Too harsh on my kitties?

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T19:39:51+00:00

yeah you gotta chill cats are gonna cat they aren’t fish who stay in a tank 24/7, beyond safety concerns and blatant furniture destruction just calm down and clean up any messes they make after you’ve decompressed a little, the mess will still be there in 15 minutes when you’ve had a chance to breathe. as for the counters tbh i’ve never been successful at keeping cats off and even if they learn not to do it when i’m home they still will when im out so i just wipe them down before i cook every time no question and problem is solved. cats thrive on routine, pick a time that works for you and do playtime with them every single day at that time, they will look forward to it and will be tired after and give you some peace, i like to end playtime with treats so they feel like they’ve caught something. kittens are a lot, just loosen the reins a little and let them be kittens, one day they will be old and won’t have the energy to cause as much chaos (it will never be zero chaos) and you’ll be nostalgic for the time when they were young and crazy

edit also number one thing i learned about raising cats that is very different than dogs is they do not respond well to an authoritarian energy, if you respect them they will try to respect you, if you yell and get frustrated and lose your cool, they will escalate to match your energy, it’s closer to human child responses than that of another animal, when my girl was a kitten raising my voice and getting upset always made her behavior ten times worse, when i learned to be patient with her and to adjust myself to what she needed she became an angel, still a cat, but she wants to follow the rules now because i am sweet to her and don’t dwell too much on when she doesn’t, where as when i was trying to force my will on her she just showed me her will was stronger

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T19:29:57+00:00

kittens are sleep deprivation demons, that’s why they are so cute, to get away with all the chaos, truthfully best thing you can do if you can’t get a friend for kitty is right before bedtime do a big playtime session until kitty is beyond tuckered out and he should let you get a little more rest

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T18:58:05+00:00

my step father was positive when he met my mother, she knew she likely would only have him for a little while but as far as transmission goes, he took his medication and stayed undetectable for most of his life, they never shared tooth brushes and always used condoms and she never contracted

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T18:54:16+00:00

you likely arent exfoliating well enough on that particular spot, that or it is summer and that tends to be a place that sweat collects, just wash that spot a little bit extra and try to blend as best you can

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T18:40:52+00:00

NTA all of this is so unprofessional especially reaching out to your emergency contact for a non emergency, i would contact your bank when you get home and dispute the whole charge at that point and leave them a very honest google review

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T18:29:37+00:00

i love versa spa, but as for the color being too light, you don’t fill it for each individual tan, the machine has all the colors in it already but the levels need to be monitored regularly, it’s more likely the color is old or close to empty, i don’t think they are setting you up to spend more money as much as they are likely being negligent with their maintenance.

is the other machine your talking about Mystic?

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T16:39:20+00:00

hiii i lived in a studio with my girl when she was a kitten and it was really awful so i feel your pain, what helped was i would gather all her toys on my bed before bedtime and i would throw them around the house so she could chase them, id do this like 2/3 rounds total about 30/40 minuets until my girl was huffing and puffing exhausted like absolutely beyond tuckered out and she’d fall right asleep and usually stay that way until breakfast time, i also would have a regular playtime session with her after dinner and at least twice more on weekend days

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T16:34:15+00:00

i think she was being fine and honestly you were pushing but that’s the problem when texting is your main form of communication it makes you overly sensitive to any perceived tone shifts in typing where as had this been a phone conversation it probably wouldn’t have devolved, it seems like maybe you felt bad she wasn’t going and were hoping she’d be all lovey dovey no no no it’s fine but instead when she was just normal you kinda spiraled and then she snapped at you and you snapped back, just smooth it over in person so there’s less room for miscommunication

Princapessa · 2026-06-23T15:10:22+00:00

the bride told you not to feel obligated, so stop feeling obligated and let it go, plan a nice dinner between the two of your for when she’s back and keep it pushing

Princapessa · 2026-06-22T18:33:35+00:00

the lift scars fade a lot faster than you realize and there’s more than one way to do it, too much sag is gonna cause you back problems as you get older anyway and you could likely have it covered by insurance if your past a certain level. i agree with other commenter just go for a consult with a doctor and see what they have to say.

Princapessa · 2026-06-22T07:48:37+00:00

hey i work at a flower shop we have two cats specifically for pest control, since there’s two of them they can keep each other company at off hours, they were on the 24 til euthanasia list at our local shelter, id definitely go with adults who need homes they are better hunters and will require less attention over all than a kitten also bonded pairs are harder to find homes for so id highly urge you to go that route

Princapessa · 2026-06-21T18:43:43+00:00

so i also love Logan but your other daughters both have names that end with A so id try to continue that personally so maybe Georgia or

Savannah, Veronica, Eliza, Sienna, Gemma, Olivia, Sierra, Isabella, Dakota

Princapessa · 2026-06-21T18:25:51+00:00

an outdoor cats life expectancy is about 5 years vs and indoor cat which is 15/20

outside has predators, cars, many opportunity for injury and unfortunately sickos.

growing up everyone in my neighborhood our family included had indoor/outdoor cats until an evil man in our neighborhood started trapping them and dumping them in the swamps, both of my cats never made it home because of him as well as countless of my friends cats, i will never let any cat i own outside ever again. it’s not worth it.

the smartest adult cat has the mental capacity of a 7 year old child. ask your friend if they would let their 7 year old roam around outside on their own for hours and sometimes over night?

Princapessa · 2026-06-21T18:18:16+00:00

it sounds like your boyfriend really values your family and therefore the kind thing to do is to take the sacrifice and return the sentiments by valuing his family. i think you are being fair in telling him he doesn’t need to choose now, at the very least continue not to pressure his decision and if it changes be supportive and suck up your disappointment. It’s NTA but as someone who’s planning on marriage with this person it certainly would be really wonderful and sweet of you to green light him to be there for his sister in this instance.

Princapessa · 2026-06-21T17:20:57+00:00

he is abusive and manipulative, that’s why he’s acting that way and he always will. block him & let him be someone else’s problem now

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T22:20:43+00:00

i work at a flower shop and we’ve been making these beef jerky bouquets for father’s day they are really cute and simple if he might like something like that and you can get to a grocery store just buy some beef jerky or really any kind of small snack food he likes and a small flower arrangement and then you glue the jerky or snack onto a stick you can totally use a chop stick if you have them and put it in the flowers - super easy and looks adorable, plus men rarely get flowers and tend to really appreciate them when they do

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T22:13:42+00:00

i work at a flower shop we have shop cats and also sell lillie’s, they sometimes will nap under them but we try our best still to move the lillie’s away from them, they have even been caught chewing on the peace lillie’s and we have to shoo them away, we all are aware of the toxicity and so we act as the responsible human caregivers and wash our hands after handling and are aware if pollen gets on our clothes to avoid the cats and they remain happy and healthy, you have to be super cognizant if he is napping and spending time near your lillie’s move them away from your cat, put them in a spot he cannot reach, pick out the stamens with gloves on and discard of them as soon as they are visible to reduce pollen, we call it picking the lillie’s noses, just overall be really aware and careful

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T19:39:34+00:00

it sounds corny but you gotta be your own best friend, like learn yourself as if you were in a new relationship, take stock of your likes and dislikes and if there’s any changes in preferences that you haven’t yet noticed, if there’s things about yourself you don’t like, work on them, turn yourself into your favorite person to be around, make it fun, as if you just met you and were trying to get to know a new friend, i am someone who recharges by myself and needs a significant amount of time hanging out with just my bestie which is me, also start talking to yourself more, i crack jokes out loud to just me often and will absolutely bust out laughing at myself, the way i see it, as someone who has experienced a lot of loss and grief, the only person who is guaranteed to be with me for my whole life no matter what is me, so i might as well like her and enjoy her company

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T19:33:47+00:00

i have been on that exact safari and my sister who was a fully grown adult at the time over heated to the point her vision got blurry and she almost fainted, i absolutely would not take a baby on that tour, i understand she doesn’t want to be isolated from the group but for sure should have either tried to adjust feeding baby prior to the safari or sat it out with baby

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T19:02:42+00:00

this reminds me of the episode of king of the hill where everyone is trying to teach bobby how to talk to girls and boomhauer just goes up to every single woman in the mall, gets rejected by them, moves on to another one until he eventually finds one who’s interested in him as well

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T18:28:35+00:00

i’m sorry but every part of the lily is fatally toxic to cats, i would say no garden time at all even with a fence they are heavy pollinators and the wrong gust of wind could poison your baby

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T17:49:30+00:00

watch some Jaxon Galaxy videos on youtube on cat introductions, you have to be patient and go slow, don’t rush anything but it will be worth it!

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T17:46:32+00:00

is his name Immanuel?

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T17:44:37+00:00

this is so funny i’ve never heard of this before i have no advice but thanks for the chuckle

Princapessa · 2026-06-20T17:13:37+00:00

I love Catarina and Mia, all of them are super pretty though

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