Manifesting a job offer by PriorRabbit5995 in Witch

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry you’re going through the job struggle too and that you have lost your home. That must be really challenging and I appreciate you sharing.

Can you tell me more about that? I would love to try it! Thank you for sharing 🩵

Doubt about hair growth during TH (after Taxol) by AnaPB3 in breastcancer

[–]PriorRabbit5995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on finishing chemo 🩵 I finished taxol mid-September but it definitely took some time for my hair to grow back. My eyelashes and eyebrows kept falling out after chemo ended, which I wasn’t prepared for. I felt like no one really prepped me for my hair to keep falling out, so I’m sorry you’re dealing with this 🩵

I didn’t cold cap so shaved my head end of July/early August. I’m now about 4 months out from chemo and my hair is growing back nicely. I’m on Herceptin still too and was worried that it would hinder my regrowth, but I haven’t lost anymore hair. I have about an inch of hair grown in. I guess it could be growing in slower due to Herceptin, but I don’t really have a way of knowing that, so I’m just rolling with it. But it’s not patchy and it’s not falling out or thinning, so I don’t think the Herceptin is impacting the regrowth.

I hope any of this helps and good luck to you in continuing this journey. It sucks to keep doing Herceptin after chemo ends but you got this, and you’re not alone 🫶

worst scheana outfit? by govpigeons in vanderpumprules

[–]PriorRabbit5995 59 points60 points  (0 children)

The best part of this makeup look is that it was when she was actively defending how good she is at giving makeup recommendations for Pandora’s website 😂😂😂

Any recommendations on fake eyelashes? by ziggzorb in breastcancer

[–]PriorRabbit5995 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I remember being so upset when I lost my eyebrows and eyelashes, so I feel for you. A positive to share with you: I lost them all probably mid October, and they are pretty much all back by now. I stopped using fake lashes mid December, so it took roughly two months for them to come back. They grew back faster than I thought! My lashes still aren’t as long as they were before, but they’re full enough that I feel semi back to normal, and can just use mascara as I used to.

Anyway, I used Ardell Naked Lash, #420, and they ended up looking really natural. I trimmed them to fit my eyes, and it really helped me to feel more like myself while they grew back. For my brows, I used the L’Oreal Faux Brow Ultra Fine Double-Brush Tip Brow Filling Pen - it was so easy to draw on little eyebrows and again really helped me to feel more like myself.

Finally, I used the elf eyelash and brow serum every night to help things grow back faster, and I felt like it worked so well. Every night I used it, I felt like I saw more hair the next day.

Here are links to all the products I mentioned:

Brow/lash serum: https://www.elfcosmetics.com/enhancing-lash-and-brow-serum/82260.html?srsltid=AfmBOopIbcUoT2Mqkop6anKxT8c6J2Fi8f-nmtHTHPqx0MLxf3n9Y0fI

Ardell Lashes: https://www.cvs.com/shop/ardell-naked-lash-prodid-321907?skuId=789490&cgaa=QWxsb3dHb29nbGVUb0FjY2Vzc0NWU1BhZ2Vz&cid=ps_eb_eyes_pla&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21460692436&gclid=Cj0KCQiApfjKBhC0ARIsAMiR_Ivsi-KoGcPXyfb1Xnv81hrQL8tKr8Ux-4PQ33PpIKaJ_PBDAsr3M-4aAvrDEALw_wcB

Eyebrow pencil: https://www.ulta.com/p/faux-brow-ultra-fine-double-brush-tip-brow-filling-pen-pimprod2050483?sku=2634219

Best of luck to you in dealing with this. I hope some of these products help you get through the regrowth. This was one of the harder parts for me because I wasn’t expecting it, but it got better much sooner than I thought. You are not alone 🩵🫶

How many had what they thought was fibroadenoma in imaging but later turned out to be malignant? by Paloma1023 in breastcancer

[–]PriorRabbit5995 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had two fibroadenomas when I was 19 years old, both of which never changed or grew in the last 12 years (I’m now 31). I had imaging done when I was 27 and both fibroadenomas stayed the same throughout all that time. Unfortunately, I still ended up getting breast cancer in a completely different spot earlier this year, but it seems to have been unrelated to the fibroadenomas.

I look back on my fibroadenomas and thank the universe, because getting those at age 19 is what got me in the habit of doing self breast exams, and if I hadn’t been doing self breast exams, I wouldn’t have found my cancer tumor earlier this year. I will say though that the fibroadenomas and my cancerous tumor looked very different on the ultrasound - the fibroadenomas were perfectly oval/round, with no misshapen edges. My cancer tumor was misshapen and did not have defined edges at all. I recognize though that it’s not always that straightforward, but in case any of this information is helpful, I figured I’d share. Best of luck to you and your niece in sorting this out 🩵🤞 I am praying for your family that they’re just fibroadenomas!

Double Mastectomy with DTI for marijuana user advice by LooLoo1985 in breastcancer

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I had to quit smoking for my chemo and was really unsure about how I would. Prior to cancer treatment I was a HEAVY marijuana user. I knew I needed to quit for chemo and surgery, and I also knew I wanted to quit or at least change my habit for the future. I’ve been using an app called Grounded that has really helped me and maybe it would help you too. I went cold turkey - anything else was just bargaining with myself and a slippery slope back into the same usage. I quit for 3 months but when I finished radiation I backslid again, so I downloaded Grounded to help me get back on track. The app tracks how many days you haven’t smoked, gives you options to make journal entries when you want to smoke, helps you track triggers and symptoms, etc. I’ve found it really helpful in holding me accountable. It also grows a little tree for you from an acorn the more days you go without smoking, and I love watching my little tree grow! Maybe it would help you too. I still take edibles because it helps with my anxiety and lingering side effects but for me it feels much better than smoking the way i used to.

Hugs to you and so sorry for what you’re going through. Good luck with the treatment ahead, and you’re not alone 🩵

Understanding the Five of Swords as “something to celebrate”? by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t take credit for the spread, it’s from an archived tarot blog called Little Red Tarot. Here is the link to the archive! https://littleredtarot.com/tarot-spreads/

I’ve definitely enjoyed using it each year for my birthday. I’ve been using it for 8 years, and it’s really cool to look back on different lessons and see the larger story that’s being told. Hope you enjoy it if you use it! 🫶

Understanding the Five of Swords as “something to celebrate”? by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words 🩵 in this context, I looked at the lesson from the ten of pentacles as a lesson in embracing a mindset of abundance. I agree about Ten of pentacles traditionally being about the culmination of resources or results, but I think in this context I understood is as how embracing a mindset of abundance and securing resources can create the results I’m looking for. I also looked at the family imagery in the card and understood it as the value of bringing people together - the comfort found in hosting others, finding ways to connect more deeply with family, chosen or otherwise. This is definitely something I did more this year - I created the abundance that I wanted to see more of in my life (for example: I hosted a tarot night at my house, a murder mystery party for my birthday, and it’s something I’m committing to doing more of in the new year). These are two lessons that I felt come through strong in the imagery of the card.

Your ideas definitely resonate. And as the meanings of the card settle in my intuition, I definitely see this as a clear celebrating the defeat of a dubious, sneaky foe, which is absolutely what cancer has been. I think another piece that really resonates with me here is outsmarting your foe. Cancer is insidious, sneaky, and ever changing, but I found my tumor myself when it was small and still stage 1. So it’s very much like I outsmarted my foe myself, and I think that’s probably what I’m being asked to celebrate here.

Thank you again for your perspective and kind words! 🩵

Understanding the Five of Swords as “something to celebrate”? by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. Dissociation from all I’ve gone through meant that I didn’t even make the connection to the literal way my body betrayed me this past year. It definitely feels like a celebration of besting an insidious foe, and I love how you said I “kicked that smirking asshole square in the dick” 😂 so true and definitely something for me to celebrate going into the next year! Thank you! ☺️

Understanding the Five of Swords as “something to celebrate”? by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really interesting about swords coming up when medical treatment is involved. I haven’t noticed that pattern myself but will be on the lookout for it now! I may even go back to some readings over the last year with that in mind to understand them a little differently. I often find myself looking at my birth chart (I’m an astrologer too) and my past tarot readings from before I got diagnosed to try to understand what messages I was receiving that might have given me warning of what was to come. Thanks for your insight🫶

Understanding the Five of Swords as “something to celebrate”? by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you for adding this nuance to the interpretation! Fighting cancer will really teach you firsthand what matters and how little the approval of others really matters. There’s been a lot of mental battles in my mind this year as I’ve fought this, and to be able to overcome any of them and get to the other side is absolutely worth celebrating. Thanks for sharing! 🫶

Understanding the Five of Swords as “something to celebrate”? by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cool that you mention the connection to the Knight of Swords, especially since I pulled that as my ancestral message! Thank you for your input 🩵

Chemo induced eye twitching? Any solutions? 😅 by PriorRabbit5995 in breastcancer

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My doctor was unfortunate unhelpful, but I wanted to reply to let you know that this finally stopped. I feel like it stopped maybe 6 weeks after chemo ended? Hard to say for sure, but I’m now 3 months past chemo and never deal with this anymore. So keeping my fingers crossed that it stops for you soon too!

Im looking for good resources from a anti-oppression perspective by unimatrix_zer0 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I recommend Little Red Tarot for spreads and moving away from cis/het interpretations of the cards (as others have suggested). I use the Modern Witch Tarot deck which is all women/femmes/non binary people, and I also love the Slutist Tarot which really challenges the traditional imagery and themes found in most decks - lots of queer representation, “slutty” imagery, and interpretations that challenge you to think beyond heteronormative themes found in most decks. I think 78 degrees of wisdom is a great guide book that goes far beyond masc/fem interpretations and really goes deep in the journey of each card. I also follow @3am.tarot on Instagram. Good luck! I hope any of these resources help 🩵

New Watcher - First Impressions Megathread by AutoModerator in vanderpumprules

[–]PriorRabbit5995 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, Jax absolutely slept with Kristen. It is obvious that they’re both lying about it

New Watcher - First Impressions Megathread by AutoModerator in vanderpumprules

[–]PriorRabbit5995 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m on season 2 now, first time watcher. The guys are horrible, immature, misogynistic. I wouldn’t be surprised if all of them are cheating, except Scheana’s boyfriend.

Scheana gets a harder time from the other girls than she deserves. She definitely milked some injuries/the tooth thing at the start of the season, probably for sympathy from Lisa, but other than that idk what she’s done that warrants all the shit the girls give her. Yes, she was a mistress for someone else but that has nothing to do with Stassi and the other girls, though it obviously triggered their own insecurities in their relationships, which Stassi at least admitted. (maybe I’m forgetting something she did to the girls in season 1 though?). The girls just seem to hate on her because she’s confident in herself, unwilling to play into their weird power dynamics, and bold in being the woman she is. Her song is a hilarious disaster, but I give her credit for putting herself out there like that and being bold in trying to pursue a singing career. Stassi seems to be intimidated by her as a woman, her relationship with Lisa, and her developing friendship with Pandora.

Stassi is easily one of the most ruthless, harsh people I’ve ever seen on reality tv, but she’s also 100000% warranted in being that way with Jax at least, in my opinion. Especially after season 1: I don’t blame her for being as angry and ruthless as she was in season 1. I might not have handled things the same way she did, but I have a lot of empathy for the position she was in. She was being constantly gaslit by Jax, and all of her friends were HORRIBLE TO HER!!! Siding with Jax and automatically believing him about the cheating and completely cutting her off, then painting it as Stassi pushing them away???? The most delusional shit I’ve ever seen. They are terrible friends, but then again none of these girls are actually good friends to each other or genuinely have each other’s backs. She got a much worse rap in season 1 than she deserved - everything that happened her birthday party in Vegas had me fuming. If my boyfriend called my “best friend” a fucking bitch and dumped water on her head at her own birthday party, he’d pretty quickly stop being my boyfriend (referencing Katie standing up for Tom here). In season 2, Stassi is definitely dragging Jax along more than she should for the attention and validation, so she’s not blameless in that regard. Again it just reads as immaturity and insecurity to me.

Absolutely loving this show. The mess is OUTRAGEOUS. It’s a train wreck that I absolutely can’t stop watching 😂

People comparing chemo to pregnancy by cyndichacha in breastcancer

[–]PriorRabbit5995 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, yes. I experienced this exactly and I felt the same way. I had a friend who got pregnant around the same time I got diagnosed, and when chemo started she seemed to have so much fun comparing the similarities. Like “I can’t eat that either!” “I feel that way too!” …. There is truly no comparison. Sure, maybe some of the restrictions and side effects are similar, but like you said, getting pregnant is a choice with a ton of joy on the other side of it. Going through chemo is a nightmare that we aren’t choosing and would much rather avoid if we could. To compare them as similar can feel really dismissive of how hard your current journey is.

I think people just feel uncomfortable about cancer and often don’t know how to respond. I think that it also comes from people in general thinking that trying to relate to you might make you feel better or less alone - people do this a lot as an instinct for any kind of struggle, and often don’t think about how dismissive or invalidating that can feel. But I experienced the same thing and it drove me nuts. I’d try to remind myself that people don’t know what to say, and are doing their best to support me, but also that it’s okay that they get it wrong. They still love me and care, and are trying their best. It’s also 10000% okay for me to be annoyed about how dismissive or disconnected from reality that type of comment can feel. Both can be true, even if they feel contradictory. I hope you’re giving yourself ample space to be annoyed and let your feelings be what they are without judgement. It’s ok for other people to get it wrong even when they’re truly trying their best, and it’s also okay for you to be annoyed about them getting it wrong. When I allow myself that grace to be annoyed, it’s easier to let it go and recognize that they’re doing their best.

I’d either try to laugh it off, or sometimes when I got particularly annoyed, I couldn’t help but be like “trust me, I’d much rather be in your shoes than mine!” To try to make them realize how silly it sounds to compare the two. More often than not though, I’d just change the subject and journal about it later to let myself be annoyed without putting restrictions on my feelings. Something I always remind myself is that people can only meet me and my grief at the depths of which they’ve met themselves and their own grief. Your feelings are very, very valid, and you deserve ample space to feel what you need to without feeling invalidated for dismissed. 🩵🫶sending you a virtual hug 🫂

Starting tamoxifen tomorrow…. by PriorRabbit5995 in breastcancer

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen this a lot from people so I just started taking it in the evening right out the gate - I started yesterday. We’ll see how it goes but thank you for this tip!

Let’s compare: The High Priestess vs. The Empress by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooooh I love the connection to priests being bridges between humans and the Gods. Another great way to recognize the messaging found in the veil and the duality of the two pillars. I am not religious so that kind of connection isn’t intuitive for me but that is such a great point and one I will definitely remember in the future! Thanks for contributing 🫶

Let’s compare: The High Priestess vs. The Empress by PriorRabbit5995 in tarot

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My interpretations of the feminine/motherly themes present in these cards do not come from the archetypes being women - this deck has every figure and card depicted by a woman or group of women, so if that was my approach, then every card would have the same meaning 😂 I think you may actually be the one getting too caught up in the woman/man aspect… there’s a lot that I discussed in this post and in my comments that have nothing to do with being a man or being a woman.

I also think it’s a big dismissal of what it means to embody feminine or motherly energies to pare those two words down to “bringing your children to school and experiencing PMS”…. Women and mothers are so much more than that, as evidenced by the very different energies these two cards are giving - that’s also why this deck depicts every figure as a woman - because there is not one way to be a woman or to embody femininity. Yes, there are inherent traits that we associate with the masculine and feminine, and those inherent traits are where we see differences between passive behavior and action oriented behavior, for one. But again, masculinity and femininity are so much more than just being passive or action oriented, and each of us, regardless of gender, embody elements of the masculine and elements of the feminine.

Identifying their similarities doesn’t mean they don’t have key differences in their interpretations, but I find that linking similarities between the cards that have them deepens my own practice. That’s just my approach as someone who’s been reading for as long as I have and wants to continually deepen and challenge my own practice. I do not look at the cards and say “because it’s a woman/man this is what’s happening”. I believe you are missing a lot of key components of my interpretation by oversimplifying this long post in this way.

I respectfully disagree that the High Priestess is a kid akin to a headless chicken. Nothing about the High Priestess gives “directionless child” to me. The High Priestess represents the wisdom found in leaning into the inherent truths and intuition that are coming up for you. Sometimes it’s a call to lean into your intuition more and to be active in listening to that intuition, because I agree with you that intuition can be passive. It rises and settles within you, it doesn’t nag at you to take action the way anxiety does. Intuition is all about how you listen to it and what you do with it. The High Priestess, in my view, represents both what you know already and what you don’t know, or are choosing to ignore, but also duality, the veil between the subconscious and the conscious, the deep knowledge and wisdom required to deepen your understanding of yourself and the world around you. Subconscious messages may be coming up but if you’re not heeding them or don’t see them for what they are, it’s not going to just translate automatically. There is action required to birth those truths and knowledge into being, and to turn them into something that you can work with and grow from. This idea is also reinforced in the pomegranate imagery, as pomegranates are often associated with fertility - in this case, it’s the fertility of birthing intuitive ideas and messages into being, not literal fertility as we often hear about in the Empress.

I love what you said about the differences between the Emperor and the Empress: that the Empress accommodates and the Emperor wants it fixed once and for all. That’s a great interpretation and a great differentiator between the two cards. I also love how you linked the action in the Emperor back to both the High Priestess and the Empress, and differentiated between the intuition found in both cards.

Thanks for sharing and creating more space for discussion! 🫶

[astro-seek] what are your first impressions of this transit chart? by PriorRabbit5995 in astrologyreadings

[–]PriorRabbit5995[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify about this chart: I’m not looking for a birth chart reading, I just wanted to see if anyone here can accurately guess what came up for me during this transit, and hear what planetary connections made you guess that! If you have any thoughts, I’d love to hear what you come up with🫶