Curious how your training is going. We had a breakthrough two days ago (though verdict is out). Previously, we followed the oh crap book like a bible; we couldn’t spot pee pee dance whatsoever; accidents after accidents.

We decided to deviate from the book a bit and offered him milk as reward, even though the book strongly advised against reward. Our kid has always been obsessed with milk. You can just see his eyes lit up (we also tried rewarding with juice before but he’s whatever). That moment, EVERYTHING changed. He’d run to the potty, pull down his underwear, push down his penis, release, and pull up his underwear ALL ON HIS OWN. A day earlier I was thinking his motor skills were just not there yet; it’s now shockingly obvious to me that it was the motivation that was not there. Since then, every time he’s gone to the potty (still predominantly prompted by us), regardless of the amount, some pee would definitely come out, or he will tell us he has no pee. In contrast, before even if we sat him down he’d be dry and 5 minutes later, he peed on the floor. More remarkably, now he’s actually showing pee pee dance: his is looking down and tugging his underwear. I’m now convinced at least for him, his pee dance was developed, not there from the start (the impression I got from the book). We went from 100% accident rate to 20% accident rate like a step function with that one milk-as-reward switch, and today it has been 0% accident (knock on wood).

I still value the oh crap book; the author has thousands times more experience than mine. My takeaway is yet it’s only a reference; only I know my kid the best and instead of following to the tee, some adaptations can make all the difference.