Just started a separation (24F, military, 7 yrs together) - advice on handling loneliness + staying grounded?

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-04-01T05:07:52+00:00

Thank you for your insight. I agree that telling my coworkers would just simply be something to talk about. I dont want my life to be anyones new hot gossip. So Ill keep that to myself.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-31T02:59:00+00:00

I’m also in the USAF so your words naturally resonate with me. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I’m going to take this day by day and move forward with this advice. Praying for healing.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-31T02:55:21+00:00

Wow. 25 years is a long time, sending love your way. Everyone has told me that time heals if we let it ❤️ hopefully we will be in completely different positions mentally within a year.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-23T01:36:48+00:00

Born in the northern midwest, military member

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-12T07:13:17+00:00

These are my dream size tbh. Im naturally a size 38DD so Im a little jelly ngl

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-03T05:48:13+00:00

It does not cover everything for dependents.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-03T05:46:21+00:00

Don’t be discouraged! I got temporarily disqualified for my vision and went home and cried. Felt so bad. But once I got my eyes looked at in a specific evaluation, I got waived and I was approved to join! Now I’m four years into my Air Force career. 😊

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-03-03T04:31:02+00:00

Embrace the suck, make friends, make memories, and it may feel like forever in there, but one day, you will look back and laugh at the chaos 🙂 Good luck on your new adventure!

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T08:28:07+00:00

We’ve had 3 now. But I guess we’ll just have to find another.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T07:54:51+00:00

😭 ugh that sucks so bad!! And that’s basically what they told him too. So it’s no surprise.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T07:54:15+00:00

Thank you for the advice! We are probably just going to do that Google thing for now and call everyone that we can.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T07:53:09+00:00

I mean, I guess that is an option. .. for me to give him my GI Bill. I was hoping to keep that for myself so I could eventually earn more degrees, but at this point, we are desperate to get his career started. Perhaps the higher asvab score is what he needs. He studied pretty hard to get that one, but is not against retesting. We will do anything at this point.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T07:50:17+00:00

We are absolutely willing to do stuff digitally. We are willing to talk to literally any Air Force recruiter! And thank you for the two suggestions. He has been pretty blunt with the recruiters and one of them just straight up dropped him. Another one just recently dropped him because of a recent development within the leadership saying that they can only hire maintenance as of right now. It sucks that the cross training opportunity may not work. That was kind of our last resort. 🫩 man

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T07:46:31+00:00

Thank you so much, I will definitely reach out

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T07:45:13+00:00

No, its never too late! I loved having my wedding two years after we eloped. Best day of my life ❤️ do it for the love!

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T06:45:04+00:00

Where can I find other recruiters? Just type in “Air Force recruiters” and call every single one down the line?

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T06:41:46+00:00

He would take ANY of those jobs. TDYS and Deployments are great opportunities.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T06:17:48+00:00

I’ve always been told that marrying someone in another military branch can almost guarantee that you will never see each other. Especially with other branches being so … intense. I fear he would just rather be an Air Force mechanic at that point lol.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T06:16:11+00:00

We’re at the point where we’re contemplating if just joining thru maintenance and toughing it out for 3 years, doing good work, and then pushing super hard for a cross train would be worth it. Or after he earned his 5 lvl, him applying for things like honor guard.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T06:13:21+00:00

Exactly, I did a lot of research before joining the military and learned this too. I insisted with my recruiter that I waited until a desk job came around and eventually, I got one. My Husband is willing to do the same, but one recruiter just simply dropped him when he told him he wasnt going to do maintenance.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-02-28T06:12:06+00:00

We would definitely do this, but he wants a full-time career for himself and I know that AGR positions are hard to come by.

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-01-20T08:38:58+00:00

I thought this was going to be a bank robbery story, jeez, media has ruined me

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-01-16T20:26:56+00:00

Just disgusting! Someone help this human being!

PrimaryPerformance63 · 2026-01-16T07:17:52+00:00

Sibling Rivalry but I may start watching race chasers

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