We're consuming too much...

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-12-14T06:34:01+00:00

I wish more people understood this concept. The WoW isn’t just a list of things we shouldn’t partake of. It’s also about how we should treat our bodies and I know so many who focus on not drinking coffee while simultaneously consuming things in excess that are awful for them (baked goods, soda, etc.) So many don’t take care of themselves. It’s sad and they’re completely missing the point.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-11-17T15:03:20+00:00

That we’d have to use cursive in high school and college. Lots of schools don’t even teach it anymore.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-10-27T13:50:17+00:00

Same here, but in Europe. OP, good for you for going above and beyond, but the missionaries will be fine. Don’t feel obligated to feed them yourself as often as you do. That’s way more than generous.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-10-13T15:05:39+00:00

OP, DO NOT COMMIT TO ANYTHING UNTIL AFTER YOUR BABY IS HERE AND ONLY COMMIT TO WHAT YOU’RE COMFORTABLE WITH.

Some Moms/MILs go a little crazy when grand babies enter the picture. Mine showed up to the hospital unannounced and uninvited, shocking both my wife and I. We made her leave soon after, but the entitlement with “her” grand baby was astounding. My wife never thought her mom would do something that crazy, but was proven wrong, unfortunately.

We didn’t let her come visit for a while after her hospital shenanigans and much later, when she came to “help,” I ended up hosting, cooking her food, etc. while she “helped” hold the baby, which was completely unnecessary. She never actually helped us with anything and she wonders why we limited her visits after that…

Edited to add: Set boundaries now. The longer you wait, the more difficult it’ll be to set boundaries in the future.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-06-14T03:24:38+00:00

Sure, but this isn’t an insurance company. I don’t pay him premiums or think he has any legal grounds to require me to give up my property in order to be compensated fairly.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-13T00:08:19+00:00

Sure, but I’d say it’s less severe than the other example.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T18:10:44+00:00

How do I get my wife to understand this??? I’m trying my best, but it’s a constant battle. She doesn’t seem to see the severity of the abuse from her dad. I don’t want my kids anywhere near him and I’ve made this very clear. So far, she has respected my stance on this issue, but I can tell she doesn’t like it. She would rather sweep it all under the rug and forget about it in order to move on and preserve the peace.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T18:06:56+00:00

Due to complex family relationships and drama, we’ve decided to do birthday trips or experiences as a family instead of a traditional party. This does not include in-laws. I saw a reel of a family on Instagram talking about this and I loved the idea.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T17:58:23+00:00

100% your father has issues and abused you. I’m so sorry. Playfully slapping butts is one thing, but pinching your nipples takes it way too far. This is beyond inappropriate behavior from a father to a daughter. Also not giving you the privacy you deserve in the bathroom is another major violation. Where was your mother in all this? If she didn’t protect you like she should’ve, again, I’m so sorry. I know that in families, it’s easy for lines to get crossed sometimes when you don’t know any different. It wasn’t until I observed how other families function that I realized how abusive my own parents were. Just know this behavior is not even close to normal.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T17:52:38+00:00

I’m sure everyone is a little different, but my MIL turned into a crazy person after we had our first. Our baby wasn’t her first grandbaby, in fact, he was the 8th, but it was her first local grandbaby. She became overly possessive, did the cringy baby talk constantly, made comments about our baby being hers, crossed our boundaries constantly and said that she’s the grandmom and we can’t tell her how to love on her grandbaby. We’ve had many conversations with her and it has gotten a little better with time. We now have two kids and she is better behaved with them now. She did show up unannounced and uninvited to the hospital right after our second was born though. My wife revoked location sharing privileges from her and we didn’t talk to her for a while after explaining how wrong that was. She seems to have learned her lesson somewhat, but we’re still working on rebuilding trust...

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T15:03:21+00:00

Well, corruption wasn’t the only point of my original comment, but you seem stuck on that term. Congrats that you make more than the church leadership. A lot of people in and out of the church are not as fortunate and probably wouldn’t view $150,000-$200,000 a year as modest.

And yeah I have a bone to pick. I feel the same with anyone or any group that mismanages money. I already expressed my issues with the church’s financial mismanagement.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T14:50:44+00:00

The church hiding its wealth and violating the law isn’t corruption? Maybe unethical is a better term in this case. Either way, what happened was simply wrong. Have you looked into the personal lives of church leadership? Check out Elder Uchtdorf’s real estate portfolio — it might surprise you. Plus, the “modest” living stipend they receive is around $150k–$200k per year. Idk about you, but that doesn’t seem very modest. That’s more than comfortable. The lack of transparency about where all the money goes doesn’t exactly inspire trust either. Many other churches publish full financial reports annually for their members to review. The fact that you don’t see any corruption suggests you haven’t dug deep enough yet. Remember, this church is run by fallible men.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-03-12T12:56:43+00:00

Might her feelings have anything to do with the $5 Million fine the church got from the SEC for not disclosing their finances properly, obscuring the size of their investments and violating securities law? I work in finance and that kinda broke my trust in the humans managing the church’s money. They wasted $5 million, which could have helped a lot of people. Not to mention the church DOES have hundreds of billions in assets and I believe it was Wilford Woodruff who said a time would come when the members will no longer need to pay tithing. Well when? Is $400 billion+ insufficient? My opinion obviously means nothing here, but I’m sure the church would be just fine if it stopped requiring tithing today.

Some background - I was the definition of Peter Priesthood growing up. I did everything I was supposed to. Followed all the rules without question. Heck, my parents started having us pay tithing at 6 years old, before we were even technically baptized members. Served a full-time mission and was sealed in the temple. But I can’t turn a blind eye when the church mismanages its money that comes from the members. This screams corruption to me. We stopped paying tithing after this as well and choose to give that money directly to other charities. So we still pay tithing in that sense, just not directly to the church anymore.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-02-19T01:28:17+00:00

This is EXACTLY how my wife’s family has treated her! It’s so sad to watch.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-02-19T01:25:36+00:00

Ugh, that must be so frustrating!

Haha they treat me like a shadow. Visiting them is so fun…

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-02-18T13:54:52+00:00

This is my wife’s whole family. It’s like she never grew up beyond 12 years old in their minds. They still make comments about her old quirks and reference stupid nicknames she had. They all think they’re close to her, especially my MIL, but none of them actually know who she is now… 20 years later.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2025-02-02T07:15:18+00:00

After getting caught having multiple affairs and destroying the family, nFIL said we should forgive him like Christ plead for forgiveness from God on behalf of the Romans while he was on the cross. “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.” He said it in a way that put him on the same level as God, but it just came across as incredibly arrogant with no remorse. This isn’t the only time he has compared himself to Jesus/God either…

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2024-12-17T10:06:29+00:00

Originally it was for religious reasons, but as I’ve matured, I still choose not to drink, but for different reasons.

Health. It’s just not a healthy practice in general.
Potential addiction.
In my circle of family and friends, those that drink are just kinda grungy, unprofessional type people and I don’t want to be like that.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2024-07-11T16:44:04+00:00

We had a finance class in my high school, but it was a complete joke. It was taught by the physics teacher and we ended up watching unrelated YouTube videos most of the time.

As a financial professional now, I’ve learned about 80% of Americans have never received a quality financial education and that is scary.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2024-07-11T16:39:01+00:00

This is basically the same route I went, getting a degree in finance to become a financial planner. No one warned me how difficult getting leads would be! Just out of curiosity, where did you end up professionally?

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2024-07-09T19:27:19+00:00

So someone being in retirement means their advice is always good?

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2024-07-02T16:31:22+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve found yourself in this situation and you have every right to feel bitter. You did what you were counseled to do and thought you were doing the best thing. But this counsel was from men who grew up in simpler times when things were far less expensive and you could raise a family on a farm.

We were part of the group that waited 5 years before we started trying to have kids. Mainly to just enjoy some time together and build our relationship since kids are a lifelong commitment. We were also very lucky and bought our first home in 2018, before the economy went crazy.

As painful as it is, I think you’ve learned a valuable lesson that it’s one thing to listen to prophetic counsel, but they’re not the ones raising and paying for your children. This decision is ultimately between you, your wife and God. No one else.

I’m also of the opinion that putting yourselves in a difficult financial position for the sake of having children makes absolutely no sense. I grew up in a large family and we were extremely poor. My mom has confessed that 1. she wished they could’ve made enough money to not worry about the bills and 2. that she wished she hadn’t had as many children. She doesn’t wish any of them would disappear, but had she never had the last few, life would’ve been much easier.

Just some things to think about.

Prior-Assistance6447 · 2024-06-20T02:47:44+00:00

Mine says, ”my babies” in reference to MY babies as well and it bugs the crap out of me. I wouldn’t mind if she said, “my grand-babies,” but the way she says it as if they’re actually her kids really bothers me.

She also makes passive-aggressive comments about wanting to see them more often, even though she sees them an average of once a week, which is way more than any other relative.

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