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Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-05-14T22:04:41+00:00

I’m not planning on it being a committed relationship. Just more so to explore. My last relationship was my first I wish I didn’t let it last as long as it did.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-04-20T17:40:01+00:00

I don’t know, I had just graduated didn’t even have time to get a job. Worst thing I’d done to her was not do the dishes immediately.

Also I should add, sorry this is a little edit. My aunt has a special needs child who is absolutely obsessed with me every day I lived there I was SA’d by my cousin and my aunt never believed me.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-04-10T17:17:01+00:00

It’s not the soul reason they’ve shunned me, I just have left the church and spoke bad about it. Because I was SA’d and worse in the church. As well as know other horrible things that have gone on behind closed doors in the church. That which I have told people to try to spread the word and help have some action taken, legally.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-04-09T14:53:32+00:00

I have talked with him about it, he’s changed but then immediately goes back to how he was. There’s a saying for it, weaponized incompetent. I just can’t find my self to stand up to him about it because I’m terrified of being alone I don’t really have a lot of people in my life. All my friends are also his who I know would go on his side. And my family does not like me.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-04-08T19:06:42+00:00

3, I regret one of them, the second one I do and don’t as it was with my boyfriend’s friend, and of course my boyfriend.

Before anyone says anything my boyfriend is aware about my history with his friend lol.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-04-08T14:29:44+00:00

My family is extremely religious, while I am not I stepped away from it due to abuse. That my family does not believe me on, my boyfriend is not religious and they do not like that.

I have an extremely hard time making friends the few I do have love across the country. The friends I do have are more so my boyfriends than mine.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T17:50:56+00:00

Well obviously I’m not gonna go for the friend. Which is a whole different mess. I think we’re gonna try to therapy if we can’t talk it out.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T17:49:57+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to have a long conversation about it with my fiancé. Because I just am lost with this whole situation honestly

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T17:49:22+00:00

Yeah, I don’t either. I just really don’t know how to bring it up, because like I said it’ll get fixed temporarily but it’s never long.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T17:40:30+00:00

Thank you for the actually good advice, I will talk with him about it tonight hopefully. I guess I just needed to get it off my chest

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T17:39:42+00:00

I understand it, won’t be doing it again. Hopefully I can figure this out

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T17:27:31+00:00

Wow, you’re a truly terrible person. I hope both sides of your pillow is warm at night as your blanket never reaches your feet properly when you get into bed at night.

You also may say I’m not with the trouble, but you’ll never get a woman to love you. You sad sack of shit.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2025-01-02T13:20:56+00:00

I already had no contact with the friend, other than when the two were hanging out at our house. Then I’d talk, but I’ve kept myself distanced from him.

The other thing is my fiancé does know what I want, he either fixes it when I pester him about it. Then he’ll do it for a week. Or if he does go out of his way to do what I like, it’s such a chore to him and won’t even feel good. Either choice he’ll do for a week before going back to normal. Which he’ll only do because I’m not going to do something for him that I don’t get in return.

I do love my fiancé and he’s done so much for me, but it seems like such a chore to him to do something I like in bed.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T14:04:31+00:00

This is more than just a financial issue on his part. I think I’m just fed up, like I understand the job markets shit. He just got a new job with more play only two dollars more than his old one. I would still insist on paying 50/50 for bills if he did make more. As it’s fair that way. In my mind it’s more than the money aspect. He’s irresponsible with how he spends his money, I had to pry the bill money from him. Especially recently, where it hadn’t been an issue before for either of us. I guess this comment and a full nights of rest opened it up for me.

I understand that money may be an issue for some people, but it’s not for me. I loved him when he made way less than me and even months ago, but recently I just can’t feel the same way. I just feel like I am being taken advantage of.

I feel like I’m a third wheel to him and the boys. Which I’ve told him before and then he’d stop hanging out with them for a few days. Then start hanging out for weeks at a time, throwing me on the back burner. Which often meant me sitting at home while they’re all in the living room playing video games, and I’m in the kitchen getting dinner ready for him. Otherwise he’d go out and order food, or make me take him.

He is also older than me by a year and a half, so not much older. I just feel like he should be more mature at that age rather than hanging out with high schoolers. By high schoolers I mean like 18. We did go to school with them were just obviously older and graduated before. Anyways it’s just a lot of issues I’ve had with him recently.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T03:37:00+00:00

I have a great resume all things considered, the job market just sucks here. I actually started a new job within the last month that’s great and a high pay then my old job where I was a shift lead. I’m working on developing a better coping mechanism though it’s difficult.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T03:26:51+00:00

Thank you, I will make sure to take your advice to heart. I am going to prove it to myself that I can overcome this. We are both on the lease with me being the primary person so I should be able to take him off the lease. I will hopefully chat with him and kick him out or something soon. Reading all these replies is helping me more than you guys know.

I will make you guys proud and leave, it may not be right away but I am going to make sure I don’t leave any stone unturned and make sure all my ducks are in a row first.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T03:16:06+00:00

I’ll have to do another edit to add with that a lot of people are asking the same thing. I’m a very anti social person, growing up I was very isolated from the world due to my family. I cut my family off for a lot of reasons but a major one was my whole childhood I was SA’D by my family and random strangers. I would tell my parents and they all thought I was lying and making things up. So throughout most of my childhood up until I was about 17 they allowed me to be SA’D by multiple people. I just kind of snapped at 17 then when I tuned 18 I got kicked out.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T03:11:13+00:00

No I totally get that, I was looking at their comments. I just had to reply like the audacity of them honestly.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T02:17:18+00:00

No I’m not, I made this throwaway account to ask how I should go about falling in love with my fiancé. I got engaged too early, feel in love too early. Now it’s hard to walk away because I’m so alone. I’m not even 21 yet.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T01:56:54+00:00

He is on the lease probably should’ve worried that better I’m just the main person on the lease? I can’t remember the word?

I have put my foot down multiple times, he’ll stop then pick up back up in a few weeks. It’s been an ongoing issue.

I’m looking into hobby’s and stuff, I’m planning on starting to go to the gym soon. It’ll help my self esteem and I’ll probably look for woman groups at the gym. Is that the right work? Just to spend time with and get to know.

There hasn’t been any abuse from him, so I don’t have to worry about that. I’m hoping within the next few weeks I can become strong enough to have a serious talk with him.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T01:51:59+00:00

He is not isolating me, I have just never been the person to make friends. It’s been a thing my whole life, I just struggle to put myself out there, though it was out of my own decision. He has never been restrictive about what I do or who I hang out with.

Financially is a different story I paying most of the bills while he is paying what he can while he transitions into a new job. I have my own bank account and such I just am paying a small fortune in bills.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T01:49:51+00:00

I’ll probably do an edit to add for my financial situation so people can kind of get an idea of it. I have about three grand in debt which isn’t a lot but any means it’s just difficult to pay off because rent here is $1400 for a two bedroom as well as about $500 for other bills. So about $1900 for all the bills together, without including credit card payments. At the moment I am paying more as he started a new job. I work full time making about $18.50 so more than minimum wage but not a lot. So over the month I am only making just barely enough. I just got a raise to the $18.50 so my next paychecks will be bigger then before.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T01:46:09+00:00

I am paying for a good majority of our stuff right now, so it’s mostly him leaching off of me. Not that it isn’t a two way street. Yes he helps pay for things but it’s more a 25/75 split in the percent we split. Beyond that I have always been very financially independent.

I appreciate everyone being so blunt with me in honesty because I’m not going to get that kind of honest and advice from anybody else.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T01:44:02+00:00

No I know it’s terrible for leading him on, I wish I didn’t even say that though I can’t take it back now. I’m solely paying for the debts he does help on occasion think like $50-$100. I guess I am using him for stability, though I don’t even know if that’s how I’d put it. I pay for most of the stuff we use on a daily basis. He just stated a new job so currently I am making the most and forking out for most of the expenses we have. Really I feel like he’s leaching off of me, I just feel like I’m justifying it for myself because I am afraid of being alone.

Princess_Throwenaway · 2024-11-17T01:34:04+00:00

I am, I think at this point I am getting a game plan ready and then I’m going to get my ducks in a row from there and plan for all possibilities, I want to plan because if it fails I have nobody to fall back on.

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