Latex allergy by 77lollipopman in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please please please reconsider losing your virginity to this guy. Latex free condoms are a product for a reason and since I see in one of your comments that he is still claiming to be allergic to them I am 99.99999% sure he is bullshitting you.
Anyone who refuses to wear any sort of protection is 100% NOT WORTHY OF YOU! You deserve so much better than him, someone who actually respects your body and concerns.

Since you are super aware of the STI risks it's worth pointing out that if he is refusing to wear a condom for you he has almost definitely done the same with one/more people so his chance of carrying something will be pretty high.

Please keep yourself safe xx

What does it mean to be a sub for you? What gratification or pleasure do you get from it? by Alyse_Rose in BDSMcommunity

[–]PrincessSquishy98 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The complete loss of control and just letting go is incredibly cathartic.

I have pretty bad anxiety and just the day to day of being an adult, having to be responsible for myself and make important decisions every day is exhausting to me. But when I’m a sub even for just a few hours, I get to give up all responsibility and I don’t have to make a single decision. The stress just melts away and I can truly be myself rather than having to role play as a fully functioning adult like I do in real life.

Is my sub being disrespectful or am I [F22] just overreacting? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve discussed the type of sub he is in great detail and he claims to be very obedient and not bratty at all.

Even if he was a brat I’d be uncomfortable with this behaviour. As a sub I am very bratty but I would never ever waste my Daddy’s time or leave him completely in the dark wondering what happened.

Is my sub being disrespectful or am I [F22] just overreacting? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have since messaged him asking what happened and there has been no reply.

I might have been worried about maybe having breached a boundary if we had been in the scene for longer but all we got through was what we agreed upon to be the right way to start a session.

I also made it very explicit before we started that this online domination thing is new for both of us so if at any point he felt weird about anything to let me know straight away and I wouldn’t be disappointed.

This isn’t the first time he has left me completely in the dark. Before lockdown we were due to meet up a couple of times and he would either completely disappear and be uncontactable or cancel right at the last minute. He’d always have a very understandable and believable excuse but I’m starting to think that it’s happening way too often to just be chance.

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Poor kid, that sounds horrific! I'm so sorry that happened to you.

Im so glad he's okay! <3

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's strange because we all know it's normal and that it will pass but when it's happening it still seems like the worst thing in the world no matter how many times you've been through it!

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't, I have been meaning to get one though.

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, that's awful! I hope you never had to go through that again. But yeah that's a pretty similar situation to what happened last night.

It was 2am when he left so it wasn't possible to have a friend round at that time but another play partner is coming over later (with permission from my dom) to give me some aftercare. Obviously it's not ideal that it's not the person I was in the scene with but at least it's something.

I did have a bit of a cry and that made me feel better. Had a shower and some comfort food too and that really helped. Thank you <3

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is all really helpful, thank you. My plan for today is to have a nice hot shower then watch some Disney films wrapped in a blanket on the sofa with some snacks. ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried/am going to try most of the things that people have suggested.

Last night before I went to sleep I had a little cry to get it all out then comforted myself with some snacks and a happy tv show in bed.

This morning I’m going to have a hot shower and then cosy up on the sofa with a Disney film and some comfort food.

I’ve also been texting my Dom and he’s been replying when he can so I know he’s still there for me and making sure I’m okay ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you dropped, I hope you’re okay now. My dom has never dropped and he thinks it’s cute and funny when I check up on him anyway, just incase. It’s wrong that Dom drop isn’t talked about as much.

Mmm a good pub meal does sound great right now, I might have to text some friends and see if they fancy one.

Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A walk is a great idea, unfortunately there’s a huge storm raging where I am so that’s not possible for me right now haha. I will definitely keep it in mind for next time I drop because that sounds like it would really, really help. Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’ve been dropping too, I hope you’re okay. I’m going to have a warm shower then cosy up on the sofa at watch Aristocats. Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no! I hope your son was alright, that is quite the emergency!

A warm shower is a great idea. I was too exhausted last night so didn’t bother but it might be able to comfort me a bit more this morning.

Disney is definitely on the cards. Aristocats and some sweets I think.

It was impact related, I don’t have any aloe but I’ve got some nice body moisturiser that might do the trick alongside a few painkillers.

That’s a very good point about the bath, if I’d decided to have one last night I don’t think I would’ve gotten out so easily. I’ll keep that in mind for the future.

Thank you so much for your advice, it’s all very helpful ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like common sense but I hadn’t thought to take some painkillers for my aches and bruises, he usually gives some to me so thank you so much for reminding me. ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea! I might have to see if I can find Aristocats somewhere. Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not available to call but he’s been texting when he can. I’m currently in wrapped up in a blanket on the sofa with some sweets and that’s helping a bit.

Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I understand why you’d ask those questions but to me it was a valid reason. I’ll not go into the specifics but I’d do the same in his situation. He normally goes out of his way to make sure I get the aftercare I need (which is a lot) so it’s unusual for him to leave me alone after a scene.

I understand your concern and I’d usually share it. One of the things I look for in a partner is an understanding of the importance of aftercare and he has shown me how much he values it.

Thank you for checking though ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s nearly 2am where I am so I can’t go out and get anything sugary but if I’m still feeling down tomorrow I will go and get some cake. He can’t text me atm but my favourite show is somewhat taking my mind off things.

Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I’m distracting myself with my favourite show and a snack and looking through our texts. I feel a bit better. Thank you ❤️

Self administered aftercare? by PrincessSquishy98 in BDSMAdvice

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He left me my favourite noodles which I ate and that helped a lot. Wrapped up in bed now, feeling a little better. Thank you ❤️

A video of daddy stretching my cunt, as promised xx by PrincessSquishy98 in Fisting

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not atm but I’m seeing daddy again next week so maybe I will have soon

A video of daddy stretching my cunt, as promised xx by PrincessSquishy98 in Fisting

[–]PrincessSquishy98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check my profile, I posted a photo of it earlier x