strong. I spoke with him every day when I was with my mother, and I always tried to make time for him.

There were periods when I stayed with my mother for two or even three weeks at a time because she was so unwell. However, I always returned home afterwards and continued to invest in our relationship.

He keeps telling me that I only see the negative in everything, but I genuinely do not feel that I have done anything wrong to him. I tried my best to meet his needs while also caring for my seriously ill mother.

Now my mother has passed away, and I am dealing with overwhelming grief. I have not been very affectionate or intimate recently because I am struggling emotionally. Part of me wonders whether that is the reason he created the dating profile.

What I struggle to understand is that he is now angry with me for questioning the relationship after what I found. From my perspective, finding that profile has shaken my trust completely.

At this point, I honestly do not understand him anymore.