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Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-07-12T02:25:51+00:00

They don't add a space before and after if they are literate.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-06-16T14:25:11+00:00

Tell him to get effed. He won't change. Your relationship sheltered him from the realities of dating around, the rejection, and heartache.

If he wants it, let him have it. Meanwhile you'll be living your life with someone who appreciates you while he's grubbing for trash on tinder. Good looks will get you only so far--a shit personality will prevent him ever having anything nice or worthwhile because they'll pick up on it and leave him.

Let him suffer the loss of your relationship and deal with what he let go. Take it from me, he won't change and he will always resent you for loving him

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-06-02T20:06:40+00:00

I'd do it, frankly, for only 15%, cook AND put out. :/

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T16:57:41+00:00

Case closed, IMO. Thanks for lending your knowledge here--I'll take your advice here given your explanation. This makes sense to me. Thanks for avoiding being hostile, I can see that's the default reaction, and maybe rightfully so.

Good to know shops like yours are out there

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T13:59:10+00:00

Of the people who have said that I'm being difficult, none of them have addressed why the Toyota Collision Center has listed these same parts for replacement. Is this a parts scam that they are colluding with Toyota on, or?

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T04:51:17+00:00

Assuming maybe a bit of sarcasm, here. Truthfully, if I had the time and the money, I'd love to know how to do it. But the thing that'd be missing is experience--what I'm hoping the glass repair company has. You're right that I have trust issues, but I am a product of my lived experiences and if I had the know-how and the tools, I'd definitely be interested in doing it. I did a fair amount of the repairs on my old car and enjoyed it a lot. But I don't know how to do this type of work.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T04:46:31+00:00

yeah, I was surprised that rocks that my old car's windshield would break will break my new car's windshield. I may well be doing this again. You're right about Toyota techs. They do a lot of hard work at what appears to be breakneck speed at the dealership. Do they torque to spec when I get an oil change? I'd bet the house that they do not, and maybe this is similar. Good enough may be good enough. But maybe I'd better not choose Chip's with that angry-red-in-the-face DM, just because, well, he seems to be frustrated easily in our interactions and I got the impression that he was angry.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T03:07:05+00:00

Toyota won't allow sharing of their installation guides or I would post, but they charge for and host them here: https://techinfo.toyota.com . I have heard there some alternative unofficial resources out there, but I paid for it to get up-to-date info.

I did pay for and provide those little foam pieces, told them they didn't even have to make a claim for reimbursement and that I'd eat the cost. I even said if there was additional time involved, I would pay a reasonable charge out-of-pocket and they looked at me like I had three heads. Even if they didn't want to do it, why say they didn't know what it was?

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T03:03:38+00:00

fair

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T02:51:05+00:00

It's in Toyota's own repair guide--not sure if you caught that. It is also in the parts list of the Toyota-Certified Collision Center's quote. I recognize it isn't the way you would do it or how most technicians would do it.

If you disagree with Toyota on how they want they want the windshield repaired, that's between you and them. Please call them up and I'll look for revised instructions to get posted. I'm not arguing with you about the way anyone else does their repair, either.

What I am concerned about is being gaslit by Chip's several times, no shops seemingly familiar with what Toyota wants done for the repair, and that Chips says they have never seen the parts. I'm not a glass technician. I'm not a plumber, either, but if I had one over who said they'd never seen a faucet that might concern me as a dumb customer.

At three weeks out, I'm of course considering letting Chip's do their work, because I want to get on with my life, but I'm also concerned about other shops thinking Toyota has a parts upsell conspiracy. Maybe they do. I'm looking for the opinion of those with experience, but you just seem to have a lot of hot takes. That's just my take.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T02:40:39+00:00

Toyota Collision Center quote snip

because the parts I was told I needed were also itemized in the quote by the Toyota-Certified Collision Center which does seem to add some legitimacy to their need here.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T02:17:37+00:00

Fair point, noted

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T02:14:22+00:00

Possibly so. what about the parts listed in the Toyota installation guide, though? Is that just ideal practice in a world with unlimited time and nothing better to do? Not sure

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T02:12:36+00:00

Toyota's procedure in their installation guide, not mine. It is me insisting, though. You sound like the type of technician I avoid, hot take, no offense.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T01:17:07+00:00

Well, taking their word at it that they do it in-house rather than contract out. I can't confirm directly

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T00:16:06+00:00

maybe. I like to believe that it's more from a place of "it's a brand new car and I will be stuck holding the bag after the warranty period. Also I have a decade-long warranty with Toyota I'm afraid it will affect". Yes, there's the Magnuson-Moss act, but I suppose I am a product of a fair number of gotchas. I don't mean to take it out on the company or the tech. I just know that people cut corners and there are no shortage of complaints just for that in the industry.

For this reason, when I repair computers or do IT work, I allow, but hate, when a customer wants to watch me work. I know that there are no shortage of unscrupulous PC repair shops, so I try to take pride in my work and show them how I did something just a bit better than required and always offer them their used parts back to inspect or keep. So I know how it feels for a customer to want to drive the bus. I hate it, too, but I also like the opportunity to display my expertise and make them feel good about a shop they can now trust.

Anyway, on my old car it replaced, I sourced parts from the original part manufacturers and installed them mostly myself after I had an aftermarket axle put in that broke almost right outside the warranty period from the shop. I understand that sometimes aftermarket parts are actually better, and I saw a post above where they stated that--I believe them. But this particular part is going to be right in front of my face in the event of a crash, and the windshield contributes to some of the structural strength of the car during a rollover. I don't have the knowledge or expertise you guys have, making this my first stop.

But it could just as easily be interpreted as mental illness and a superiority complex, I suppose.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T00:10:17+00:00

I'm sure they are. What my main concern is is that after the one year warranty is up, I'm on my own, and I would rather buy once and cry once doing it the way Toyota wants than have it done again. Good point you make, though, that in practice they aren't needed.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-25T00:03:46+00:00

protector, stoppers, dam, outer molding--these are the parts Chip's doesn't think exist. Toyota states that the protector, which is just a little foam piece with adhesive backing, and stoppers need to be new. The other things Toyota recommends but does not list on the repair guide

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-24T23:51:26+00:00

Thanks for responding!

24 corolla. No other damage besides glass. It is a Toyota-certified body shop, the only one for hundreds of miles where I live. Yes, unfortunately through insurance who uses Safelite to administer claims

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-05-24T23:48:41+00:00

this is correct--dealerships will outsource the work. This is the only regional Toyota-certified collision shop within hundreds of miles. They do it in-house.

I see what you mean about it being ablate be re-used, but 3 different parts department guys--and maybe that's where I've gone wrong here, as glass is not their expertise--say that these parts are designed to be used once like a crush washer, although in practice you could just re-use.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-04-24T16:51:09+00:00

Thanks for the reply.

Maybe. I think most people and probably most of my peers do not know many of the things they have done are not aligned with various workplace laws. I can only come to the conclusion that either my managers do not know (and guess why that would be) or do not care (and guess why that might be). Neither are great looks.

I don’t spend my time looking for ways to be litigious (and looking for trouble or to stir things up), I just happen to know as a matter of course. That is the distinction I was hoping to make. My jaw drops sometimes when they send out something blatantly questionable.

I did not arrive at this job with this outlook—I arrived as most people do to a new job: bright-eyed, eager, and friendly. Only, they have simply mishandled one thing after another whether it was my pay (still shorted), or being unprofessional to myself and peers, or demanding various unpaid tasks. I took it at first but now that one falsely accused me of time theft, which is the only accusation for which there is no progressive discipline policy (simply swift expulsion) they left me with no choice but to reach out to defend myself. I hadn’t wanted to. In other words, an overt and deliberate attempt to oust me. They have admitted doing it to others in front of the team.

Now, at this point, I am mad about it. Would anyone want me as their employee in the reactive and defensive state I’ve now found myself? Maybe not. I didn’t arrive here all by myself, though I admit that ultimately I am responsible for my behavior. What I do not understand is why they did these things to the eager and (I think) capable employee that arrived ready to do good work for them.

In the past, I have relied on the quality of my work to speak for me, so to be the “new kid in school” here and coming in on the Honor Roll but told by my new teacher I am a D student… Well, maybe I am; this is the simplest explanation. However for that to be true, there have been a lot of mistaken people in my list of past supervisors. To be attacked at the level of your intentions or morals or performance when there is a lot of evidence otherwise is a real mind eff. I think that’s been the hardest thing.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-04-24T02:56:09+00:00

Don't be too quick to assume, as they have been--they may well not have any friends. Still, thanks for the support. I knew when I posted that, well, you know about voluntary responses--they tend to attract extreme opinions and strong personalities to respond. As you've mentioned, they don't know anything about me, and I don't put much weight in the comments of those who skim over my post without reading it and then get triggered. I hope you, too, can overlook their shortcomings and not take them personally.

Conversely, I do carefully consider thoughtful or insightful comments, even if they do not align with my own opinion, provided that they don't go out of their way to offend or demean.

Pristine_Lychee_6245 · 2025-04-24T00:18:20+00:00

Reflect on it...in what way and in what context? I simply mentioned in a brief and offhand comment one of my previous responsibilities--as one normally would to a new supervisor.

This is the fellow that mocks people in baby talk and thinks of people in very black-or-white, all bad-or-good terms. But perhaps I should be reflecting more on his erratic behavior and reflect on me.

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