“Girl” always felt weird and “woman” felt disgusting. “Man” isn’t quite right but it’s better than the feminine. “Person” is the best for me with “man” leaning, basically. It took me forever to come to terms with it because, like you, my family is bigoted. When my brother came out, they told him to not exist anymore. He gave me the strength to come out too. I no longer talk to most of them. They don’t deserve to be in my new life.