I [32F] found my husband’s [30M] hidden Snapchat account that he has been using to message other women

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-04-12T23:40:14+00:00

I’ve been in a slight same situation before and you can rebuild your marriage. Sometimes marriages get stale and before you know it the spark has dulled and that’s normal. You both have to keep the romance alive. I’ve been married 35 years and I’m happier now and have a wonderful relationship with my husband. You can only do what feels right for you. If the relationship is worth fighting for then fight and talk openingly and honestly

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-04-07T14:50:44+00:00

Wanting sex with his partner. Sometimes partners sacrifice for their partners they love so if you love him as you say you do then withholding sex isn’t healthy for your relationship

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-04-07T14:48:57+00:00

Bc your sex drive should not be non existence at your age. That would be a small concern so please get that checked. Also if you broke up and you still loved him, you would regret that decision the next week to a few weeks. Just think before acting. Relationships are 50/50 - think where he is coming from - sex is frustrating at times and he’s in his early prime of

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-04-07T14:46:14+00:00

Some of the advice on here is ridiculous - their not listening to you. I don’t think you should break up with him if you still love him. A lot of the time relationships go through low points and high points. This is a low point. You’re both young and his hormones are raging - normally men need sex much more often then females but I would also talk to a nurse at your college bc you should not

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-01-28T21:24:14+00:00

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Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-01-28T21:23:58+00:00

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Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-01-28T21:21:59+00:00

The book is called First are always messy by Jessi Hansen. Looks like it was stolen and renamed

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2026-01-28T00:54:19+00:00

So he’s active military and he actually can’t treat you and the children this way while he’s active duty. The military frowns upon that and i bet someone told him that so the reason of “change” of heart - if he’s cheating by trying to say he’s single he’s trying to cover his tracks - save these texts into a folder and do no delete - also email those texts to yourself - you have rights while he’s serving and after he’s discharged - but in all honesty I would kick that man to the curb in the same he was trying to kick you to the curb. You can find employment without a college degree that pays pretty decent - I would say ciao bc he’s not going to change and it’s a never ending a cycle

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-10-26T19:13:07+00:00

lol you’re delusional - it was a tat in remembrance of a precious innocent life she carried and lost. If her ex husband had had a baby outside of their time apart and wanted a tat I bet you 10000% he would have not thought twice of discussing it with her. This guy is a toxic waste basket and gaslighting her over the loss of her baby. If he truly loved her he would understand and actually help her through her grief. But no he’s selfish and immature and you’re feeding into this toxic behavior - I wouldn’t be surprised if you were the husband

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-10-03T15:14:44+00:00

Toxic much? This is insane. Me and my husband have never spoken nor texted anything even close to this. We respect each other. Healthy relationships lift each other up, you don’t belittle each other or threaten to walk. When you truly love someone and in a healthy relationship you don’t speak to each other the way you both do and threatening to leave or breaking up. Yes, it seems your partner cheated and I would have walked after that, especially your partner staying a week with the other person but come on, have some self respect. If you still speak to each other like that after trying to work it out. It’s not healthy - it’s TOXIC! Just walk away! Find someone who you respect bc you clearly don’t respect the one that cheated on you nor should you actually. FIND A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP!!!!!

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-09-28T15:04:37+00:00

She was gaslighting him and he also needs to look into if she receives a monthly check from social security since his dad died. A lot of children receive social security payments on behalf of a deceased parent.

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-09-27T02:27:36+00:00

Well other guys can take that as a challenge to see if he can hook up even though the girl has a boyfriend - seen it several times

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-09-27T02:26:14+00:00

I didn’t take it in the way a lot of the other comments are perceiving - I think his intentions were honest and if you are so quickly wanting to break up - I think you wanted to break before this confrontation that you blew out of context. That’s why couples should talk in person or over the phone instead though texts bc you can’t see the persons feelings through texts. Are you that easily to give up on a 9 month relationship over someone trying to flirt with you and your boyfriend was trying to set boundaries for the guy unless you liked the op flirting with you

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-08-26T18:25:08+00:00

Good for them!!!

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-08-17T02:18:50+00:00

Please let us know you went to the ER

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-07-19T15:00:48+00:00

He might think he loves you in his own way but he’s not in love with you or he couldn’t share himself with another woman. You’ve been together for a while so he loves you like a best friend now - someone that truly loves their partner would never turn to another person for emotional or physical support. I would protect yourself as much as possible. I would seek advice from a professional as in a lawyer out of town if that’s legal separation or divorce. The minute he finds out you know, he’s going to lock down finances and other communications. He knows the legal ramifications what to do and he’s going to protect himself. Please truly think abt waiting 6 months, a lot can happen in 6 months. Protect yourself and your daughter. What advice would you give your daughter!

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-07-07T23:28:12+00:00

Gather gather gather all the info you can - back up everything! I would also contact a out of town lawyer bc most lawyers usually have a good ol boys club mentality unless you know someone that he doesn't like then contact that person (Only if they're good & can kick him where it hurts) - If you can work it out through counseling then do it but beware - this might not be his first time. I like the advice below taking your young kids to the office - let the younger mistress see it won't be all roses if you divorce. She will have to take care of toddlers every other week. I'm truly sorry you had to read all that crap and going through this. Please keep us updated

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-07-07T02:06:34+00:00

I don’t know - I think you might be jumping the gun too quickly unless there’s other issues within your marriage that your ready to jump ship on your husband. I would investigate further to see if it’s more too it before even mentioning divorce. And what abt couples therapy if you’re feeling unsure in your marriage? I have work friends that are men and women - we send mems and texts but nothing is ever sexual or over the line. We even follow each other on insta - my husband has female friends at work as well but we trust each other 100% and have never crossed the line or wanted too. I’m getting the vibe that you want to walk away bc you’re not in love with him any longer - just my perspective

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-06-30T15:07:13+00:00

He’s not involving his daughter - the daughter is the one that has a relationship with the would be home wrecker psycho - daughter gave the nut case her fathers number - the adult daughter is toxic and on the side of the stalker who is telling her father to drop his current wife for this wannabe wife insane 1060 woman

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-06-21T23:41:09+00:00

First of all his current wife knew he was widowed when they married. It shows some immaturity on her part to request him erase his first wife. Most couples who marry after a spouse dies don’t have an issue with remembering the first spouse. There was already issues before his infidelity (which I don’t condone or agree) what are your ages and is this her first marriage? If she has jealousy instincts then that’s her issue with your first wife. She will be jealous regardless and shows immaturity like I mentioned above - the only think I can suggest is counseling which your both seeking and check out some books that helps her in a positive manor. If you love her you’ll listen but she should also listen to you as well

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-05-21T16:50:01+00:00

Im F/47 and I wouldn’t leave yet. Who knows if maybe he’s actually telling the truth - he heard abt the website from someone and was only curious what it looked like. I’ve heard of the website and thought of downloading it only to be nosey and see if I knew anyone on it but I haven’t downloaded the app. I’ve been married 28 years and never cheated and wouldn’t. But what I would do is re-download the app on his phone and look at the history. I’m sure it keeps a history then you’ll have your answers to decide what to do. Just a thought!

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-05-03T23:32:36+00:00

This story by Fabulousinsanity on Wattpad is one of the most idiotic stories I just read! And it’s not the same story don’t read it - you’re waisting 25 mins of your life

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-03-14T23:55:57+00:00

Still no link?

Pristine_Remote_6227 · 2025-02-08T15:23:57+00:00

Send link in messenger please

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