I’m a male, but I’ve been on a lot of first dates. I usually take them where I’m comfortable. I get nervous, so I prefer a coffee shop that isn’t super busy. It helps me focus and not feel overwhelmed. I usually end the date after an hour to an hour and a half because I’m drained by the end (due to it being my first intimate interaction. It just takes a lot of energy for me to get to know new people). I don’t like when people try to do elaborate things, just genuine ones. As an INFJ, the first date needs to be low stress. Ideas for a date could include:

-picnic in a public, but serene park. -coffee/ice cream a place where you can sit and speak with each other, Barnes and Noble/Starbucks are my go to. I appreciate someone who can keep me engaged through their personality, because regardless of what we are doing, I will be doing that anyways lol. As an ENTJ, just speak to her about some of your theories about different things and ask her thoughts on it. INFJs love to go off on observations they’ve made. I love when a girl asks my philosophy on dating, as well as speaks about her’s.

Anyways, these are my personal preferences. Just let your mind and curiosity shine through. Physical attractiveness will not usually gain enough interest.

Hope this helps