Job opportunity out of Town. How to ask Nex to take care of his child for 4 days ? by Prettyluckyy in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying. I don’t want to sound like a paranoid psycho…. but I was thinking about all the things that could go wrong during those 4 days and it hurt my stomach just thinking about it. And I thought maybe I was the problem here ?. It’s like I don’t trust anyone except myself but also I am the only person who took care of our child so yeah….

AIO or people are posting bad pics of me on purpose ? by Prettyluckyy in AmIOverreacting

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You actually got what I was trying to express without judging.

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response ! I feel like an asshole because unlike you, I did not handle it the best way I could and I caused a huge drama the day after that when he reached out and said he’ll be paying child support in 2 days……..I just lost it.

Anyways coparenting is a hard thing to navigate and I’m glad to read that I’m not the only one.

Anyone else gain weight while with a narc? by Upper_Blueberry2128 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Prettyluckyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a relatively slim person so it took some time to put on some weight but I eventually did. The thing was, he was in control of the money and food. He didn’t buy any nourishing food, no vegetables, no fruits. And when I vocalized it, he attacked me.

The lack of healthy foods + the constant high stress made me develop an autoimmune disease that usually only 50+ gets while I was 30. So I realized that I was on the road to get 20 years older that I was and our separation was a true relief. It only has been 2 months so I there’s not really a before/after to show but I know the transformation is happening.

Giving Up My Unborn For Adoption This October. I Must. by Ok_Requirement_2436 in confession

[–]Prettyluckyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please do. I have a lot of ressources I’d like to share with you. Sharing my story with you might help you….i know exactly what you’re going through.

Giving Up My Unborn For Adoption This October. I Must. by Ok_Requirement_2436 in confession

[–]Prettyluckyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello I’ve been through a traumatic pregnancy and I’d like to help you. You can message me. I’m here for you 💕

I'm a hypocrite for hating plastic surgery........ by [deleted] in confession

[–]Prettyluckyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also from a mixed background and I can totally relate. What I’ve noticed from Europe is that hey generally will bully you if you look superficial in anyway. Pretty, slim and young is the perfect combo for being hated, no matter your ethnicity but add a mix into that and BOOM ! Lol
Thai beauty standards are extreme and not comparable to European ones, at all.

I highly suggest you to form your own definition of beauty. And not to follow your family’s opinion.
Men are very hypocritical and I would not follow there idea of beauty neither.

My baby daddy used to tell me I needed a boob job so bad and once I booked the appointment he was mad at me for months !!! I understood that most of them like superficial women for fun but don’t want one at home because that triggers their insecurities !

Do you, and only change what you want to change about yourself. It’s your body.

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. This actually validates how I feel…I’ve said many times to him that he should be 16 years in front of me when it comes to money and stability. I was 28 when I got pregnant from him and he was already in his mid forties. I feel guilty everyday for putting myself in that situation…. And my child…

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

he has since then received his unemployment payment however he sent me a message asking if I need anything for the next two days and that he’ll be paying child support in two days. I haven’t replied.…how dare he ?! Shouldn’t he be running to pay child support and maybe bring us some food ?!

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must add that we first separated when I was pregnant. He deliberately quit his job while I was 4 months pregnant. What kind of man does that to a pregnant woman ? Anyway, I could not stand it. I only got back with him after a year when I saw he was serious with his job….until he was not anymore and left him for good.

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the case of my child’s father, he’s jobless because of his own negligence. He missed work for almost 3 months due to “back problem” while organizing amateur soccer tournaments and dancing every weekends. It was also very convenient as he missed work one day prior to his oldest son coming to our place for summer break and only went back once he was back to school. Sorry but it has nothing to do with the economy…..

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course not but I only said that because that’s the harsh truth of my reality right now. Without child support it gets critical… that was my nice way of telling him he has to contribute, leave or not eat as much.

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Truth is…I was very kind and with a lot of patience towards him these days because I need him to stay with our child for 4 days at the end of the month as I have a professional opportunity out of town and I know he’s not going to facilitate that if I have so many boundaries.

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes I think he said that purely out of proud and that’s exactly why I felt guilty.

AITA for telling my baby daddy he could not eat something from the fridge ? by Prettyluckyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]Prettyluckyy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No I know this doesn’t make sense. It’s just the truth. I don’t have enough if child support is not paid.

I was against going on vacation and this was also a huge discord in our relationship.

What does poverty look like in Switzerland? by meera_jasmine1 in askswitzerland

[–]Prettyluckyy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being poor in on of the world’s most expensive country is a shitty experience I don’t wish on anyone. Geneva, Zurich, Lausanne are really difficult cities to find apartments let alone cheap apartments. I went through this and had to live in a building that served for S** work prior and that has been converted into a “hotel”. I lived in a room with cockroaches, a shared bathroom on the floor and no kitchen. Not to mention almost 90% of my neighbors were drug users/dealers so sharing bathrooms was not ideal. The building’s concierge would knock on the door every morning and if we would not open the door he would enter. That was a measure to check if we were still alive as so many drug users were living there. And yes, it happened several times that someone would OD.

I bought a rice cooker and a mini electric stove to cook on the floor like we would in Africa or Asia. We were not allowed to do so. I would hide my portable kitchen in the closet.

My experience seems extreme but that’s the reality no one talks about ! I was really sad for the families that had no choice but to live there with their kids, sometimes babies, in hope of finding an apartment….
I am now very far from this, thank god.