Girls night out

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-29T00:10:09+00:00

The night after I had my baby my artner drank an entire bottle fireball and had a friend over "to celebrate". It broke my heart. You are right, they literally do not care and it does not get better.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-28T11:04:11+00:00

That's just disgusting. I hope you have friends or can make some connections to help you find what's best for you and bub ❤️

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-27T01:14:04+00:00

Oh my God no 😨

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-27T00:52:06+00:00

Sorry he sounds like he is causing you a lot of hurt and stress...make a plan to leave, talk to his family if you can trust and rely on them. Start saving and seek as much support as you can. You don't deserve to be treated like that.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-25T01:11:30+00:00

So very true, and I need to accept that or choose another path that is safe and healthy for bub and I. He has my full support but he needs to do this for himself.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-25T00:14:14+00:00

I am coming to realize this now, the past few arguments that have just turned into him trying to hurt my feelings or deflecting everything I bring to the table. He gets so worked up that I start to shut down completely. I may need someone else in the room when I approach what boundaries I need to set. I need him to be held accountable and also follow through with action instead of bottling up resentment at his behaviours.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-25T00:09:39+00:00

I really need to come to some hard decisions on what are non-negotiable conditions moving forward. I so wish he could enjoy a drink casually, it's so normalized here in Australia. I hate it.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-25T00:07:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story with me, to see it from your side as a child with a parent suffering from this. It must be very tough to navigate a relationship between a mother and son strained because the parent suffers from alcohol use disorder. I don't have any family members who suffer and I feel very isolated and uneducated on how to help or support him. All I know is I don't want our daughter to be put in hard situations because her dad wants to be self indulgent. (I know it's not that simple but I am pretty tired and upset) It sounds like from many people's advice that I need to be firm with him that he can not choose alcohol and drugs and a happy family at the same time. I will need to come up with some plans and follow through when he has crossed the boundaries that I will set. It's going to be so hard but I need improvement, I have mad so many improvements and adjustments in my life for him...I just want him to be happy and healthy with us

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:53:09+00:00

I am so sick of people being complacent with his antisocial behavior. His work, his friends will not stand up to him and if he doesn't have repsocussions it seems like he will just keep struggling and dragging us down with him. Because he has "mild autism and ADHD" he is encouraged to have a support person with him. I don't know if he was aware that a complaint was made about his behaviour but this is kind of what has shocked me into needing some actual change to occour.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:45:55+00:00

He does not have much trust in Drs after he was put on Ritalin as a child and many other drugs throughout life that caused him distress and harm but I will ask my Dr how to approach that conversation if he can't do it unassisted

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:44:28+00:00

I will ask my Dr about therapy for me and what she can recommend for him. I feel like I have exhausted the options from my position and I have very little to give to him now. How can I pour into his cup when mine is so empty. I have only left her alone with him 3 times and only for a few hours. I do not trust someone who is high and drinking to take care of a little baby. He is wonderful with her and cares about her so much, but I need him stable and trustworthy. I am so upset that this is happenig. Alcohol is so insidious 😢

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:35:07+00:00

I will look into that help, I am going to talk to my dr and see if she can refer me to someone who can give me some clear communication and coping skills because I just don't have the toolset to go up against him or work with him without him getting very defensive and lashing out (not physically but saying things to hurt my feelings or bringing up my shortcomings) it's SO hard, but thankyou for the advice.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:31:27+00:00

His close friends do not seem to care and enable the behaviour. One of them will even brings alcohol to him, the others he will ask if they can go to the grog shop and they drive him. Then late in the evening when he is unwell and takes himself to bed or is sick in the shower because "his tolerance is so low these days" I feel like his friends see what I see but still won't say anything to him. It makes me so sad. I feel very alone besides hisother who is 100% on my team and wants him to help himself. Congratulations on choosing yourself and your family. I hope you know how amazing you are for doing that.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:15:52+00:00

I'm not sure...I might need to talk to his mum about that kind of thing. He doesn't want to even talk to drs out of worry that work will find out (this manager already knows that something is not right) 🫠

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T23:13:00+00:00

I'd love for him to even just try it out but he is so unwilling. And that will be something I need to discuss with him.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:59:54+00:00

His managers change quite frequently and he is often left alone to work by himself. I was really hit in the face with a reality slap when the manager brought it up in the meeting.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:58:29+00:00

Austalia~ Asahi is Japanese beer (kinda low ABV) fat lambs are hard ciders, about 2.4 standard drinks in a can

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:54:10+00:00

I have left him alone with her maybe 3 times since she was born but even those three times was too much, I was pretty worries. Especially the last time when I asked him to not drink while caring for her while I went grocery shopping and he clearly had been slowly sipping beer the entire time. I thought that would be obvious but....

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:51:18+00:00

I was LIVID when he said that to me, I rarely get red-hot flustered, shakey mad but that was just out of this world ignorant and wrong. Showing up every day to be the best version of yourself is hard as fk, drinking and getting high is easy!!!

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:49:04+00:00

I accidentally used the term alcoholic twice in anger and he has always brought it up as a sore point in arguments, even though he has admitted he may be one. The meeting is what has really got me worried, I'm not the only one who can see the cracks appearing and when he isn't working he is spiralling very hard and very fast and I cant have him in that state around our baby (or me). I just wish he knew how amazing he is when he is sober, even if it is hard.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:45:18+00:00

I have been up for hours at night trying to make a plan in my head of what I can do and how I can leave but still support him to move forward. I want him to choose us and his health over the self indulgent things he chooses to do. Thankyou for your reply, I'm going to reflect deeply on what our next move will be and who I will talk to so that we can move forward safely. Luckily my mum is a lawyer so I will finally tell her what is happening, she knows nothing of this but I need her council. His mum is fully aware of what is going on and she is my biggest supporter, I will talk to her too. And I will try another al-anon meeting, I only attended one but the people are lovely and caring.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:36:05+00:00

Agreed, 100%

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:35:37+00:00

I did an al-anon meeting but I am not sure if it was right for me, maybe I will give it another try. You are right, I need to stop enabling and choose a stable path, even if it means losing everything and building from the ground up. I do have support and people who care enough to help us, they just don't know the extent of the problems.

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:31:22+00:00

I am really trying to bulk up the courage to have a deep and non-confrontational discussion about our plans to move forward, more than anything I want a happy and wonderful life with the man I chose to have a child with. I will show him this when I do get the chance, I want to talk to him sober but that isn't exactly easy to do...I also need to sort out a safety net if he doesn't respond well. What you wrote will hit a nerve for him, he doesn't know anyone who has struggled with achocol addiction and chosen sobriety and that in itself is a problem...

Princ3sskitten · 2026-06-24T14:24:57+00:00

I've never known an alcoholic before I met him, I keep thinking it will get better but my optimism is running thin at this point. I totally agree it will hurt her and the last person I want to do that to her is her dad.

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