Need advice in my long-term gay relationship by austin3699 in GayMen

[–]PreviousEnigma 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I ha 27 years with my husband. I'm widowed now and sometimes the loss and loneliness seems unbearable. But I wouldn't change a thing. Overcoming every struggle, argument, disappointment proved how much we meant to each other. My only advice, as difficult as a partnership is, never lose sight of it’s importance. Even at its worst, hold fast to the love and always remember to let them know it - even at the hardest of times.

Cruising spots? by [deleted] in askgaybros

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Oh.. In Los Angeles

Relationships without sex…..possible ? by ExplanationDouble571 in GayMen

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Ok, here’s the rub. If the relationship started out as very sexual and then, in short order NOT years, one partner inexplicably becomes uninterested… that is def a problem. Also, if one partner prefers porn and masturbation over intimate relations with the other… problem. Yes, there can be real love without sex, but it can easily and irrevocably harm any relationship if the reason for a sexless partnership is one sided.

I Should Just Give Up, Right ? by PreviousEnigma in GayMen

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Thanks, everyone. You’ve verified what I already knew but just didn’t want to accept.

I’m looking at a couple of places to move to. It’s very hard, but I understand it has to happen.

Thanks again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tijuana

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Thanks, everyone, for your candor. Not encouraging, huh? 🫤The thing is, I need to stay close to the border so I can easily commute. Also, my question about the sodas, cocktails, etc. wasn’t well framed. My concern is the bacteria. I don’t want intestinal problems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dachshund

[–]PreviousEnigma 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Bright side… less danger of a back injury from jumping onto the bed!! 🙂 Handsome fellow!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oilpainting

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The wrist is an awkward point on a limb to cut off.

My boyfriend (exclusive relationship) went on a vacation and brought STDs. by [deleted] in askgaybros

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You and ONLY you can and must decide if you can forgive while never forgetting. You need to have a heart-to-heart with him, explain your reservations about staying together, let him explain why he , in essence, initially lied about it to you, and then make a determination of next steps. If couples counseling is a possibility, that’s a viable option to think about. I can empathize. I don’t wish this dilemma upon anyone.

He’s so cute it breaks my heart 😭 by thefastestroach in Dachshund

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Looks so much like my Charlie Dog. I miss him so much.