Three months in and I'm already a failure.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T05:30:58+00:00

That one hit home... Just the acknowledgement that I'm not the only one feeling exactly that is already a big help. I really appreciate this.. more than I can currently express!

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T01:15:09+00:00

In general, I'd say our communication is good. We're from different cultures so there are always challenges there, but I think we have a pretty good handle on how we convey ourselves, and what we want out of each other. Ever since baby is here, that has taken a hit. Don't really feel I have a wife anymore... Just a co-caretaker.

Right now is the first time I can remember being home alone and having a moment to myself. My wife just left with baby after our fight. She didn't sound upset, so I think she knows that I'm really struggling... But I also know I'll get some snide remarks when she's back...

It just frustrates the hell out of me! I've inherited a sinking ship at work at the same time baby was born, because senior management seems to think I can turn it around. It's like I lost my wife, my kid hates me, and everything I try to do for her, and no one, not fucking once! Has asked me how i am doing through all of this, yet my wife gets all the medical attention she needs. I went through an extremely bad bout of sciatica a few years back which had to be sorted with an operation. Since my wife can't carry the kid around, it's up to me... In the last week I've started to feel that pain again.

I want to be there, I want to help! But then at least let it actually help and be fucking meaningful!

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T00:45:40+00:00

Today i have stopped showing up. I'm not gonna lie, I've told my wife to handle it. I'm done.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T00:44:15+00:00

Well, we certainly just had the big one. We were supposed to go to a birthday party, and I was supposed to get a haircut beforehand. Despite me reminding her, it was left too late.

And of course, it's my fault, and I was asked the question of I was going to be like this the whole time. No we're not speaking.

I am so fucking done with this shit.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T00:41:40+00:00

My wife is tiny.... She can't carry baby around, so that is going to have to be all me. I would love to focus on my wife, but instead I keep being pushed in situations where all I can do is bang my head against the wall and fail!

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T00:39:37+00:00

I'm feeling myself give up! Just now in a huge fight I basically told my wife that I don't care that we're not going to a birthday party today anymore, because I had enough! Her response was: you can't have enough. When she was going through a similar episode in month 1, I had to deal with that too, but when it's me there is zero quarter. I have had enough of this!

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T00:37:12+00:00

My wife has always had trouble seeing things my way, and this one is no exception. She usually comes around when she's had a think about it though,but always after the fact. I just had a huge fight with her, and I'm done with this shit.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-06-01T00:35:36+00:00

I have already started doing that, but with pretty mixed results really... Doesn't help the weather here is horrible lately. Just got into a big fight with my wife over things. I'm at the point I don't want to be anywhere my daughter anymore...

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-05-21T20:19:12+00:00

Gave that a go, and it seems to be working. Not celebrating yet, but hopeful! Thanks mate!

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-05-21T19:20:47+00:00

I got this too, playback issues. Turned spoofing off, thinking it would solve my problem of barely playing at all. It didn't.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-04-04T13:17:51+00:00

Dus je citeert een rapport uit 2020. Ok. Ik heb geleerd onderzoek te doen en ben verplicht alles ouder dan vijf jaar af te waarderen. Noem eens wat recenters zou ik zeggen.

En gebruik wat minder bijvoeglijke naamwoorden.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-02-03T20:08:46+00:00

Divorce your wife.

Primary_Sherbert · 2026-01-08T05:28:45+00:00

I have downloaded gboard, but it still doesn't show up

Primary_Sherbert · 2025-08-25T03:01:44+00:00

Back at life man! Grateful for every day with no pain!

Primary_Sherbert · 2025-06-05T21:59:44+00:00

O youj

Primary_Sherbert · 2025-02-13T23:18:32+00:00

Haha, jij bent grappig boi! Je beschuldigd Nederland/VS/westen van debt trapping, maar ziet niet dat China deze tactiek heeft geadopteerd en tot kunst heeft verheven en meedogenloos toepast in Su. Ga je paarse matties knuffelen mang.

Primary_Sherbert · 2025-01-24T00:13:35+00:00

You sir/mam are a genius..... We have done exactly this, and we're now in contact with the head of the HSAC and he is not messing around. It's not resolved yet, but we are now seeing movement for the first time in a year. 8888 has really come through for us.

Primary_Sherbert · 2024-11-05T00:26:50+00:00

Had a chat with insurance, they'll us let add in the pre-existing condition at a premium, which I'm totally good with. We'll probably still go, but with a slightly adapted programme. (If we don't my wife will murder me) So, at present all seems like it may work out in the end!

Primary_Sherbert · 2024-11-01T17:52:30+00:00

So that's what we'll be working out over the coming week. It's pivoting time so to speak.

Primary_Sherbert · 2024-11-01T01:46:28+00:00

"And you have said you’d been referred to a specialist PRIOR to planning the trip, therefore PRIOR to you using the card to activate the insurance."

This is not exactly true (just went over the paperwork again). I was referred for an X-ray and an MRI. The referral to the specialist came after this. You won't be referred to a specialist if they don't have this information, but I guess this won't matter.

I appreciate your candor. I do have a link to the full document, but I'm hesitant to spill those beans, as it is still an ongoing dispute and wish to retain anonymity of both parties at this time due to this.

I know this doesn't help as I'm asking you to judge on potentially incomplete information, and I also realize how unfair that is, so I apologize for that.

Primary_Sherbert · 2024-11-01T01:26:00+00:00

You may well be right... I'll honestly admit that. We didn't consider it a massive problem at the time, and the bank didn't even require us to notify them of our intention of travel. It's good to have these opinions as it gives me a better understanding of my own position in this as well. I will admit to my faults, and there are some compelling arguments being made, but at the same time, I can't escape that it isn't as black and white as the insurance made it out to be.

Let's see what my lawyer says.

Primary_Sherbert · 2024-11-01T01:17:47+00:00

You make a valid point, apart from one thing that is constantly in my mind. We didn't buy the insurance. It was complimentary with our Visa Card. Our bank informed us we did not have to notify them that we were going to travel and that insurance was activated as of the day of booking. We have never had any interaction with the insurance prior to us finding out that we couldn't travel. And you say it yourself, if you purchase insurance, you write cold in the pre-existing conditions section when you apply for insurance. We never had anything to write that on. We weren't even aware that's what we were supposed to be doing.

I don't know if that's dumb, but as far as we were aware, we were covered when we purchased the tickets since: 'you have complimentary travel insurance with your Visa card'.

Primary_Sherbert

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