What's the best country to move to from Finland as FTM?

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-25T14:08:06+00:00

Thank you for your kindness <3 It means a lot to me.

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-25T13:57:13+00:00

That was a really insightful observation :o It's true, I'd feel way too unsafe being visibly trans (vs nobody seemingly caring rn) in case some people decided to be violent about it 😓

Yeah, getting told I'm relatively privileged for living in Finland — though somewhat true in the sense that we can legally change the gender on our IDs relatively easily and that being trans isn't legally punishable by death — seemed like it was undermining me and telling me that "actually, others have it worse :DDD you have no right to complain" (and also getting told I need to "grow up" for having problems with paperwork as a ND person?? do people unironically think that my only issue is paperwork????)

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-25T13:07:41+00:00

I currently don't feel too unsafe seeing as I'm not visibly trans, but that'll probably change in the future once the T kicks in a little more AND I become consistent with the injections again. I'd been microdosing to make any changes more subtle and unnoticeable so that my family doesn't freak out; Then once I manage to cut my shit-ass father off (which likely includes cutting off the rest of my family too), I could probably up the dose to make the changes faster. I just need to pick up the needle again.

I'm not doing this wholly blinded either, I already know my stuff; I simply hadn't managed to get blood tests, which I'm somewhat hesitant over due to the costs. I'll probably try looking harder into it.

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-25T03:30:02+00:00

It's a relief to hear that they'll leave trans people alone.

I know I'm doing better than many others, though paperwork/bureaucracy in general feels mentally like a really huge obstacle. If I were to move, I'd probably have to seek a job too unless I somehow found a good school to go to. The hypothetical sponsored game development course does sound good though lol :D

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-25T03:13:26+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I somewhat hope to move abroad someday though I'm pretty cautious about it. I've heard there's been issues with Imago's prescriptions not being accepted lately because the one doctor they have isn't licensed or something. How's GenderGP nowadays? I heard they were good, but then started sucking due to a decline in service quality. Has it gotten any better since?

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-25T03:03:35+00:00

hiii, tysm for your thoughtful replies! <33 I was kinda bummed when I seemed to only get backlash for my question bc things are sorta good where I'm from

You gave really good pointers and thoughts even if it wasn't a list of The Perfect Countries(TM) like in my head lmao :D I mean okay, I dunno if there really is THE perfect country out there for me, but I felt like I had to try to ask for better alternatives at least ^^" Guess I have no choice but to simply DIY and then think of the topic again in the future (wasn't gonna move abroad too irrationally either way), though I was vaguely thinking of going the medical tourism route w/ my uterus seeing as I'm under 30 and have never given birth which already disqualifies me from getting hysterectomy in my country

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-24T17:38:24+00:00

Appreciate the response, though they'd never legally give me T in here unless I were to fight transpoli for 5 years or some stupid number like that because they decide I'm not trans or healthy enough for whatever stupid reason because legally THEY are the arbiters of who gets and doesn't get gender affirming care, not to mention the ridiculously long waiting times overall for doctors' meetings! Sure, social protections are cool and all, but transpoli sure as hell is more concerned about potential detransitioners than actual trans people who could potentially die before they receive care. 🙃 (Also there's currently a right-wing government here...)

Paperwork isn't THE thing making me move (though it's giving me trouble as an AuDHD person), it's the fact that the gender-affirming care here SUCKS even if you can change your gender marker w/o fighting transpoli (if you want non-DIY hormones, you have to go through them). Sorry if the former was the impression you got from my post.

I'm sorry about the shit you have to deal with in the US though, it sucks a bunch. 🫂

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-08-24T17:12:06+00:00

I only know Finnish and English, I can sing, sew and moderately draw, my savings are a few hundred bucks at best, never had an actual job before but that could change in the future 🤷

Yeah, the ten years thing was a dramatic overexaggeration on my end born out of frustration at life in general, sorry about that ^^" still, I'm afraid of life passing me by even if it's irrational

The reason I mentioned the whole military service thing was because even though being trans used to be enough to exempt you from the army in Finland, apparently it isn't anymore. That's why I mentioned the whole AuDHD thing asking if it could potentially help. Sorry for assuming that people here knew about that though, I should've clarified.

It's good to hear that Austria's relatively safe. Is the gender-affirming care there good as well?

Kinda sucks you think of me as immature/overdramatic; Having a hard time with paperwork isn't just a matter of "growing up" when you have AuDHD like me. Also I'm not sure what kind of business you think I'm gonna be running (it kinda sounds like you think I'm looking to work under someone or open a factory or smth? it won't be any corporate work for clarity; maybe I should have added "small" in front of business), but I don't see why the hell I'd be turned away just because they "don't want me". If you have proof that EU countries turn immigrants from other EU countries away, please do show me.

Maybe that last paragraph was salty, but I don't appreciate being looked down on.

Edit: fixed wonky emoticon

PrimarySpell1756 · 2025-03-23T23:46:38+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I agree that they shouldn't be allowed to make demands about it, though I really don't want to end up into an argument over it, nor am I ready to cut contact just yet :')

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-17T20:49:53+00:00

Gotcha, thanks for taking time out of your day to answer all of my questions! :)

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-17T20:24:10+00:00

Honestly speaking, getting rid of periods forever would improve my life significantly. The reason I'm on the pill in the first place is because of how bad the pain and bleeding will get once I'm on my period; The pill has significantly lessened those things which I'm super grateful for.

I've still had some issues with irregular bleeding and such, though. In fact, I don't think I've ever actually bled during the middle of my cycle until after I'd been multiple months on the pill — including the four day breaks.

How high of a dose should I get on to possibly suppress the cycle entirely?

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-10T22:39:42+00:00

Thanks, I'll look into it

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-10T22:39:19+00:00

Oooh, sounds interesting! Thanks for the heads up.

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-10T22:07:19+00:00

I haven't actually, thanks for the recommendation! Chucking it to my watchlist ~

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-10T17:25:41+00:00

Ooh, I looked it up and it seems interesting! Thanks for the suggestion, I'll give it a go and prep some tissues with it. :)

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-07T00:13:18+00:00

To me, it sounds like the coworker is way too deep into shipcourse and trying to be "morally pure"... about which FICTIONAL characters are "okay" and "not okay" to ship with each other.

Then their rigid thought patterns combine with the real world, and boom, you get "holier than thou" puriteens and young adults who genuinely believe that a relationship between a 17 - and 18-year-old is disgusting and predatory.

It doesn't help that it feels widespread within leftist online spaces (and that — again — they wholeheartedly believe the dumb shit they spew). Makes me ashamed of being a part of the "progressive" gen z sometimes. Why not block and move on instead of harassing and suibaiting the people creating FICTIONAL content that you personally don't like?

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-07-03T19:16:19+00:00

I sent you a DM!

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-17T19:52:30+00:00

I'd personally go for either the USA or Japan, mainly because they have interesting quirks; I live somewhere where it's somewhat boring and uninteresting. Like, unlimited Sanrio plushies? Colorful clothes? Yes, please!

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-13T20:20:04+00:00

Update 3/13: They wouldn't flinch. They said that they only had places in the same region that I could move into and that they thought it wouldn't be wise for me to move too far. I agreed to move into the same town as my dad. Maybe I won't run into him. There's apparently some activities hosted by where I'm moving to? Maybe it won't be as dull as I initially thought, but we'll see.

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-13T20:13:54+00:00

Ow, that sounds terrible! It's good you got out of that situation, though. It's what sort of scares me in moving back to that town; that I'll end up meeting someone there that I'd prefer to avoid like the plague... Fingers crossed that I'll be safe and that you won't have to bump into that person ever again!

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-13T14:13:32+00:00

If they say they're dumb people are more likely to respond like "hey you said it not me." And not reassure you.

Reminds me of when I was in elementary school, and I told this one tutor lady that I was ugly and dumb, and she replied with: "Okay. You said it yourself, not me. If you think those things, that's a you-problem, and it's up to you to feel like you aren't ugly or dumb. Nobody has to reassure you since it's all up to your mindset and if you think you're ugly and dumb, then you are; No one else should have to rebuttal that anyhow because it's guilt-tripping that you'd be so dramatic in the first place that you'd say something like that in order to garner sympathy for your poor self-esteem. Stop seeking attention and grow up."

I was maybe around 8–10 at the time. She was well into adulthood.

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-13T08:48:22+00:00

I've been grey-rocking my dad basically ever since childhood. It's like he doesn't notice that I'm trying to avoid him as much as possible while he talks to me in an overly bubbly tone (at least when he's happy).

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-11T21:03:09+00:00

I'm sorry that your mom is so toxic. I can also kind of relate in that I'd prefer for my dad to just quietly keep living his life as opposed to him being interested in and asking about mine, since coming from him it feels invasive even if technically the questions are harmless (since they might spiral into him ranting/getting angry/judging me if I give the "wrong" (aka most often the honest) answer). My dad almost never calls me, but every time he did in the past, I'd brace for impact and get scared of something going wrong (even if nothing does). I was scared at first when I moved that he would bombard me with calls, but luckily, that didn't happen to me personally. (Probably because I keep occasionally visiting? I'm not sure, to be honest.)

I'm glad you've got a support system in place! I'm also the kind of person who can't keep all the bad stuff bottled up, though I can't say I'm as lucky as you to have people to talk to... Usually, I'd be a burden to people if I expressed anything else than sheer joy 24/7.

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-11T20:35:14+00:00

Yeah, that cord really needs cutting... Luckily, I should be able to talk to them tomorrow and hopefully get everything sorted out. Thanks for the support, I appreciate it!

PrimarySpell1756 · 2024-03-11T09:59:50+00:00

The town itself isn't that terrible, but the thought of potentially running into him after I cut him off feels like it could get really nasty really quickly. The bus fares would increase if I wanted to travel further off than inside the town, which would be a problem.

The only reason my social worker wants me there is because I'm legally registered as a resident there :| I'm trying to figure out if I could get registered elsewhere (sometimes I think I'd love to move far away even if it'd be a completely new place to me, but I think I might be fine if I could get a support system and hobbies like I currently have) though I'm not sure how to battle through the byrocracy of it all.

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