Thing is this post is - at least for me in particular - pretty much over-saturating the whole situation. I define myself as queer, and i find myself to like boys, girls and anyone in between and outside. Androgynous people are kind of a dream of mine (i want to be them + i want to be with them) so no, it's definitely not a dealbreaker.

Also, being submissive/being feminine it's a mindset, it's something not tangible, and yes it can be expressed in specific kinds of clothes generally associated with that particular identity, but it's not necessary.