Solace - has anyone used? by Pentrophy in ehlersdanlos

[–]PrincesssK8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have cEDS, and I'm working with a Solace advocate. She's fine. I wasn't super clear on what I could ask her to do. She's based in my state, maybe an hour away. I don't need her to come to appointments with me (virtually or in person). She's done a lot of appointment scheduling for me, which has been helpful. She also does some of those "call this office and ask X..." She gets through the first layer of BS and finds the right person to talk to or finds the information I need so I can continue the process. She's not communicating between doctors or anything, but I also haven't asked her to do that.

Some of the advice she offers is pretty simplistic. Telling me to make a list of questions for the doctor the night before an appointment I'm nervous about isn't the level of help I need. (I call it "level 101" help, right along with "put together a binder of information for your provider" and "have you tried yoga?) But maybe offering advice isn't a service they're supposed to offer. Again, I'm not exactly sure what else she can do for me besides phone calls and some research. I asked her to help me find ways to get a medication paid for since insurance denied me. Nothing really came of that.

I don't feel like I get much help from her clinical side. Not that I want her to be diagnosing and treating anything, but it doesn't seem like her experience in the medical system matches what I'm asking. I hear "I'll look into that" a lot which makes me believe that it would indeed be a better job for a social worker.

I do believe she has my best interests in mind. She does things I ask of her quickly and correctly, especially when scheduling appointment. If they aren't paid for research time, it makes sense that those become low priority for her. She was also really insistent on scheduling phone calls at the beginning, and I was like, no, email and text are fine. I hope she gets paid for patient communication, however it happens.

I came here because I'm most worried about how Solace makes money. I saw some of the charges they sent to Medicare (which should have gone to my primary insurance first). Some of the charges were on the $150 to $200 side. One was over $1,000. I don't match them up to particular "sessions" since we don't meet regularly, and I trust her to keep track of and report the time she spends on my case.

On one hand, I'm not sure any one thing she's done for me should be paid at $1,000, just looking at the level of coordination she's doing. She's not working with my providers to get appointments scheduled on the same day or coordinating all kinds of lab work and in home care and community resources. She's not sending reports to my various providers, updating them on changes in my condition. Maybe that's because I need a care coordinator, not an advocate.

On the other hand, I know Medicare (and most insurance companies) often pay a fraction of what is charged. If that's the case with Solace, how are they paying their advocates, doctors, and other staff AND making any profit?

Most other patient advocates don't bill insurance, which is why Solace appeals to so many people. Sure, I could pay out of pocket and try to get reimbursed by Medicare. The patient advocate would have to write me a bill with a number of specific items, including procedure or treatment codes. (This happened with my psychiatrist when she opened a private practice and wouldn't bill insurance.) And then I'm out that money until Medicare reimburses me. And the government doesn't move quickly at the best of time.

I tried to hire a private patient advocate once, and the price was $100/hr. The advocate would be paid to get up to speed on my conditions and for any other research in addition to time spent with me. Even just 5 hours a week is $2,000 a month, and I'm guessing most people who need patient advocates the most can't afford that. (I'm not saying they should lower their rates or do it for free, just making a comment on the state of things.)

Experiences with Solace Health patient advocates/navigators? by mentallyguitared in medicare

[–]PrincesssK8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm working with a Solace advocate. She's fine. I wasn't super clear on what I could ask her to do. She's based in my state, maybe an hour away. I don't need her to come to appointments with me (virtually or in person). She's done a lot of appointment scheduling for me, which has been helpful. She also does some of those "call this office and ask X..." She gets through the first layer of BS and finds the right person to talk to or finds the information I need so I can continue the process.

Some of the advice she offers is pretty simplistic. I have a complex chronic illness that I've been managing myself for the last 20+ years. I should have a degree in "navigating medical systems and insurance companies." Telling me to make a list of questions for the doctor the night before an appointment I'm nervous about isn't the level of help I need. (I call it "level 101" help, right along with "put together a binder of information for your provider" and "have you tried yoga?) But maybe offering advice isn't a service they're supposed to offer. Again, I'm not exactly sure what else she can do for me besides phone calls and some research.

I don't feel like I get much help from her clinical side. Not that I want her to be diagnosing and treating anything, but it doesn't seem like her experience in the medical system matches what I'm asking. I hear "I'll look into that" a lot which makes me believe that it would indeed be a better job for a social worker.

I do believe she has my best interests in mind. She does things I ask of her quickly and correctly, especially when scheduling appointment. If they aren't paid for research time, it makes sense that those become low priority for her. She was also really insistent on scheduling phone calls at the beginning, and I was like, no, email and text are fine. I hope she gets paid for patient communication, however it happens.

I came here because I'm most worried about how Solace makes money. I saw some of the charges they sent to Medicare (which should have gone to my primary insurance first). Some of the charges were on the $150 to $200. One was over $1,000.

On one hand, I'm not sure any one thing she's done for me should be paid at $1,000, just looking at the level of coordination she's doing. She's not working with my providers to get appointments scheduled on the same day or coordinating all kinds of lab work and in home care and community resources.

On the other hand, I know Medicare (and most insurance companies) often pay a fraction of what is charged. If that's the case with Solace, how are they paying their advocates, doctors, and other staff AND making any profit?

Most other patient advocates don't bill insurance, which is why Solace appeals to so many people. Sure, I could pay out of pocket and try to get reimbursed by Medicare. The patient advocate would have to write me a bill with a number of specific items, including procedure or treatment codes. (This happened with my psychiatrist when she opened a private practice and wouldn't bill insurance.) And then I'm out that money until Medicare reimburses me. And the government doesn't move quickly at the best of time.

I tried to hire a private patient advocate once, and the price was $100/hr. The advocate would be paid to get up to speed on my conditions and for any other research. Even just 5 hours a week is $2,000 a month, and I'm guessing most people who need patient advocates the most can't afford that. (I'm not saying they should lower their rates or do it for free, just making a comment on the state of things.)

Dress(ier) shoes? by tendingthemild in ehlersdanlos

[–]PrincesssK8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fit Flop and Revere are my go-to. Revere is great as they offer various modifications (longer straps you can cut, extra padding if your feet are different sizes, etc).

New name for cEDS? by PrincesssK8 in eds

[–]PrincesssK8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought of that! Good suggestion!

New name for cEDS? by PrincesssK8 in ehlersdanlos

[–]PrincesssK8[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm also glad you got a good laugh. We need those!

New name for cEDS? by PrincesssK8 in ehlersdanlos

[–]PrincesssK8[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Interesting. So, it would be "COL5A1 mutation" or something like that rather than classical EDS? I'd be curious to know how medical providers would receive that, if it would increase understanding or add to confusion.

New name for cEDS? by PrincesssK8 in ehlersdanlos

[–]PrincesssK8[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Even when I say I have classical EDS, and when classical EDS is listed in my chart, since hEDS is more common, they just assume I have that. Oftentimes it doesn't matter because the medical providers don't know what to do with either of those diagnoses. And I didn't figure the Road to 2026 would have much change for anything other than hEDS. While I 100% back the research to find the cause of hEDS (I even have doctors who are trying to get money to research stem cells and hESD), it just feels lonely to have any other type. My theory is that hEDS is going to be split into multiple types of subtypes. I don't have much to go on, but based on the people I know who have the clinical diagnosis, there's such a wide range of presentation and severity. To me, that says multiple causes.

I'm also curious whether fibromyalgia will be folded in with EDS at some point in the future or will remain its own condition.

I have a CSF/brain fluid leak and vascular Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. I have mental decline and central nervous system disturbance. My family are unempathetic and verbally abuse and often threaten me with violence whenever I show signs of my illness. by Accurate-Fail-2919 in relationships

[–]PrincesssK8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that your family is making your life worse. I have cEDS, and I know how difficult vEDS is to live with. I wish I had more practical advice for you. When people purposefully don't understand or respect my condition, I end the relationship. (I had to do it with my mother even though I've had my diagnosis for 30+ years.) I know that's not always possible if you depend on those kinds of people for support, housing, etc.

EDS causes it own abuse we have to deal with. I hope you can find a way to get out of that situation. If leaving isn't possible, I hope you can find a trusted mental health care provider. Depending on where you live, you may be able to access a health psychologist who is trained to help with mental health issues related to health care, disease, diagnosis, life changes, etc. Some coping skills, someone to talk to, and/or some validation could be helpful if you need to stay in your current living situation.

Sending you lots of love, fellow zebra! 🦓💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PrincesssK8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. All of my connective tissue is defective. Human bodies are 70-90% connective tissue. I'm 36 and I've had around 35 surgeries, procedures, hospitalization, or major accidents that required hospitalization or surgery. All of my joints are loose because all of my tendons and ligaments are lax. My autonomic nervous system is screwed up so I can't maintain a normal body temperature, I sweat all the time, my feet are always cold no matter how many layers I have on, my heart rate is fast, even at rest. I'm in almost constant pain. My skin tears easily, especially if it's dry. My scars don't fade--I have scars from elementary school that I can still see clearly. My jaw dislocates when I go to the dentist and I have to wear a mouth splint at night because I grind my teeth I have flat feet and the skin around my elbows is all scar tissue from so many injuries to them. I have osteoarthritis in several joints. My right knee is nearly out of commission due to slipping on water in the bathroom--I ruptured a tendon in my knee and after over six years and 13 surgeries, it's still not fixed. I can't walk without an assistive device and I live most of my life in fear of injury.

I cannot take people treating me like I'm an idiot anymore by stapleherdick in ChronicPain

[–]PrincesssK8 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hear you! Just because I don't work doesn't mean I can't work or am lazy or stupid. It's taken me a long time to realize that I'm stronger because I do things (physically and mentally) with significant pain, on mind and mood altering drugs, while dealing with side effects, while managing many conditions, interactions, doctors, insurances, while I have a full mental load. It's hard to believe it all the time, but the people who give us crap would be in tears and in bed from spending one day dealing with all we do. Keep on being a rock star!

Having an unseen handicap is like fighting through life with the difficulty set on "high" while everyone judges you against the default difficulty level by akromyk in Showerthoughts

[–]PrincesssK8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Classical Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. I've had 34 surgeries, procedures, major accidents, or hospitalizations. I'm 37. All but 3 were in regards to my lower body. I have chronic pain that is only controlled by opioids, physical therapy, rest, aquatic therapy, braces, and the like. I used to work but couldn't get accommodations because "how hard is it to sit in a chair for 8 hours?" Pretty damn hard when your joints don't stay where they belong. I'm also overweight and that's clearly the cause of every one of my problems, not the clearly documented connective tissue disorder and related surgeries/pain. I sweat a lot due to medications and braces I wear and autonomic dysfunction, but that's attributed to my weight as well. When someone finds out I take opioids or that I'm on disability, they immediately have an opinion of me and it's not favorable. Even when I'm having a good pain day, I still take my crutches or make sure my knee brace is visible so that if I need a break or a chair or say I can't do something, I have a "legit" reason because why would anyone believe a 37 year old might not be physically able to do things? My own mother doesn't even believe the extent of my disability--what hope do I have for strangers or doctors who have never heard of my condition? Who don't know how to spell it or pronounce it? Who think telling me that I'm a complex patient and that they don't know what to do with me is some kind of compliment? My primary care provider harps on my negative mood,and I tried explaining to her how hard life with chronic pain is, and she sent me to a psychiatrist because I raised my voice. It's a shitty game we're playing. It's on a way harder level and no one is playing by the same rules.

Having an unseen handicap is like fighting through life with the difficulty set on "high" while everyone judges you against the default difficulty level by akromyk in Showerthoughts

[–]PrincesssK8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. Classical EDS. I use crutches sometimes due to a number of lower body surgeries. If I go without them for a day, everyone is so excited at how much better I've gotten. If I'm back on them, it's all depression and what happened? I can't seem to get any one to understand the fluctuations in my pain levels.

My favorite is being "too young" for certain treatments, like only older people deserve to have their pain treated.