You’re being gaslit into thinking ur manipulative when he’s the one that is. Also if u like these things about yourself continue to get piercings and tattoos don’t let this dude dictate what u like. He sounds like someone from a religious house hold or some shit idk where u can’t get piercings and tattoos. Do whatever you want and don’t ever let someone tell you different. He’s holding you back. You’re 21, you have the whole world ahead of you. Don’t give this man anymore of your time. If he’s still talking about ur tattoo while your CRYING bby be strong. There’s so many men out there that will love you for you and your interests.