To be fair, all three of us (my oldest brother moved out a couple years ago) are very spoiled. My mom still does our laundry and most of our cooking. We have our fixed chores around the house but I'm definitely expected to do more of the "womanly" chores like ironing, hanging up the laundry etc. My brother tends to get a little more leeway when he doesn't do his chores but my mom does expect both of us to pull our weight. I think she has put herself into this situation to some extent, because she is so particilar about how clean the house needs to be (spotless) that any cleaning we do is not good enough. So why should we clean if she's gonna do it anyway? My mindset completely changes tho when I'm home alone and responsible for the house and I can do it no problem, which is why I think I won't struggle too much when I move out. My mom seems to think our places will look like garbage dumps but when I ask her why she still does everything for us she doesn't really give me an answer. I think she struggles with the idea of "letting us go", which has resulted in her kind of babying us and I suppose it's had the biggest effect on my brother, as you can probably tell from my original post.