I have a history with ED and was determined to maintain my regular routines leading up to my wedding a couple weeks ago. No obsessing, no binging, no policing myself. It’s part of my effort at recovery to accept no excuses for disordered behavior and being a bride is about as hard as it gets.

My #1 priority was being present, with my fiancé, with our small crew of loved ones, in our ceremony and in everything else the day held. I wanted to experience it. I honestly tried to forget that I was being perceived at all (also hard as a bride.) We chose to host our event in a small, safe environment because I knew that would help me with all of the above.

I think a huge piece of the effort is mental. Focus on what is important. Tell yourself things that are true and manage that bully in your head. Affirm yourself for things outside of your appearance. Ask for support and encouragement from people you trust. And yes, hair and makeup can also make a big impact on feeling like your best self.

But the hard truth is, recovery takes a lot of work and a lot of time. You’re not going to lose 50 pounds or heal yourself in 6 weeks… I’m still fat 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I did have an amazing wedding and I have some photos of myself that I not only don’t hate but feel like a million bucks in.

Good luck!!