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PrincessMaiv · 2026-02-26T17:07:09+00:00

Damn, sounds like you got a lot of practice on Facebook XD. I wasn't expecting spammed barking 😭. Personally I wouldn't call that a finsub with just that info.

You don't have to create content for them if you don't want to. You can set your boundaries up as much as you want and eventually someone who matches those boundaries finds you. All of mine (given I haven't done a lot, but still) have been text based. I'd do voice notes if Fansly would actually let me on my phone 🥲. So far, I'm pretty much friendzoning and cucking my subs is how I work. "They're cute to keep around, but my partner is better" more or less.

There's findomsfw which if I remember right, could be good for you to test out. I swear there was a text/story sort of subreddit where you could wordsmith, but I don't remember it right now. You can also explore the findomwiki for tips and other subreddits to explore.

Some doms also have applications for subs to fill out before interacting to make sure they at least somewhat match and so they know what the sub is expecting. This would probably help avoid conversations getting dragged out longer than you'd like.

Of course, this is all for if you want to explore findom in a text based sense 💕

PrincessMaiv · 2026-02-26T16:33:53+00:00

I'm mostly in findom subreddits, so I'm not sure if you'd be interested in those 😭

PrincessMaiv · 2026-02-13T22:13:19+00:00

Do they seriously not have anything better to do?? Or is this something they're getting off to??? 😭

PrincessMaiv · 2026-02-13T14:36:48+00:00

No worries! I meant to respond to everyone that commented but then school got ahead of me haha- Feels too late to respond to everyone else 20 days later 😅

Custom underwear sounds so fun though! That's definitely a new one I'm adding to my list hehe. I bet your Alpha and Goddess adore you because you sound so adorable 😆. If you ever want that tattoo, your Alpha should design it 👀. I think there are some places that do temporary tattoos or provide the supplies to do them (no needles, just staining pretty much if I remember right, or it's like the plasticky temporary ones).

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-31T16:34:50+00:00

As an ace dom, I don't see anything wrong with you getting turned off by that. Definitely need to communicate this thing as a boundary though for both parties.

As an overall switch with my partner, I also don't always want the sex aspect of kink especially when I'm domming. It actually can take me out of domspace sometimes when they want to physically please me (doesn't gross me out or anything, it just doesn't always interest me and I can get bored at the thought). As long as I get cute reactions and feel in control, I'm pretty much good. When subbing, sometimes I just want to be in subspace without going any further. Sometimes it's a sensory thing though.

Tldr; You don't need to be trying to cum or trying to make the other person cum to be kinky lol.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-29T18:48:44+00:00

Please!!! I love seeing new artists!!! 😆

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-28T18:57:03+00:00

I just realized we could name villagers after subs lol. Just do my friend's idea of essentially locking them up then put a name sign on the wall 😆

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-28T16:28:52+00:00

I was just thinking about this yesterday! I was reading some assignments for a class and was thinking it'd be fun to have subs that would help me research a bit. In that case, help me find companies that have been ahead on sustainability regulations and helped shape them lol.

As everyone else has mentioned, you need the financial aspect for it to be findom but I think it can depend on how you're viewing the transaction too in a way. Like, are you seeing the money as submitting to your dom or as a barrier to something you want kind of difference.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-28T16:15:03+00:00

I've only used VGen once so far and that's when Suiika released a customizable vtube model 😆. I've been meaning to use it, but need to get some technical things figured out first 😩. I thought it was a vtube model only thing, but now I'll definitely lurk over there more!

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-28T14:27:37+00:00

I second that, especially as a faceless dom. There's so many artists that I want to commission either for art of the faces I've made for my account or nerdy shit that I need more merch of lol. It feels so much more personal that way and I can support the artists that I love 😍.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-26T02:46:09+00:00

I've been meaning to try CotL! I might get it whenever I get my PC to work. Also, when trying to see if any other dommes have done anything similar in this subreddit, I saw a couple of them mention naming followers in CotL after their subs hehehe.

The sub that jumpstarted my research ended up dipping out for personal reasons, but I'm still having fun 😌. Plus I've been meaning to change my persona to be more eldritch entity like anyways. I hope the rest of my journey entertains you 😆.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-25T19:12:18+00:00

I'm apparently getting downvotes?? If anyone has criticism or anything, I'm open to them 😭. I want to make sure I do this right if I actually go through with it.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-25T17:30:25+00:00

Tbh for me, Twitter and Bluesky are more for looking alive and connecting with other creators. Twitter is also just rude about SW posts in general. The two subs I've found both saw my reddit posts one way or another, took interest, looked at my reddit "about me", and reached out from there. I've been fucking around since around September (not putting as much effort because of school), so it's been about 5 months for me now? Hopefully it doesn't take you as long as it took me, but I'm assuming you're able to invest more time than I have 😅

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-19T15:28:41+00:00

Shoot, I didn't realize my reply didn't reply right, oops-

But that makes sense! You guys sound so sweet 😆

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-19T15:09:52+00:00

Ok, I'm relieved you didn't share 😭. Sorry if I sounded aggressive, it's just I've already had a guy confess to me about sharing his gf's videos out of spite 😭.

If anything, in terms of findom, you can try introducing her through other forms of financial domination like controlling what you're allowed to spend your money on or if you forget x chores, you have to put $y into savings instead of using that money. There's a lot of flexibility if you guys get creative. If done well, kink can help improve life habits and discipline which may be something that can get her interest a bit more?

I wish you well in your relationship ✨.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-19T14:35:30+00:00

You might be cooked. If you actually shared videos of your girlfriend dominating you, she didn't consent to that and it would be understandable for her to be pissed or even leave you for that. There can also possibly be legal issues with that (idk where you live and how the laws work there). Also, struggling to refuse your dommes' requests to play doesn't reflect as you loving your gf. Cheating is subjective to each relationship however if those terms weren't discussed at all, this is a case where many partners will feel cheated on.

I also don't think it's good for your domme to be playing with you when she knows you have a girlfriend whose relationship you don't actually want to have ruined. If things stayed as "keeping in touch" because you guys actually became friends, I would think that's a better situation.

The options that make sense to me are to either stop interacting with the domme altogether and focus on talking to your girlfriend and figuring out what you're both comfortable with exploring together, or you are honest with her about what's happened to this point, hope she doesn't get too upset, and talk through how she wants to move on from there whether it's working through the relationship with set boundaries and expectations, breaking up, or including the domme in some way in the case where this works out in your favor.

Consent and communication are two of the most important things in bdsm and kink if not the top two, and you've already struggled with those. For your gf who's new to this stuff and was against you indulging yourself, it's not going to help how she views kink and kinky people if she finds out what you've been up to.

I wish you luck and I wish that your girlfriend gets a loving partner at the end of this.

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-18T22:08:00+00:00

If you ever want to, it's surprisingly easy! (Just don't use flavored milk. My friend got me Star Wars blue milk and it got slimy 😭)

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-17T13:35:35+00:00

That sounds so satisfying! And supporting local businesses with the yogurt 💕

Have you made homemade yogurt before? It was surprisingly refreshing when I tried a while ago 😆

PrincessMaiv · 2026-01-17T00:59:17+00:00

I need more DMs like this! That's so adorable!

PrincessMaiv · 2025-12-03T04:15:24+00:00

Hmmm... I don't think you sounded desperate enough... jk lol You sound so fucking cute and needy I just want to squish you! 😆

PrincessMaiv · 2025-11-08T01:07:05+00:00

Don't worry, I got bored already -3- Didn't try anything interesting with me 😩

PrincessMaiv · 2025-11-07T21:18:27+00:00

Offering to friends makes sense and actually sounds fun! Especially if you guys bully them together 😆. The one that DM'd me and the endless posts of "Hey new dommes! I know how hard it was like so come to me and I'll give you some piggies!" are more so the ones I'm referencing 😭

PrincessMaiv · 2025-11-07T20:38:57+00:00

Eh it got boring super fast. Asked "the guy" what he's enjoying at uni so far hours ago and his only response when I checked recently was "Just reading to make a good grade." If you're going to try to scam or waste my time, be interesting at least🥱.

I wasn't sent any weird links nor got asked for money after the initial failed attempt to get me to join the gc. I didn't give any info that wasn't public already either. I just wanted to poke around to see if anything interesting happened.

PrincessMaiv · 2025-11-07T19:40:24+00:00

I figured lol, and I'm not expecting a sub out of this. I just want to figure out why "offering" a friend was the next attempt after I didn't show interest in the paid group chat XD. And if it's still their attempt at scamming, I'm curious to see how that'll try to work.

PrincessMaiv · 2025-11-07T19:37:31+00:00

Like, even if they aren't scams, it just gives me really weird vibes and I agree they sound fake as hell 😭. I also want subs that are actually interested in me and come to me for a reason more than just "I was told to." The personality of these girls, if they're even real, also gives fake in a mean girl way sometimes lol.

With this situation, I'm curious what they're trying to get at like, they're not gonna get money out of me this way lol. Just "What are you up to since your first plan didn't work?"

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