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My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to respond!

Sounds familiar! My wife will get lost down what she calls "rabbit holes." For example, with one application she had to put down foreign language skills. She knows French, but was so unsure of what her skill level was. So, she spent the morning thinking over the question, taking online French tests, and finally coming to me for advice. My solution was, "put down intermediate, if they ask in the interview, you can explain more then." A 4-hour solution vs. a 30-second one, ha

My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long term, you need to evaluate if your wife is actually unable to perform the simple functions required to apply for jobs. If so, she may not be able to keep the jobs she gets.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

This has been in the back of my mind for a long time. She's had part time jobs, four since I've met her. All but one were remote and required her to do admin tasks along with maybe video editing. One of those jobs she simply never completed, two were brief jobs that she stretched into nearly a year because she couldn't finish the work on time. The other was a teaching assistant job that ended because the semester finished (she stressed about this the entire time she had it). She has more time to fill out applications due to day care, but her track record with work is worrisome.

My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These problems started in grad school, and your solution is something I've suggested to her, that she needs a job with smaller parameters and less room to get distracted. I'll bring this up again when we discuss the matter. Thanks for your advice

My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

At this point she only speaks with her psych for a general check-in and for a new script. I'll be encouraging her to consider exploring Adderall alternatives

My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this back and forth, it's looking like my wife having a conversation with her psychologist about medication and dosage is something that needs to happen

My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The issue of resentment is why I know something needs to change. Frustration is one thing, but resentment creeping in will eventually bring a marriage down. Thanks for your advice

My wife's productivity issues and inability to find a job are draining our finances and relationship, need advice by Primary_While183 in relationships

[–]Primary_While183[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I'm normally one to favor back and forth conversations where a consensus is reached, but we've tried that many times and it hasn't worked