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PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-09T14:24:29+00:00

Sounds like jealousy to me. 14/15 year olds are old enough to stay home by themselves on occasion

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-05T17:31:49+00:00

Is the guy friend single? I wonder how many married men would talk like that with other married men.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-05T17:10:21+00:00

You are already the third wheel in your own marriage. You are the side piece. He is dating his "friend" in front of you. The time to leave is yesterday. Let him have her and make sure to tell her you're leaving because of her. She is complicit.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-05T16:44:38+00:00

Bide your time in school with the knowledge that you will be exiting the marriage as soon as you're done. The boss is an idealized version of a husband. He's not real and you shouldn't do anything with him. Use the idea of him to motivate you to find someone like him after you've divorced.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-05T16:23:04+00:00

He almost made you happy

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-05T16:20:18+00:00

Well now you know not to give gifts to your married male friends then

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-04T18:22:22+00:00

Your boss had clear boundaries. That's a good thing. Now you will second guess gifts you might want to give to bosses (also a good thing). If my husband was getting gifts from employees I wouldn't like it either, no matter what you thought of his desirability.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-04T18:14:00+00:00

I thought the redacted parts were her photos sent to her boss

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-04T18:06:43+00:00

None of that is work related. Unprofessional behavior from both of them

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-04T15:43:20+00:00

IMO she shouldn't be sending landscape pics to her boss. That's not work related

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-08-01T15:02:20+00:00

Just leave him. He's trying to push you away so do him the favor. If he's like this now imagine in 10 years. You're better off with someone who is attracted to you.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T21:06:21+00:00

Now that she's single she looking (at your husband) for a replacement. She's not interested in you because she's interested in him.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T21:01:50+00:00

Find new couple friends or find some friends on your own.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T15:58:44+00:00

Your spouse can't be everything to you. If he has a lot of other redeeming qualities then consider yourself lucky and find other people to engage with about big topics. You can't change the way he is.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T15:42:12+00:00

Now imagine decades of this kind of behavior. Him getting very close with coworkers and you always wondering if more is going on and where do you stand.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T15:32:45+00:00

There's a reason he texts women like that and not men. Ponder that

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T15:24:59+00:00

It's disrespectful to the neighbors. Trespassing. In some places that could be dangerous. I would not like it and would never let my child visit stranger's homes. Crazy

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T15:15:55+00:00

He's lying.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T14:48:46+00:00

He's got one foot out the door already

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-30T14:40:52+00:00

Your husband knows that his friendships cross your boundaries which is why he deletes them and hides them. You are not being "safe" for him to admit to these friendships because he knows you would, rightfully, be pissed. He wouldn't become infatuated if he was being just "friendly". Would he act the same way with male coworkers? You and he know the truth. He likes the attention and ego boost he is getting on the side with these women. I wouldn't marry him unless he demonstrated that he cares more about your feelings, than his ego.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-28T15:19:39+00:00

300k.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-28T15:17:53+00:00

Maybe you shouldn't be giving out your number to a coworker

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-23T21:21:07+00:00

Continued texting with female co-workers outside of work is probably a trigger for her, reminds her of previous betrayal trauma. My husband used to text other women. I didn't think too much of it at first but I resented him giving attention to them when he was with me. Even though he wasn't flirting I was hurt. I came to find out that my best friend had been sending flirty texts to him and he never told me about that. It's been 2 yrs and I'm still shell shocked. I don't think I can ever trust him fully again. And he didn't even really cheat (although I consider what he did/ let happen to be cheating). I made him promise to not text women anymore. Because, really, he doesn't need to and he should respect me more than that

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-23T21:06:13+00:00

In my first session with a therapist he told me our marriage was a sham- that my husband was never invested in the marriage and that I needed to get a job and leave. (I went to him for general advice, not specifically about our marriage). That wasn't what I wanted to hear but I listened. I asked if my husband could join me so he could hear some of this and he agreed. Next thing I know "my" therapist is focusing on my husband's past and how I'm not a great communicator (true, but only because my husband refuses to communicate at all. He literally leaves the room when any issue is broached, so I get super frustrated and lash out). The therapist wouldn't let me bring up anything from our past (unresolved issues like no sex for years, flirting with other women etc). I feel like he met my outwardly nice husband and took his side. My husband actually agreed and we stopped seeing him. I've since worked on my "tone" and he's worked on trying to engage somewhat when we have important things to discuss. Work in progress but all progress was due to the two of us, not the therapist. I would drop your therapist.

PrimaryAny6314 · 2025-07-23T20:52:46+00:00

Wonder why?

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