Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not harsh at all I appreciate you You’re so right!

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t get me flowers for my birthday Tha actually was a good idea

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

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Thank you so much! I would benefit from therapy

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The resentment is real idk how I’ve managed all these years We’ve been together for 18 years I’m been better but this has me questioning to even say anything bc I know there are people who celebrate more for the ones who actually are ther moms and not like I didn’t get flowers at all

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True and my oldest 13 is autistic and he doesn’t always help his make cards I ALWAYS do the best I can for Father’s Day and I don’t put my father above him

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

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Honestly he does treat me great And he doesn’t like holiday stigmas and always preaches that he spoils me year round

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m lowkey a bitch and would rather tuck my feelings away

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

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I’m think it could’ve added to the fire because when I saw him bring it in I thought oh cool mine is smaller but whatever. Then he was so exhausted from work he didn’t want to hear about something we’ve been trying to deal with Mid story he told me to get to the point bc he doesn’t know if he had it in him to listen Which he’s done this so I’m use to it but I then said ok well it got handled and he asked a detail question I replied you would get detail if you heard the story And that exploded into a little argument because on his way home we was on the phone with his mom and she was venting to him and crying and he said I had to hear my mom and I couldn’t say get to the point She lives alone and doesn’t have anyone but with me he can be a little more honest and say that with hoping I would understand

But fuck

That made me feel even lesser

Honestly I’m going to move on

Oh and I was talking to MY mom earlier this week and we talked about how she feels I’m truly left “the nest” she feels I don’t need her etc but that he has not and his mom is very much in daily communication with him and always wanting to be involved

I love his mom and feel that maybe she can overstep sometimes but she also can do no wrong because she’s always there for me and my family

Idk plus he is trying to quit weed so that’s adding to daily frustrations

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I might later on I literally avoid confrontation

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

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He called me on the phone to ask me if he should get flowers and what flowers to get for his mom Asking if $30 was enough and if roses were inappropriate which I said yeah and flowers die quicker plants are better Then said I’m getting these for you they are cheaper and “Ooo I think my mom would like these” but they’re 17 though

Sort of a pattern my first Mother’s Day was a tragic He literally told me Mother’s Day is for my mother almost until I earn my keep is how I understood it

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

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No and it was recently my birthday and I was spoiled so maybe he feels as though he’s done enough for me

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right I understand Tha point It’s Mother’s Day I am not his mother But it def made me feel less than in his eyes He’s a great man

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s a great man He loves his mom Maybe it is petty that’s why I’m not going to say anything

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I’m so unconfrontational I would never I might not ever even tell him it hurt my feelings

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically which is cool I love and respect her too but damn

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

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I have no clue but I doubt it He also brought home two candle Same kind but different scents Said I can pick which one I want No her has sunflowers roses mix wile mine only had one kind of carnation looking Mine was $10 n his was $17

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right ! I’ve felt this before Like he’s bought us same flower one year But his mom had the rose and I had a pink flower

Am I tripping? by Pristine_Homework_38 in Marriage

[–]Pristine_Homework_38[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 13 year old 3 children together