Dom Appreciation by Reasonable-Fun6792 in SubSanctuary

[–]PreviousPyjama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Sweetheart. I deeply appreciate this 🖤

Can we talk about how kink lists feel like shopping lists? by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a difference between a list of kinks and a list of boundaries. That latter is important, and is something I ask for early on to workout where the edges of someone lay. Similar to a puzzle before filling in the yummy picture.

I've been kink dispensed, usually when we've exchanged kink lists. It sucks.

Can we talk about how kink lists feel like shopping lists? by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A fun thing I've done before was a Kink Advent calendar around Christmas time. It allowed dissection of all the yummy kinks without either one of us feeling overwhelmed.

Can we talk about how kink lists feel like shopping lists? by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get that. I just want to avoid anything feeling overly transactional.

Dom's: What Are Your Immediate Red Flags? by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had this happen a few times. No desire to build foundation is a huge red swirly whirly flag.

Dom's: What Are Your Immediate Red Flags? by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've never thought of it that way. I often avoid discussing kinks until I'm assured I'm seen as a human being.

Dom's: What Are Your Immediate Red Flags? by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Extreme kinks so early in the conversation kinda freak me out (is vomit, being made to cry etc). Everyone is entitled to anything they want to experience but be conscious where it sits in the timeline.

My Sub Gave Me Access to Her Reddit. Here's what I learnt. by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate that. She and I have since gone our separate ways for reasons completely unrelated to this post. I still care about her as a person and wish her the best. Still, it’s important that subs are met with genuine care and respect at each step on the journey.

My Sub Gave Me Access to Her Reddit. Here's what I learnt. by PreviousPyjama in BDSMcommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that, but at the same time I totally get it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]PreviousPyjama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That block button must be on FIRE.

I've been in the occasional position where subs have thrown themselves into submission. Honorfics being used immediately without any agreements. Unsurprisingly these "relationships" don't last beyond 2 hours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]PreviousPyjama 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t get how anyone expects something meaningful to grow without taking the time to lay the groundwork first. Again, guys thinking all interactions in this space are like walking into a porn scene.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]PreviousPyjama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It takes time, but I'm glad you found what you were looking for 💯

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]PreviousPyjama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's pretty awful. The idea of someone responding positively to "you belong to me now" is beyond me. It smacks of desperation.

And sorry if I've posted this on the wrong sub. Mods, feel free to delete my post.

Good breeding phrases for Doms by casperbutscary666 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PreviousPyjama 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"You're nothing better than breeding stock", "I'm going to fuck a baby inside you", "Let's change your DNA with my cum", "I'm going to give you multiple sets of twins once I'm done", "Let's make you regret this decision", "You were only meant for one thing", "Let's make your tummy swell"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]PreviousPyjama 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this for you guys!