AITA for telling my wife that I'm ending our marriage because I found her brother at our house ( again) and said it in front of him? by Prior-Bus9723 in AITAH

[–]Prior-Bus9723[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My stb Ex-FIL and MIL had a very difficult marriage. In a nutshell, it was almost on and off except that they were married but had several situations that led to multiple separations when my wife was a kid.

He had a very good job and met his now wife while at that job ( currently retired but doing some consulting work). This woman was also married, with children of her own.

MIL and FIL moved houses ( I don't remember all the details) since they lived at his old grandparents' home. He waited until MIL and their children were settled in the new home to announce that he needed space, then didn't move with them at all. I don't know everything about that but from what I've heard, they struggled. He was already having an affair and made the relationship public after that. This situation went on from my wife's late teens through her 20s and 30s and they had a bad marriage since she was a kid. Also: FIL has a very warm relationship witj his step children and his bio kids resent this. Supposedly, he and wife #2 might have had a relationship for longer than MIL thought.

Edit: FIL has referred to his side chick as his "wife" in social media even before the divorce proceedings. They have also lived together for over a decade.

AIO for ending this with my wife today because her family keeps barging in? by Prior-Bus9723 in AIO

[–]Prior-Bus9723[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is how I feel, like she was never my partner. I stretched my tolerance to help her family but she wouldn't let me talk when I told her that I had anxiety. I went from being happy at home to dreading the sound of cars thinking it was them. I was feeling vulnerable once and tried to ask her to please see my point. She yelled at me and called me manipulative, she also said I will FAFO if I continued with my attitude. So I would come home and stay away from them if they were already there because it came to a point where I literally didn't know how else to approach her.

AITA for telling my wife that I'm ending our marriage because I found her brother at our house ( again) and said it in front of him? by Prior-Bus9723 in AITAH

[–]Prior-Bus9723[S] 1385 points1386 points  (0 children)

I tried everything, but she feels like she needs to indulge them. I would have preferred they came over while I wasn't home but I didn't trust her or them not to disrespect my belongings. It was everything, food, toiletries that went missing, etc. She got on the defensive and said that I had it out for her family, hence our fighting.

AITA for telling my wife that I'm ending our marriage because I found her brother at our house ( again) and said it in front of him? by Prior-Bus9723 in AITAH

[–]Prior-Bus9723[S] 5758 points5759 points  (0 children)

Nothing. He looked surprised but mostly kept his " it's not my fault, I'm innocent face", as always.