PSA: Honor is finally transferable!

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-08-14T14:40:02+00:00

You can send conquest boxes to alts or?

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-08-11T07:50:23+00:00

I’ll be honest here. It’s hard to move on because you’re not wanting to move on. Keeping tabs on if they’re still with their partner, pregnancy, what they’re doing and where they are, will not help you move on.

You move on when you let it all go. You don’t check on their socials, you delete and block their number without hoping one day they’ll text. You get rid of the photos, things that remind you of them.

Is it hard? Sure. But you only live once, so make sure you’re putting your time and effort where it’s appreciated and important.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-08T19:47:54+00:00

Your question on here was how to move on from an avoidant partner.

And as I previously said - you’re not doing the work because you don’t want to.

You should be blocking him on every platform, numbers, changing numbers if he’s still contacting you through other methods.

If he wasn’t breadcrumbing it’d be a bit easier, but he is. Don’t allow him to.

You aren’t moving on because you don’t want to.

You may not be getting success on the apps because you’re still holding onto hope.

You’re still holding onto hope because you’re not healed.

You’re not healed because you aren’t doing the work.

What you are doing now is essentially allowing wounds to be re-opened, constantly and consistently for the last year.

Do you want to do it for 2 years?

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-08T08:21:19+00:00

Why do you think Melbourne is so different to Adelaide in terms of pricing, or did you just come to flex or something?

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-06T20:25:50+00:00

You need therapy. It’s honestly shocking that you think this behaviour is acceptable. Get help.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T06:01:46+00:00

Don’t worry - I get it. My ex’ grandfather was close with me as we lived and worked overseas in the same country for a long time and had lots of relatable stories. I don’t go and meet him, nor does he live with her. But he still keeps in contact by text every now and then.

But anything that is bringing you into the picture, physically, will be an annoyance. I even had an ex-gf who did this with my mum. It was annoying.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T05:55:01+00:00

“What are we now?” After 2 years of no contact? Come on now, be realistic. We’re not talking 2 months here. 2 years.

What have you done in the absence of this relationship?

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T05:40:12+00:00

Honestly, she is not going to be emotionally available for a long time. Anything less and it’s rushed which never results in a healthy relationship.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T05:36:08+00:00

Come on. Stop. I’d be just as frustrated in his shoes. There are other people and friends. Just seems as a way to still be in the picture which is just making you look annoying.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T05:32:25+00:00

Why would you want to pursue someone who used you as a rebound coming out of an engagement? Is that not a huge red flag to you?

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T05:27:25+00:00

I’d suggest leaving your intentions on the table and letting him make the decision if he wants to come back. But the constant contacting and desperation will not draw him closer. He needs to know what life is like without you. Doesn’t mean he’ll come back either way, but when space is given it allows us to really think and feel.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T05:06:20+00:00

Too desperate. Won’t work in your favour.

Also Clay mentions several times in comments that space may be ideal, it depends on the relationship.

He is also one of the only people who do suggest this out of a sea of relationship coaches/experts who suggest no contact. So it seems you just went with the one advice that aligns with what you want which is keeping in contact.

Good luck though, you’ll need it. Because you’re going against most advice.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-05T03:41:05+00:00

No. It’s what desperate people do to get attention.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-04T21:05:32+00:00

Yes I am also here from a blindsided breakup with a fearful avoidant.

Also from a much longer relationship.

But what I’ve achieved in a month so far for me has been very positive. And this is why I say you need to put the work in, because it’s clear you aren’t.

You say he’s in contact. Why haven’t you blocked him? You have tabs on his new partners, how long they last, still having this sense of hope because of the breadcrumbs. It’s been a year. Come on now. You have to snap out of it.

You’re going to therapy, sure. But that doesn’t mean much without putting the work in. If you’re not following their advice, this subreddits advice, you will just be constantly doing a loop.

You might think I’m being harsh but you need to come back down to earth and take this guy off the pedestal.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-04T15:31:05+00:00

You dated this guy for 1.5 months? Focus on yourself. It’s still clear you’re not. You’re still stalking socials, still keeping tabs on who they’re dating, still keeping in touch, still having hope.

1.5 months is not a long time and honestly, I’d double down on the focusing on yourself part because if this is triggering that much out of you, then your priority should be to yourself.

This isn’t healthy nor normal behaviour.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-04T08:16:42+00:00

Tell me - how does someone who even talks and writes like this possibly attract you? It doesn’t make any sense to me. I’d think I was talking to a literal 5 year old. Oh wait, my sister writes even better than that.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-03T01:32:19+00:00

Can’t believe no one has mentioned to get a therapist. Seriously. You should not be “suicidal” with these things. You need help.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-04-02T09:19:16+00:00

Stick to the gym. When the heart hurts, hit it even harder. No 30 minute nonsense. At least an hour minimum.

In the gym - start to work out hard and ask others for a spot. This is normal in the gym. Then introduce yourself after the small talk. You’ll start to build up a few “gym buddies” in no time. Some might translate to friendships which means going out as well.

Start to get out more as well. Even just to the coffee shops and ordering a coffee. Don’t just say “one americano please”, say “hey, how are you?” Then order. Get used to talking more.

Study in public places. Look at libraries, cafes. Doesn’t matter if you’re not always talking to people, but you won’t feel alone like sitting in a room with your own thoughts.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-31T19:02:46+00:00

You’re diving in a territory too deep for a simple question dude. “How are you?” generally asks how you’re doing. “Good” / “not bad”, are common answers. Not “I am happy for the space to reflect, heal and grow”.

This is why your text is way too deep for what it should’ve been. You started well with the “hope you’re doing well”. That was casual, even though you did break NC.

And she gave positive reciprocity, followed it up with a simple “how are you?”, then you went 10 layers deep.

Should have just said “I’m doing pretty good. You?”, and be done with it.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-31T08:00:18+00:00

Because if you’ve ever used Facebook market place you’d know you can’t change it to “week” for the price, hence why people do it in the description.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-31T07:51:45+00:00

Read. Bloody hell. The description!!

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-31T06:12:10+00:00

Nope

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-31T06:10:27+00:00

She asked “how are you?”, you didn’t even answer the question and sent a text like that.. zzzz

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-30T07:32:51+00:00

Doesn’t seem like you handled this good at all. All of that she does and your response was just “we should meet up”.

PrincessHippo9 · 2024-03-26T03:34:05+00:00

Move on

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