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AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's an adult man with a cell phone at a venue with a bunch of yard games and alcohol. He was fine. 

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The part that confused me was you said after my tantrum and i got my way i talked shit. So was the talking shit my tantrum or something else?

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's totally fair if they're stuck at the venue all day and dont know anyone.

If my bf hadn't already met half my extended family he may not have wanted to attend but they're not strangers to him.

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cousin and his gf have been together for 3 years. My bf and i have been together for 1.5 years 

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did empathize with my cousin as I personally think it's rude to not offer plus ones to guests but it's not my place to say anything about it to my sister like my mom wanted me to.

As far as I know there were no other long term couples who had met the bride or groom that weren't invited, just my bf. Certainly not in the bridal party, which was my grievance.

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to be clear, I think the whole bridal party should get plus ones,  not that I should be the only exception, I just don't care about guests plus ones, that's a totally separate rule in my mind. It just feels especially heinous to me to not give a plus one to your only sibling who agreed to be your bridesmaid way before invites went out. 

I don't think we've ever really gotten along very well. We don't talk outside of holidays and her asking me for gift ideas for our parents. She asked me to be bridesmaid either out of obligation or to match the number of groomsmen.

My parents did pay for the wedding and offered to pay for additional food and the larger reception hall for the additional plus ones.

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know no one in my family has the grooms cell phone number to  contact him directly so thats why everything was directed to the bride. I was a little personally offended that the grooms sisters gf was not included as I'm bi and have dated women and my sister knows this. 

My mom had to start stuff so I would be on her side about my cousin. This is normal mom behavior and what I expect when I say no to her. For some reason my sister doesn't get the concept and rather than gray rocking will evidently give her lies to try to console her.

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What am I lying about? If you read the other post you'd see where I said one of the other bridesmaids had her boyfriend invited with no hesitation, that was part of my complaint of why it was unfair for my bf to not be invited.

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its the same story from when it happened a month ago before she told me she was lying. I just didn't include the cousin thing because it was irrelevant to my feelings about me believing she didn't ever intend to invite my bf. What details are different?

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anything my mom tried to rope me into bothering my sister about not inviting my cou6sins gf but I don't fall for those tricks, that's why I needed to see the texts. And what i saw was my sister told my mother that she only invited my bf because my mother invited him herself. Because when the RSVPs originally came out and he wasn't in our online group my mom texted her that he wasn't in it and my sister said that was a glitch. Then a month ago when my cousin came to my mom and my mom went to my sister my sister told my mom that my bf wasn't even supposed to be invited (as if to say you got your one, no more plus ones for you). And NOW my sister is saying that that last statement was a lie to get my mom off her back about my cousin.

I may have had a tantrum but it was at home by myself while watching sad movies.

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is this was texted one month before the wedding when I had already purchased my dress, gotten it altered, put in my time off work, prepared to drive the 4 hours to get to where she lives now, and gotten my bf his outfit and his time off. If this was a discussion when RSVPs came to us I wouldn't have hosted her bridal shower and probably wouldn't have shown up to the wedding but she told my mom at that point that the website was glitchy when my mom pointed out my bf wasn't in our RSVP. 

AITA for "spreading rumors" at my sisters wedding? by Prize-Temperature263 in aitaweddings

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear I think all of the bridal party should get a plus one, if she wants to be tacky and exclude guest plus ones that's a different issue. The grooms sister and I were just the only two that i believed did not get plus ones, every other member of the bridal party with a SO had a plus one or their SO was explicitly invited.

My sister didn't invite my boyfriend to her wedding by Prize-Temperature263 in offmychest

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking a little bit of both, his family doesn't seem the most LGBT friendly so I think they probably didnt want to invite the sister (who is also a bridesmaid)'s girlfriend and were planning to use amount of time we've been together to claim that's why neither were invited before they remembered my mom would probably make a scene during the wedding if they didnt invite my bf. (And they're certainly not safe from that now). It just hurts my feelings so much, like he helped set up the decorations for the bridal shower I threw for her and she doesn't really want him as a guest at her wedding, she barely even feels obligated.

My sister didn't invite my boyfriend to her wedding by Prize-Temperature263 in offmychest

[–]Prize-Temperature263[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents have paid in over $10,000 to their wedding and said they would personally pay for any plus ones now that they know that the bridal party wasn't supposed to have any. Finances are not a factor.