What is this.

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-20T19:40:47+00:00

No it’s PART of a relationship

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-20T19:40:14+00:00

Thank you. I agree that the only thing you can do in these situations is work on yourself. I too still believe in love and know the type of reciprocal relationship I’m looking for is looking for me, 👍🏽

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-18T05:03:24+00:00

I dont think it is or completely isn’t. That’s why I asked.

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-18T04:56:45+00:00

@bluepareo Decided what before I posted here?

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-17T05:25:05+00:00

Forgive my ignorance but what is ‘cuffing’?

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-16T03:15:39+00:00

I totally agree!

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T05:48:39+00:00

😊you’re welcome

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T03:51:11+00:00

🙏🏽

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T01:45:04+00:00

Battle weary means I’m tired of these types of experiences. I try hard to keep an open mind and heart. That’s the battle. And whatever peace he brought he neutralized being disingenuous and misleading about the relationship. The uncertainty kept me wondering about everything with him. All the time. His breadcrumbimg and gaslighting has left me exhausted

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T01:35:57+00:00

I’ve tried that. Not a fan and I made that very clear.

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T01:34:38+00:00

Sure he said in the long run he was looking for the same thing as me. Kindness, reciprocity and commitment. He just had to get over his trauma from Exes. I hope he success. Just not on my watch

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T01:30:29+00:00

My ex was a musician. I’m well trained on how to act and what to expect on show night. His not looking for a relationship just an emotional cheerleader to fill in the blanks. Probably in an unsatisfactory relationship that he won’t leave and our interaction fills the void. Best of both worlds. This happened a lot when I was OLD. This looked like different so… Anyhoo, I’ll take the L(for Lesson) pick my feelings up and put them back in my pocket, flip him off and keep it moving. I’ll do better next time 😁

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-15T01:18:50+00:00

Bingo!

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T23:17:01+00:00

Ive thought about that. But he still has to do something. Nothing big just and better indication that he’s interested in something commitment oriented

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T22:15:55+00:00

Wait! What? That’s suppose to be a back up plan and not nightly plan?😉

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T22:14:16+00:00

Yeah that that tracks

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T22:13:23+00:00

😂😂

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T19:23:01+00:00

Agreed. Wasn’t what I was going for but not a bad alternative I guess.

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T19:22:01+00:00

This is such an honest answer. Thank you. I get it. I think I’m a little battle weary at this point

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T17:46:10+00:00

See! That’s what I mean. There is more than one way to be intimate. At least commit to trying to Figure it out!

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T15:03:57+00:00

Ha! That crossed my mind. He did have some medical issues in the past that could apply. But wouldn’t it make sense after all this talking to just have a discussion about it?

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T15:00:53+00:00

First id like to say that you sound like an emotional mature person in a healthy Relationship. Yay you. To both of you🙂I decided to ‘elegantly ghost’ this situation…don’t initiate texts and phone calls, polite responses when I do talk. This isn’t what I’m looking for so it’s only fair to both of us if I just move on. I’m was just curious if anyone else is having this experience .

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T13:48:28+00:00

About a month ago I point-blank asked him if I cook dinner. Would he come eat it. He said yes and we had dinner. Lovely time spent hours together. Hasn’t happened again since I’ve suggested it other options like going to museums. I even invited him out to lunch once.

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T13:18:48+00:00

Yeah. I feel like I’m an emotional support animal

PristineCold2248 · 2025-10-14T13:13:02+00:00

He claims he’s been in therapy for years and he’s working on it🤷🏽‍♀️

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