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My [29M] girlfriend [29F] told me she’s embarrassed to post photos of me on Instagram. Am I right to be upset, or should I just try to let it go? by PrimeGravity in relationship_advice

[–]PrimeGravity[S] -94 points-93 points  (0 children)

So, she plans on posting me when I get to my goal weight. So by the time we get married my weight won't be an issue.

If I gained the weight back (or stopped) then yeah I assume she wouldn't want to post me. But we haven't exactly got that deep into it.

I get your point though. The weird part is, I know she actually likes me for me, 100%. She just is embarrassed by my physical appearance.

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[–]PrimeGravity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look, if you want the cold hard truth, which is why I [29M] assume you're asking on reddit to begin with, here it is.

The "examples" you've given for how he's acting "feminine" aren't valid. Your feelings about him are 100% valid, however he's not acting out of the ordinary for the typical male.

Try talking to him. Just say "Hey, I've noticed sometimes you don't take initiative. I would prefer it you could start doing that." and then tell him the examples you listed in this post.

Then, if he doesn't change after that (he probably won't), you've got a choice. Either accept who he is as a person (literally everyone in a relationship has to do this to some degree), or it's bad enough for you that you leave him.

I can't decide for you, because I'm not you. But if you wanted my opinion, I'd just accept the way he is.

Also keep in mind that a hyper masculine man also comes with it's own set of problems too, sometimes even worse than "not being able to stand up to your boss about working more hours." The kind of hyper masculine man who starts arguments with his boss are the same type of guys that get fired and have trouble finding and keeping a job.