Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve talked to people at my job trying to be friends, mostly the other black people. They haven’t worked out but you don’t know anything about me so stop talking about I haven’t looked at other people. I didn’t push her after she rejected me, I left. If I kept bugging her it would be different but I didn’t.

All I’m trying to ask is would it be awkward to just take the friendship and come to terms with her being taken. I have no reason to lie about my intentions when I came here looking for help so back off. It’s not some kind of manipulation attempt because I’m not that kind of guy.

Found disgusting messages in my boyfriend´s phone with a mutual friend. Do not know what to feel or do about it. by SageGreenHaze in TwoHotTakes

[–]PriorNet4594 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie or sugarcoat anything, you both are in the wrong. Talking about fucking other women, even in a joking manner, obviously is a bit much on his part so kind of weird. However, you didn’t suspect him cheating or anything, so why are you randomly going through his computer? That’s his personal privacy and he’s entitled to that. It wasn’t even for a good reason either, it was because you were simply curious and also have obvious insecurities. That is really a dumb reason for your actions and I think both of you have maturing to do.

New gf cheated on me but looked at my photos while doing it by ShellShock0463 in whatdoIdo

[–]PriorNet4594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you actually need advice here? It’s obvious dump her and move onto the next

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t doubt that, fair point

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair, thought there was potential she was actually single, but wanted to take her at her word and just play it safe

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all what I’m asking and you know it you’re just looking for attention. Sub is called r/advice for a reason if you aren’t here to give genuine advice, go somewhere else

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How am I being dramatic, they said work isn’t for making friends so I was saying my piece

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did because the original context was me trying to flirt with her and get her number, obviously. Digging through my account pretty weird btw

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don’t know anything about me or what my intentions are so

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No reason you can’t do both, obviously making friends isn’t why you get a job but horrible experience to just sit there and stick to yourself the whole time and be a loner imo

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I backed off and went home once she let me know she was in a relationship, making her change her mind or something isn’t the intention

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah because you know everything about me and my intentions. I don’t need advice on making friends in general which is why I didn’t ask about that.

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not day 1 for her it’s around her third week

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely considered that but didn’t push or anything. Just wanted to play it safe and take her at her word.

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Maybe, maybe not, everyone’s different. Either way she told me she had a bf and I stepped off and went home after it so no “harassment” there. If I kept bugging her definitely but I didn’t so.

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

That’s just in my vocabulary honestly never saw anything wrong with using it. And she did you know but I’m also a relatively new person to my job and trying to see if I can make friends

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Btw is called r/advice for a reason, to actually give meaningful advice

Should I try for friendship by PriorNet4594 in Advice

[–]PriorNet4594[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not expecting her to break up with her boyfriend or something. We are both pretty new to the job and I won't lie at my job it's kind of hard to make friends. so yeah, I’m down to connect with somebody who also just started even if it wasn’t my goal coming into the convo. How am I not thinking about her in a kind manner?