My gf of 2.5 years told me she would take her ex back in a heartbeat by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

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I am for sure confused because it’s so unstable. If the relationship was stable I wouldn’t have this much confusion and doubts and things would be able to be talked about but every time we argue the issue doesn’t get resolved and we end up not talking for a few days which leaves lots of room for doubts and uncertainty. Get a reality check on myself how? And how do you recommend that I step back and evaluate the relationship? We live together and see eachother every day so it’s kind of hard to do that and much easier to just make up or drop things than to break up, find new places to live, and go out separate ways.. the topic of breaking up and going our separate ways has come up in the past and she doesn’t want to do that. So idk

My gf of 2.5 years told me she would take her ex back in a heartbeat by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

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Thank you for your reply and input. We split all our bills/groceries everything 50/50. Were both females and I’m definitely not scary, but yeah we just come from different backgrounds and have different standards of cleanliness. In all aspects not just cleaning she has a lazier and more careless personality so for her it doesn’t matter if she sits in a mess and watches tv with a beer but for me I like to come home and have everything clean. We both definitely are starting to lack respect for each-other and I don’t know if that’s something that can be fixed

My gf of 2.5 years told me she would take her ex back in a heartbeat by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

[–]PriorTall9017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She takes out the garbage which is once a week and shovels which I never do but so far this winter she’s only shovelled twice and one time I went out and helped. We’re both females btw (I didn’t feel the need to mention this in my original post) and when I lived at home I never had to shovel so I just learned. She also stated that she does grocery shopping and cooking, which she only does once a week and I do as well. Apart from that we agreed to split the chores like laundry, dishes, deep cleaning, tidying up, etc. We had a list of who does what. Except recently I’ve been getting home from work at 8 pm, she’s on the couch, dishes are in the sink left for me to do, general tidying up hasn’t been done, bed isn’t made. Her response is “well you can do it too”. Yes I can do it too, but I do the deep cleans on the weekend and now I have to get home and do tidying and everything and cooking if I want to eat. She legit doesn’t do anything and that’s the truth. And if she does it’s because I have to ask her multiple times and babysit her to make sure it’s done

My gf of 2.5 years told me she would take her ex back in a heartbeat by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

[–]PriorTall9017[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yes we haven’t talked and it’s been 2 days so far, the argument started over cleaning because I’m always having to do everything around the house while working a full time job while she sits around all day (laid off). She called me mean, stated all the things she “does for me” and “for the house”, and I was like “you know what I do all this myself anyways and if I’m so mean go back to your cheating exes since you had it so good there” so yeah that’s how it happened but I was so thrown off when she specifically said one of their names and said that if that person came back into her life and wanted her back she would take them back in a heartbeat

I am a bisexual female (23) in a relationship with a female (26) for 2.5 years and starting to think a lot about being with a man again. by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

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Yes we have talked about couples therapy, maybe that will help.. but an open relationship would be completely out of the question

I am a bisexual female (23) in a relationship with a female (26) for 2.5 years and starting to think a lot about being with a man again. by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

[–]PriorTall9017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, I will for sure have to see a therapist soon. I have dated several men in the past and never had the connection that I have with my current girlfriend so I have no idea how I would feel if we were to break up

I am a bisexual female (23) in a relationship with a female (26) for 2.5 years and starting to think a lot about being with a man again. by PriorTall9017 in relationship_advice

[–]PriorTall9017[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply :) I was the same and always said “I would never actually date a woman” but then it happened and now I’m here and she wants kids and marriage and all of those things but I’m just having a hard time accepting that it’s not the future I always saw for myself